I find I'm very good at opening and getting numbers etc but I'm not so good at developing a day 2. I seem to generate rapport, build interest but I'm not quite sure where I'm going wrong. Perhaps I'm not being direct enough on approaches, or not developing enough interest from the start. Or maybe it's the fact that I don't go any further with the text. What I often do is I'll start texting a girl, I'll get some laughs and some interest, but as soon as I don't get a reply back I drop the whole thing and never pursue that girl any further. My thinking being that if she was interested she'd reply and if I send her another message without her reply, it becomes too needy. I wonder if I'm being a bit over the top with that though? I wonder if there's been some opportunities I've missed because I don't bother to text her again at some point later down the line. Here's an example of a text situation I had, there have been numerous others. I met this Romanian girl doing some daygame. I kept the interaction fairly indirect but it was still a good interaction with a level of kino and genuine laughter. She gave me her facebook details with the potential of meeting up sometime during Christmas. I requested her as a friend and she added me. I then sent her this message;
Hey missy, how's it going? How do you say, 'I need ten chocolate biscuits immediately!...' In Romanian??
To which she replied
Heey, it's all good. How are you? 'Am nevoie imediata de 10 biscuiti de ciocolata!' lol
My second message could have been a lot better and perhaps more direct. Looking back on it I think I would have done better to have then said something like, "That's awesome, you need to teach me more Romanian. We must meet up again so you can teach me more. How are you for next weekend?" Or something like that. However, what I actually said to her was
Lol! That's awesome, though I'm not sure quite how to pronounce that. You'll have to teach me that one. Do you think it's better to demand biscuits or cake? I'm trying to decide which is better... x
Of course I never got a reply to that and as a result I do not intend to message her again. I'd really like your thoughts on general text game and developing day 2s after a good first meeting as it does seem to be a big sticking point for me. Do I bother messaging them again at some point if I get no reply? Or do I just except it as a flake and keep playing the numbers game by approaching more women and getting more numbers and fbs etc until I come good?
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