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A few days after meeting this HB9 for one long coffee date
Coffee dates are for friends.
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(on which she made it somewhat clear she is sexually open and looking for casual), we met up for a dinner and a movie at her house. We made out a couple of times, I tried to escalate to sex, she stopped me both times, I respond by keeping cool and returning to watching the movie. As things are heating up for the 3rd time, I assume we're going to have sex just like the other casual guy she said she was seeing and had slept with the previous week.
How did you get this information from her? If you asked if she was seeing anyone else, bad move. Very needy, very early on.
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She stops us from escalating again and says "We should slow down, I like you."
This is bullshit.
Translation: "you're being a bit too needy right now, or I don't think you're a good kisser. I don't want to be cold and kick you out, but I don't want to be physical either. I'm on the fence."
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1) I've never come across this line before. Sure, I've come across "This is too fast, we should slow down/This is crazy, we shouldn't." etc, but never "We should slow down, I like you." and was wondering if anyone could shed more light on it. Why do women want to slow things down with men they consider having a serious relationship with? Has anyone else had a similar experience, how did it turn out?
It's bullshit. She was down to fuck before you came over, thus the home invite.
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2) That was the last I saw of her, now she is away in France for the holidays for 3 weeks. What do I do to maintain/build attraction and comfort long distance? Do I need to during this 3 week period that she is away? What would be a good strategy?
Game other women, don't text her.
When she comes back, hit her up with this:
"Hey, I'm headed to Bar XXX at 10 pm to celebrate good news. You're welcome to join."
Then escalate and show strong leadership sexually. Women will often brush back men during the kiss who are not behaving in a dominant way (grabbing hair, the back of the neck ,showing passion, etc).
As men, we often project what we want to happen instead of looking at the reality. Always look at a woman's actions, not her words:
1. She invited you over to fuck.
2. She "tried you out" with a makeout session, then denied you.
3. She has not contacted you since.