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Fattie
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 Posted: Mon Nov 02, 2009 4:43 am Post subject: What should I have done? |
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So a couple of months ago, I had to run to the grocery store really quickly to pick up a couple of things. I parked my car and headed towards the store, I passed this parked van and i noticed there were a couple chicks sitting in it (i can't say if they were hot or not, i didn't get a very good look because it was pretty dark, this was probably around 10:30pm btw). Anyways, after i was like 15 feet away one of them rolled down her window and yelled "Your hot!". I continued to walk towards the store but i sort of looked over my shoulder and smiled. I guess when she noticed that i wasn't going to run back to her she yelled "No, come back". Thats when i turned around, smiled again and walked backwards into the store. I was hoping that since i was only going to be 5 minutes in there, that they would still be outside...but they weren't.
I'm pretty new to the whole picking up strangers thing, I've always been the guy that ends up dating friends, and obviously that has't worked out very well. So, I could use any advice that you guys have. Hopefully I'll get another shot at something like this situation.
Thanks,
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Astute
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| Posted: Mon Nov 02, 2009 5:40 am Post subject: |
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Definently should have approacheded after the second 'your hot'. Not sure what to do from there  |
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Hitman47
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| Posted: Mon Nov 02, 2009 6:14 am Post subject: |
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Well hope at least it gave u some boost of confidence.
I think u have a long way in front of u, though the sooner u realize that anything comes with work and practice the sooner ull be better with chicks
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Fattie
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| Posted: Mon Nov 02, 2009 7:43 am Post subject: |
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| i agree that i have a lot of work to do, but it wasn't that i was too shy to go up to them or anything. it was more like, i didn't want to go to them because they called me over. know what i mena? i'm not a dog that has to come to his master when being called. am i wrong thinking this way? |
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Astute
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| Posted: Mon Nov 02, 2009 9:15 am Post subject: |
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| MMm i can see your dilema, i guess it goes on what THEY looked like, perhaps you could've turn it into a neg ( not sure how ) when you went over there, but in the end the girls probably saw your non approach as lack of confidence, maybe you should have yelled at them to wait 5 minutes while you get the grocery building anticipation. |
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Fattie
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:49 am Post subject: |
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| Astute wrote: | | MMm i can see your dilema, i guess it goes on what THEY looked like, perhaps you could've turn it into a neg ( not sure how ) when you went over there, but in the end the girls probably saw your non approach as lack of confidence, maybe you should have yelled at them to wait 5 minutes while you get the grocery building anticipation. |
your right, they probably did see it as a weakness that i didnt go over. but would submitting to their call been seen as weaker? looking back on it now after reading some other inofrmation and ideas, i think i should have told them to wait the 5 minutes like you suggested, or even told them to come to me if they wanted to talk. do you think that would have worked??? |
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Hitman47
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 6:56 am Post subject: |
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| Fattie wrote: | | i agree that i have a lot of work to do, but it wasn't that i was too shy to go up to them or anything. it was more like, i didn't want to go to them because they called me over. know what i mena? i'm not a dog that has to come to his master when being called. am i wrong thinking this way? |
Listen ur thinking about '1' situation u had in 3 months? Like really? And ur coming here asking about this 1 specific situation, and what do you expect for an answer really? Does it even matter? Does it really matter what we think in this forum. We're humans like u. And whatever we say wont change crap.
Jst go out there and practice, and be who u wanna be, all u need is 1 book(say Magic Bullets) and urself.
And dont overthink about what u 'did' or should do. Never! Jst try ur best out there and eventually ull get better. Jst dont get stuck into 'never ending brain masturbating loops'. U will hardly ever profit of them.
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Herne
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 7:04 am Post subject: |
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| heres what u can do--learn from it for the next similar scenaro--and there will be one--once its layed its played--that scenario is over it will never occur again--next time when it happens have your lines ready and go over to them--most problems involve worrying about the past or fretting about the future--live in the Now |
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Fattie
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 7:08 am Post subject: |
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| Hitman47 wrote: |
Listen ur thinking about '1' situation u had in 3 months? Like really? And ur coming here asking about this 1 specific situation, and what do you expect for an answer really? Does it even matter? Does it really matter what we think in this forum. We're humans like u. And whatever we say wont change crap.
Jst go out there and practice, and be who u wanna be, all u need is 1 book(say Magic Bullets) and urself.
And dont overthink about what u 'did' or should do. Never! Jst try ur best out there and eventually ull get better. Jst dont get stuck into 'never ending brain masturbating loops'. U will hardly ever profit of them.
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Yes i am asking advice on one situation that i had months ago, isn't that the whole point of this forum? to ask other guys advice/tips/opinions on stuff? its not like im caught up on what i did/didn't do. i wanted to know if anyone else had a similar situation and what they did and how it worked out for them. i dont mind learning from my mistakes, but learning from other people's mistakes/successes is just as helpful. and what is this one book your talking about? are you saying i should do whatever this book says and i'll be more successful? because im not that naive |
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Hitman47
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 6:03 pm Post subject: |
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| Fattie wrote: | | Yes i am asking advice on one situation that i had months ago, isn't that the whole point of this forum? to ask other guys advice/tips/opinions on stuff? its not like im caught up on what i did/didn't do. i wanted to know if anyone else had a similar situation and what they did and how it worked out for them. i dont mind learning from my mistakes, but learning from other people's mistakes/successes is just as helpful. and what is this one book your talking about? are you saying i should do whatever this book says and i'll be more successful? because im not that naive |
The point of this forum is raising your game. So try to think about ur game in general rather than 'that specific situation'. When u've done 30 approaches and you've noticed something specific goes wrong in most of them, try to analyze it. But doing jst 1 approach, really it could have been a million things.
They were drunk, they were hookers, they were lesbians, they were jst kidding, they thought ur ugly but said ur hot, they had something to do so they didnt wait, u didnt project alphaness, u seemed a douche, ur body posture was wrong, u seemed shy, etc etc etc etc (and the list could go to infinity)
U get my point now? Try to get to know ur problems first and then solve them.
Hope I helped
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Fattie
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| Hitman47 wrote: |
The point of this forum is raising your game. So try to think about ur game in general rather than 'that specific situation'. When u've done 30 approaches and you've noticed something specific goes wrong in most of them, try to analyze it. But doing jst 1 approach, really it could have been a million things.
They were drunk, they were hookers, they were lesbians, they were jst kidding, they thought ur ugly but said ur hot, they had something to do so they didnt wait, u didnt project alphaness, u seemed a douche, ur body posture was wrong, u seemed shy, etc etc etc etc (and the list could go to infinity)
U get my point now? Try to get to know ur problems first and then solve them.
Hope I helped
- Hitman |
Maybe i wasn't clear when i started this thread or in any of my other posts in it. I want to know what i should have done. The way i see it now looking back on the situation, i had four options.
1) I could have completely ignored them
2) I could have tried to play it cool and acknowledge them but without doing anything proactive
3) I could have tried playing it cool but say something like "Wait, I'll only be a couple minutes." or "Come here if you want to talk to me".
4) I could have went up to them after they yelled the second time
Obviously option 1 would have been stupid and got me nowhere. At the time I chose option 2 and hoped that it would have worked out for me, but it didnt. And that's fine, I'll know better for next time. That means that next time I'll have to chose between option 3 and 4. I want to know which one you guys think would work better. I know that this exact scenario will never happen again, but a similar situation could present itself.
It happens often enough that girls yell things like "Your hot" or "My friend thinks your sexy" to me, so I'm fairly certain these girls weren't kidding, and I'm pretty sure they weren't drunk or hookers either Hitman. I think I played the whole situation pretty well up to the point i walked into the store. And like i said, I want other peoples perspectives on what I could have done at this point/what i should do the next time a girl says something like "No, come back" |
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| "Meet me halfway." Completely neutral, plus you get to interact. |
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Astute
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| Posted: Wed Nov 04, 2009 8:53 pm Post subject: |
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| Hitmans right... that is all. |
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