We connected now she ignores me. Help?

Soma

Alright guys, here's some backround info on my situation:

I recently went to a concert with this girl who I discovered I'm just friends with, but we shamelessly flirt all the time and kino (but this is typical w/friends). Anyway, I have been texting her a lot lately and recently we made mad rapport through the sharing some long stories about how our summer's sucked and we totally connected on the fact that we are pessimistic, cynical people at heart who are really good at hiding it from people (cheery, ain't it? Laughing

) . Then on christmas night and we were texting, and I got on to the topic of how we need to hang out and party together (I was drunk, and I said this as a joke and she knew it was a joke b/c I know she doesn't like drinking and has never been drunk before) and she replied "Hang yes, drink no". I then brought up midnight bowling sometime next week and she was totally up for it. Then the next day I was just trying to keep our connection going since I won't see her for a week and a half (unless we go bowling or hang before then) and I sent her this text:

Soma: We're arguing and I need an outside opinion. Which movie is better, Superbad or Knocked Up?

My plan was to see if she has never seen any of these movies and say something like, "Wow I can't believe you haven't seen this movie. You have to come over and watch it right now or I will never be able to talk to you" or something along those lines. Well, she never responded which is totally weird because she always responds super quick within minutes. So a few hours later, I think three maybe four, I texted her this:

Soma: Wow, you're lucky my debating skills are awesome and I don't really need an outside opinion to win. But I forgive you...For now. So weather permitting we might go snowboarding tomorrow and you're coming. I won't take no for an answer.

Now she hasn't said anything since this, and its been two days now.

I know we're just friends and nothing is going to happen, but this is good practice, and I need to know if there are any glaring mistakes I may have made. I want to learn from this, and if there is anything I did that stands out, let me know ASAP. I can only think of maybe the wording of "We're arguing" which she might interpret as me and her. This is a huuuge stretch and all I can really derive at the moment. My guess is that either she lost her phone, didn't get the texts somehow, or is just plain ignoring me. Her ignoring me doesn't make sense because, well, we just totally connected.

I don't want to reestablish contact the wrong way and give her all of the power (my second text was an attempt to regain the upper hand with some C/F humor). I don't want to seem needy or like I'm desperately trying to hang out with her. I was thinking of asking her to come to the mall with me in a few days so she can help me pick out some new clothes with all of the gift cards/money I got for x-mas. What is the best way to do this and what do you guys think of this pickle? Is it even a pickle, lol? I appreciate anyone who actually read all of this and any input whatsoever is beneficial.

~Thanks in advance!

Soma · Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2007 4:58 pm Post subject:

Anything guys?

xxIcexx · Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2007 5:25 pm Post subject:

dont take this personally but as "just friends", i think you are coming off as too needy. Once you set up a date, send a few more and get it over with. Dont talk to her for a couple of days

AK47 · Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2007 5:37 pm Post subject:

did u hear from her yet? if not mayb somethin did happen and u could try to contact her by some other means... doesnt sound that even if u were just friends a girl would be ignoring u because of what u said, i dont think u said anythin bad. just try to take ur mind of her in the mean while

chio · Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2007 5:45 pm Post subject:

You definitely come across as too needy. Once you connected you became too clingy. Rather than easing off, which wouldn't work with you, she just cut you off completely.

Augustus · Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2007 6:45 pm Post subject:

Yes as others have stated Soma; you came off too needy. As well your frame of mind needs to change, you are saying you are stuck in LJBF but your continuing to sarge her? That attitude of locking yourself in LJBF is probably affecting your in field game.
~ Augustus

Soma · Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2007 7:09 pm Post subject:

Thanks for all of the input guys. I figured I came off as needy, which really isn't what I meant to do because we're just friends (I think, I can't figure her out at all) and I don't really need to talk to her all the time. She was the one who initiated the conversations for the past few days so this is the first time I did. She's not really disrupting my game, lol, she's just a good pivot. So what is my best course of action? Just not text her until she texts me again, or just to wait a few more days before trying to set up a meeting of some sort?

The Wild One · Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2007 7:44 pm Post subject:

Guys like soma inspire me to go out and sarge tonight. Man don't let it bother you about this man. Just learn from it and use the knowledge next time your out and run into similar situations.

Augustus · Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2007 8:03 pm Post subject:

To have the best success in meeting women, like Style said; You should have or at least appear to have better things to do then pickup women. As a rule when you get a number don't call it for 2-3 days, if you phone it right away it is a turn-off in most cases as it telegraphs way too much interest and you appear needy and that she is the only female option you have going for you.

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