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Some women put time limits on sex. It's just how it is. You have to be patient.
I will say that the work you need to put in at this point is not in trying to seduce back at your place. It needs to be done out on dates where you can escalate and build up sexual tension, where she knows she won't have to actually have sex. Call her on the phone and use those conversations to build rapport and trust and that will make it seem like she knows you better and will reduce the amount of time she'll make you wait.
A mistake a lot of guys make is forcing the seduction phase and plowing through the LMR, because even when they are successful and get laid, the girl feels guilty afterwards and its a one time deal because she's not receptive after that. If you just want a quick lay and move on to the next one that's fine. But all that work for a 60 minute fuck is not really worth it to me. I like banging the same chick repeatedly if I can, at least until you get tired of her.
True.
From my point of view, as you say that she really likes you, she is trying to avoid sex just for that reason, coz she likes you.
Women, in general, tend to show higher resistance to those men whom they really like and see as a possible long-term partner.
the reason is that she fears that you leave her after the sex (thats an ancestral mechanism, you can look it up on google).
That reason can also be combined with her shields, there are women who have them bigger than others, in that case you just have to be patient.
I would work on generating rapport, and I would not try to keep forcing the situation. Indeed, I would try to show her that I dont want her just to fuck (For instance: Ask her out to do an activity together. If you ever take her to your home or viceversa, dont try to fuck her, let her chase you/do the work. Indeed, try to generate more rapport in that situation. If she sees that you are not rushing and going straight for sex, that she's at your home and you're not trying to fuck her, she'll start to think that you want her beyond sex.)
You can also play hard to get. Tell her things like "I am bored of girls who only want to fuck" (That will completly change the situation, cause at the moment its she who is thinking it) (warning: say so in general, not referring to her. If she responds something like "Ooh I am not that kind of girl" it is very positive)...
In fact, If I were at my house with her, I would not try to make out, If she does, I would say:"You awake so much desire on me, but I feel like having a deep conversation now rather than fucking". If she sees that she can be at your home without you trying to rush or fuck her, she'll feel more safe and less slut.
And perhaps its even that date what ends up in sex haha.
I would also make her associate sex as something special and romantic.
Tell her things like "For me sex is an act of getting to know each other's souls deeply" "I only have sex if I feel confident enough with the person".....
(Ofc, never say that as though you were justifying yourself or talking her into. I mean, a good context to say that sort of things would be when both are talking about sex, then you start to tell what sex is for you (and thus that kind of things).)
Thats my point of view
Good luck and keep improving!