There are certain drawbacks to routines. Like time constrained environments where you interact with people at cafe's and coffee shops you frequent in your normal daily routine.

Even if you have a dynamic routine where only have like one or two things you want to communicate. Where the words will just be structured naturally however you happen to put them together when your talking to the girl...

It's like today, coffee shop, talked through a third of the first part, coffee line had to move on, worked on my computer and chatted with some locals for a couple hours. Stopped by to talk on the way out and just continued on from the point left off.

That all went smooth, but I noticed a slight problem... More of a internal game issue.

When you have something you have in your head which you planned on communicating, it puts pressure on you. If time constraints prevent you from communicating all you wanted to, it generates frustration.


If you just go natural and talk about whatever comes to mind until interrupted or the line moves on, you don't have any frustration or the goal oriented pressure upon yourself.

Yep, routines suck.

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The whole routine thing throws me off. My normal conversations were not even going smoothly with guys or old people today.

Could have been a lack of sleep too...

Honestly, I have never done routines before. Even when I did RSD bootcamp years ago, no routines... Just pushed straight into sets. Sink or swim!

Never did routines on dates or anything in college. Nothing planned at all... I was always just confident I would do the right thing at the right time.


I think what I need is to just go back to normal, and increase intent... The only reason I was trying pre-writing routines was try to increase intensity.

I was thinking about it a bit more, and I realized the problem isn't routines.

It's that routines or things you do have to be spontaneous. You can't be thinking about them beforehand.

It's like when a girl is giving you a little LMR about getting her panties off, then *click*, you remember you can just push them to the side and get right in there. I did that with the first girl I slept with. She never believe I was a virgin when I told her later, and was always convinced otherwise.

It's a lot like martial arts. You have the training, but when it comes to the actual fight... You never know moves your going to do beforehand. They will come out in the moment!