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| Author: | AR31186 [ Sun Sep 24, 2017 8:41 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Why am I still having approach anxiety? |
I am a 31 year old, fit, good looking male. But for some reason, I still can't approach women. Two months ago, I was pulling it off, daring myself to talk to her, doing whatever. I am aware I can hold their attention, but I am not exactly in a lower class here. I feel like if I just said hello to a girl, she would respond and would be receptive. My issue is I don't know what mental block is there. I know i've been seeing a girl for a little over two months. It started getting more serious. My problem is I want to make sure my game isn't rusty. I haven't read any PUA stuff or memorized much, or been reading NLP/AoS. Nothing like that. But I simply cannot seem to get this block out of my mind. I can't figure out how to deal with it, as I don't want my game to get rusty, I want to be over this anxiety and be able to talk to anyone, etc. Am I overthinking this and is anyone else out there that can relate? |
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| Author: | Mago812 [ Sun Sep 24, 2017 8:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Why am I still having approach anxiety? |
Definitely overthinking it. Truth is, AA will most likely always be there, you'll just learn to deal with it. |
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| Author: | Crow55 [ Mon Sep 25, 2017 12:53 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Why am I still having approach anxiety? |
I recently watched a video by Mel Robbins where she raised some interesting points. She did a book as well but this is what I got from the video: You will always have doubts about doing things outside your comfort zone. Some things may always be outside your comfort zone. If you overthink it, rather than just doing it anyway then your brain will always convince you not to do it. Makes sense really. Its funny how a lot of people, including me are not even scared of rejection and yet often convince ourselfs not to talk to girls for silly reasons. What is interesting is that Mel Robbins's book is called 'The 5 Second Rule" and I'm pretty sure I read the 3 second rule in The Game (was it Mystery that said it?) which is pretty much the exact same idea. |
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| Author: | oceanx [ Sun Oct 01, 2017 3:32 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Why am I still having approach anxiety? |
Quote: If you overthink it, rather than just doing it anyway then your brain will always convince you not to do it.
Brilliant point.It's that fucking evolution or whatever one wants to call it. Something is coded in there that makes it hard to approach the first woman of the day, each day, every day. Many times. You just have to over-ride it. You just do it. No other way around it. |
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| Author: | chi31fan35 [ Mon Oct 02, 2017 12:39 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Why am I still having approach anxiety? |
Primordial fear her boyfriend is going to smash your skull in with a rock. Talk to everybody to desensitize. A simple hi to every stranger should make a huge difference, getting that friend rather than foe response. Are you cold approaching people only when you go out to game? |
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| Author: | chi31fan35 [ Mon Oct 02, 2017 12:39 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Why am I still having approach anxiety? |
Primordial fear her boyfriend is going to smash your skull in with a rock. Talk to everybody to desensitize. A simple hi to every stranger should make a huge difference, getting that friend rather than foe response. Are you cold approaching people only when you go out to game? |
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| Author: | chi31fan35 [ Mon Oct 02, 2017 12:39 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Why am I still having approach anxiety? |
Primordial fear her boyfriend is going to smash your skull in with a rock. Talk to everybody to desensitize. A simple hi to every stranger should make a huge difference, getting that friend rather than foe response. Are you cold approaching people only when you go out to game? |
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| Author: | chi31fan35 [ Mon Oct 02, 2017 12:39 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Why am I still having approach anxiety? |
Primordial fear her boyfriend is going to smash your skull in with a rock. Talk to everybody to desensitize. A simple hi to every stranger should make a huge difference, getting that friend rather than foe response. Are you cold approaching people only when you go out to game? |
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| Author: | Black Phantom [ Thu Nov 16, 2017 6:09 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Why am I still having approach anxiety? |
This: GUIDE TO OVERCOMING THE FEAR OF YOUR FIRST APPROACH approaching-and-opening/complete-and-ul ... 99834.html |
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