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Drez
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 Posted: Sat Sep 08, 2007 1:36 pm Post subject: What do You think of this? Can you Relate? |
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This is my usual opener with a girl
"How u doin?"
but i say it az if i know her.
but usually before i do that i get like a speaking block. Its not that im nervous, cuz i know that these girl like me, cuz they always stare an smile, but before i make my move im always thinking to myself what do i say after i ask/say my opener. and then i just give up and say next time because i think to long.
im not nervous, i just cant think OF HOW TO THE CONTINUE the convo and that prevents me from approaching and begin talking.
What do u guys think? |
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jbs10
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It baffles me how you spell 'as' with a z and the fact that you can't put together a few extra letters to spell 'because' or 'you'.
This entire forum is pretty poor with grammar; what's the deal? |
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Drez
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| Posted: Sat Sep 08, 2007 2:11 pm Post subject: |
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| lol, i jus like spellin it that way, jus like i jus spelled "just" and "spelling", |
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BlackBull
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Dats,like,ub3r l33t shit man!total pwnage lololzzz
J/k bro,but to answer your question,usually,say anything that comes to mind.
Just like it's your job to start a convo,it is the woman's job to continue it,unless she gives you one-word answers at least 5x in a row,in which she just might not be interested.
Look for things she says,and make sure that you bring up interesting convo,as it will give her an opportunity to talk about it more. |
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Paetar
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Do you ever heard of the "hooks theory"? Style made it, says that everything woman says is possible to interpret as a "hook on a string" and pull it anytime you want by talking about it.
Sth like:
PUA: "Hey how are you"
HB: "Great!"
PUA: "So where are you headed?" -> her going somewhere = hook
HB: "On my way to pet shop." -> a big hook here
PUA: "Pet shop? You work in there?" -> she says yes, you have million of things to talk about with her. (your pet, things for your pet, which animals make best pets, etc etc etc.).
OR!: PUA: "Oh, you have a pet! That's great! What is it?" -> shitload of hooks to continue. Remember, you can always go back to previous topics.
And so on. Anything she says, does, looks, etc. are good topics for convo.
Carpe Diem. |
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Drez
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| Posted: Sat Sep 08, 2007 10:57 pm Post subject: |
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| respect for the help. ill let ye no how it goes |
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xxIcexx
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keep asking questions based from her answers, and eventually switch it up and throw in some negs so you dont get boring...then throw in some "made up" stories if you dont have good ones
remember, "its not lying, its flirting" |
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Dirk Debonaire
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| Posted: Sun Sep 09, 2007 12:40 am Post subject: Re: What do You think of this? Can you Relate? |
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| Drez wrote: | This is my usual opener with a girl
"How u doin?"
but i say it az if i know her.
but usually before i do that i get like a speaking block. Its not that im nervous, cuz i know that these girl like me, cuz they always stare an smile, but before i make my move im always thinking to myself what do i say after i ask/say my opener. and then i just give up and say next time because i think to long.
im not nervous, i just cant think OF HOW TO THE CONTINUE the convo and that prevents me from approaching and begin talking.
What do u guys think? |
Screw how you are going to continue the conversation. You are just using that as an excuse not to approach. Approach anyway, and even if you do freeze after saying "How u doin?" it's no big deal. At least you approached. And once you get approaching down pat THEN you can concentrate more on how to keep a covo flowing. One step at a time is my motto.
For me, I'm having quite a hard time approaching ladies. But once I start doing it consistently I won't give a flying fuck if approaching is all I can do for a good while. At least I will be approaching and getting my foot into the door so to speak. And I think things will start to get easier for me once I get over this initial hump. And that's what this stuff is, a series of humps. Get over one (e.g. approaching), slam into another (e.g. keep a conversation flowing). Get over that one slam into yet another (e.g. number closing) etc., etc. Rarely will a PUA get over all obstacles in one go. And it's not about getting over all obstacles in one go. It's about perfecting getting over each and every one to increase your chances of picking up to phenominal levels. We're effectively throwing luck out the window, and relying completely on skill.  |
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