Here is a short version of my story... Went out on a date with a girl who did not go out on a date in 2 years and with alot of hard work i got her to go out with me it took months to finally let her be open for one... And she really really wanted to go too got her exited and every thing and we went on a romantic date she loved it she loved everything about it bt she said there was no spark.... What does that even meen ?? What creates spark for a girl ?? Because she wanted to go out on a second one but later on she changed her mind because she did not want to hurt me but she sais i will stay open for you if something would change so i really need help on how toget her to go out again and how to crate the spark

YOU, create the "Spark"! By spark, she means "sexual anticipation".

Did you escalate, kiss, touch? say sexual things to her?

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

First of by traditional date you mean a night out on the town at expensive restaurant?

Heres and example of what i do.

Hey, Ms. Lauren! I oh my gosh im starving lets go. (put your hands on her back guide her through the door)

Say something like: I hope your special im missing my favorite TV show right now!
Her: what that?
Me: Pawn stars!
Her: Haha
Me: Have you ever ate here?
Her: No
Me: Oh my gosh this place is fabulous. The guys that started this restaurant came here from the interior of mexico. The washed dishes her in america for 15 years...and then they started their own restaurant. Its been really successful. There food is not greasy like traditional mexican food. You'll really like it!

From her on its all about building comfort. The most important thing about building comfort is that Emotions are contagious. If you convey comfort she will mirror it. order an appetizer and eat it as you normally would. (most nervous people lose there appitite) so force yourself to eat.

Banter with her, tease her, be playful, demonstrate value through stories, stir the conversational pot. Remember people feel comfortable around people they have known for a long time. Simulate that by talking as if you've know them for months. People who are comfortable with each other have short conversational threads and many going at the same time. jump around on different tangents, laughing and smiling. use body language that conveys comfort. Don't cross your arms in front of the table. Be animated and convey power and confidence by gesturing your hands with the thumbs up. (In a very natural way make sure its congruent to the conversation at hand) put you hand on her leg briefly when your making a point and then remove it. start escalating very slowly.

IF you do it all correct you should be able to invite her back to you house to play pool (Thats my tactic anyway)

A couple other tips:
Ive had really good results crossing my legs one over the other. Presidents and alpha males do this a lot. it conveys comfort and confidence. Its a very dominate gesture. (make sure you cross it to wear your crossing foot points at her) subconsciously
you removing a barrier.

Also people are comfortable are each other and have known each other for years will groom each other so if you see some lint on her shirt or a crumb on her mouth don't hesitate to get it yourself saying you have something on your shirt. ect...

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"If I tell you I'm good, you would probably think I'm boasting. If I tell you I'm no good, you know I'm lying."-Bruce Lee

It makes alot of sense because i never talked sexual with her but we did kiss but just a simple one and i did touch but not a lot the simple stuff like holding hands and stuff like that my arm was around her... Is it enough ? Or should there be more sexual anticipation ??

I did not take her to dinner but al that stuff that you said i did do she was really comfortable around me and stuff i took here on a pick nick actually to look at the sun set and that is what i find weird because i had all her trust ! And not in a friendzone kind of way because she says she wants us to work byt there is no spark i just dont feel it

Thats Ok you cannot be all things to all people! On to the next one!

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"If I tell you I'm good, you would probably think I'm boasting. If I tell you I'm no good, you know I'm lying."-Bruce Lee