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TheMadHatter
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 Posted: Fri Jan 18, 2008 6:20 pm Post subject: Weird LJBF. wtf? |
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What are the best ways to avoid LJBF ? I've been gaming this girl for a while now, DHVd, creating the attraction, being non-needy, applied a "sexual predators" philosophy for drawing her in; kino + building of sexual tension followed. My game was pretty good till know, but it was a bit dilluted (over a week or so) and y'know what she said to me ? That I'm a great friend (cuz we talked about shit) and she doesn't wanna lose that to "some thing she could have anytime" (meaning a boyfriend). But she's not made her mind up, she just warned me she can be a real bitch sometimes.
I realised I am good with the first part of the game, but now I'm not that in control anymore.
What to do ? 
Any advice is appreciated. |
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saqchek
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| Posted: Fri Jan 18, 2008 7:20 pm Post subject: Re: Weird LJBF. wtf? |
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| TheMadHatter wrote: | What are the best ways to avoid LJBF ? I've been gaming this girl for a while now, DHVd, creating the attraction, being non-needy, applied a "sexual predators" philosophy for drawing her in; kino + building of sexual tension followed. My game was pretty good till know, but it was a bit dilluted (over a week or so) and y'know what she said to me ? That I'm a great friend (cuz we talked about shit) and she doesn't wanna lose that to "some thing she could have anytime" (meaning a boyfriend). But she's not made her mind up, she just warned me she can be a real bitch sometimes.
I realised I am good with the first part of the game, but now I'm not that in control anymore.
What to do ?
Any advice is appreciated. |
For a while? What's a while? You should have already escalated to kissing by now and moved into seduction. (or more comfort if need be) |
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TheMadHatter
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| Posted: Fri Jan 18, 2008 8:00 pm Post subject: Re: Weird LJBF. wtf? |
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| saqchek wrote: | | TheMadHatter wrote: | What are the best ways to avoid LJBF ? I've been gaming this girl for a while now, DHVd, creating the attraction, being non-needy, applied a "sexual predators" philosophy for drawing her in; kino + building of sexual tension followed. My game was pretty good till know, but it was a bit dilluted (over a week or so) and y'know what she said to me ? That I'm a great friend (cuz we talked about shit) and she doesn't wanna lose that to "some thing she could have anytime" (meaning a boyfriend). But she's not made her mind up, she just warned me she can be a real bitch sometimes.
I realised I am good with the first part of the game, but now I'm not that in control anymore.
What to do ?
Any advice is appreciated. |
For a while? What's a while? You should have already escalated to kissing by now and moved into seduction. (or more comfort if need be) |
A while is around a week. It's specified in the post.
What's the easiest way to escalate ? I wanna start easy and then improve, gain complexity. |
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saqchek
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| Posted: Fri Jan 18, 2008 8:10 pm Post subject: Re: Weird LJBF. wtf? |
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| TheMadHatter wrote: | | saqchek wrote: | | TheMadHatter wrote: | What are the best ways to avoid LJBF ? I've been gaming this girl for a while now, DHVd, creating the attraction, being non-needy, applied a "sexual predators" philosophy for drawing her in; kino + building of sexual tension followed. My game was pretty good till know, but it was a bit dilluted (over a week or so) and y'know what she said to me ? That I'm a great friend (cuz we talked about shit) and she doesn't wanna lose that to "some thing she could have anytime" (meaning a boyfriend). But she's not made her mind up, she just warned me she can be a real bitch sometimes.
I realised I am good with the first part of the game, but now I'm not that in control anymore.
What to do ?
Any advice is appreciated. |
For a while? What's a while? You should have already escalated to kissing by now and moved into seduction. (or more comfort if need be) |
A while is around a week. It's specified in the post.
What's the easiest way to escalate ? I wanna start easy and then improve, gain complexity. |
You can do a number of things? This is what I did on my last day 2. We were in comfort stage and I had the Truth game going (it's basically questions game), and one of my question was..... "Do you want to kiss me right now?".....She blushed and starting giggling like a school girl....she said well yeah, but I was going to save that later on for the night (still blushing).......and I just took control and said "ill fix that". She told me after I kissed her........"You are good. Very good"........she meant that in terms of smoothness.
You can do Mystery's approach or you can simply wing it. |
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TheMadHatter
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Check THIS out. She txts me this :
Dammit, boy. I like playing these games with you... [she's talking about our sweet flirting games]. But I don't think we should ... I am not shy, not even by a mile, but I don't want you to get this wrong. It would ruin our relationship [she is reffering to the fact that being together would ruin it]. I am not sure I want more than a special friend ...
I answered :
Why are we talking about this, why are you thinking about it ? Let the chips fall where they may, don't impose limits; don't kill our games. Those are the most special ... precious.
Before you say my answer was AFCish (which probably was somehow), I must tell you we share a deep emmotional connection. That's why I told her "precious", I got attached to hear while gaming.
What say you ? |
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Heartbeat
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Next time she talks about friendship or your relationship, tell her you've got plenty of friends, and you aren't looking for another.
That makes your intentions very clear, stop being subtle. You missed the seduction boat, but it doesn't seem like it's too late if you're upfront. |
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TheMadHatter
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| Good idea. What do you mean by the seduction boat ? She's very attracted to me, she just has this weird resistance to it. |
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x3dxFox
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| Posted: Tue Jan 22, 2008 12:50 am Post subject: Re: Weird LJBF. wtf? |
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| TheMadHatter wrote: | | That I'm a great friend (cuz we talked about shit) and she doesn't wanna lose that to "some thing she could have anytime". |
as soon as she said that you should have
1.looked her in the eyes until she broke contact
2.guide her face back into yours and kiss her on the lips
3. say " now we cant be "just friends""
4. act like nothing important happened
this always works for me. |
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