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Vic Vega
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 Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 11:13 pm Post subject: what is the easiest way to build comfort? |
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when it comes right down to it, what is a simple and easy thing to do to build comfort?
this is something i feel i have a lot of trouble in
thanks |
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c00ked
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Having common interests would probably be considered a comfort builder; liking the same bands/music as an example.
Also, sharing a few (maybe not too many, and definately not early on!) of your vulnerabilities to a girl has the same effect. But I stress that you should definately not do this too early or it'd prolly come across as a DLV.
Hope I've helped somewhat. |
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BetaMale
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This has recently been a bit of a sticking point for me as well.
Building attraction is MUCH different than building comfort.
In fact, in many ways, they are opposite.
I have been doing some reading lately and Style reccomends that you share commonalities in terms of values and interests.
Another method is to "bounce" to another location-therefore making memories together.
Also be sure to make her laugh all the time! |
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Vic Vega
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| Posted: Wed Jun 11, 2008 2:31 am Post subject: |
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o ok, hey thanks much
see i unknowingly do stuff like that all the time and really dont realize thats comfort building, i'll be sure to do it more often
thanks again |
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Thatbamaguy
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Once attraction is in full swing I usally throw the " so Beauty is an all to common thing these days, besides that...tell me three interesting things about your self"
HB: Blah blah blah how about you?
I then reply with 3 absurd ones....
Climbed Mt Everest...twice
The dahli Lama is my cousin
And I discovered atlantis.
but being serious... ( this shows the swing from CF to actually opening up)
I tell her I play guitar and write songs
I absolutly love good conversation
and...this doesn't leave the table, but I'm really in to chick flicks....but you can't tell anyone or I'll deny it. I'm not giving my man card up like that.
So I showed some connection, with her, but still kept it fun and interesting.
Happy hunting
~Bama! |
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| just for the joke of it and the 1st think i fort when i saw the title...be an AFC |
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Orann
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 2:24 am Post subject: Re: what is the easiest way to build comfort? |
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| Vic Vega wrote: | when it comes right down to it, what is a simple and easy thing to do to build comfort?
this is something i feel i have a lot of trouble in
thanks |
In my opinion, the best comfort technique ever devised is Time Distortion. Basically, go out to the town or wherever with her and continually bounce. Go somewhere, hang out for a few minutes (15 minutes is good). Show her something cool, do something at least vagueley memorable and then move on. The Idea is that when she looks back at the day, every main spike of interest or attraction occurs at a different place.
When you look at the memories you have with someone you know really well, you'll see lots of different locations. Even if you know someone for longer, but have only ever seen them in one place, you wont feel as connected to them. It's an odd little aspect of the way comfort works.
Anyway, the plan is to basically spike her interest once or twice at every place you go. Make it 4 or 5 bounces, at least once of those locations being somewhere romantic/connecting (I.e; siting under a tree next to each other in a park with no-one around, emotive talk etc.) |
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PLAYBOY IS A PARTYBOY
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 3:47 am Post subject: WHAT 2 DO FOR THE GIRL 2 FEEL MORE COMFORTABLE WITH U |
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| just talk dont make her think your boreing. GIRLS dont like boreing guys. just tell her a few jokes. get her number and dont mess up your game and sweet talk her.[size=24][/size][color=darkblue][/color] |
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i only got one leg
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 4:12 am Post subject: |
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yea go up too the girl say fuck me if i am wrong but have we meet befor
when she says no we havent just say ok lets fuck it will make her langht and you could get a fuck  |
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| yeah.. that wont work lol. |
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I've been building comfort with this chick now for a while. We've chilled in a group, not out "together" but I constantly make her laugh and after the most recent night she told me to call her and gave me her #.
Anyways, I was doing well exchanging messages and whatnot, when I made a comment regarding something that happened when we were out and about how she was bad luck. I said was going to hold off on calling her until she straightens her "issues" out. Later that day her friend commit suicide and the next time I messaged her online she gave a quick response and signed off.
Suggestions? |
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brookes12
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id say Kino is a good way of building comfort, its worked for me, when a girls is being touched by you she will feel more comfortable and safe.
we all remember when we were little we wud scrape our knees, cry to our mom and she wud hug us better, that kino from the hug makes you feel more comfortable |
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Comfort is a lot easier than attraction. How do you build ATTRACTION??
How do you take a dynamic that is comfortable and friendly (with some light kino) and inject sexual tension into it? |
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alaskanthunderfuck420
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| i only got one leg wrote: | yea go up too the girl say fuck me if i am wrong but have we meet befor
when she says no we havent just say ok lets fuck it will make her langht and you could get a fuck |
haha you're in the wrong forum buddy. will never ever work....unless shes s hoe. |
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alaskanthunderfuck420
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| i only got one leg wrote: | yea go up too the girl say fuck me if i am wrong but have we meet befor
when she says no we havent just say ok lets fuck it will make her langht and you could get a fuck |
haha you're in the wrong forum buddy. will never ever work....unless shes s hoe. |
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