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Personally, I'm just matter of fact about it. I just state our plans were for tonight. When she starts giving other times, I'll state that I understand but I made time for her tonight.
If you want to call her out for bad behavior, you can do that if you want but it's not what I would do. Again, it's my time and if I don't respect it why would she? There's no need to be domineering about it because this isn't about domination. The only real difference is just a modification between when you say "no worries, some other time!" is when she is negotiating time you're just repeating your original time.
You already said that you've defined the relationship, so she actually does know what she's missing out on and you are letting her know that she can get away with flaking.
That's what I was asking, just wanted to see your frame and reactions to flakes like that. Makes sense.
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This is the point I was trying to make to you the other day when you got upset. She is looking for one thing from you which is not what you want from her. You've already fucked her, so it's okay to let her know what to expect from you so that she's not throwing out "do boyfriend things with me", because she won't go anywhere. At the most she will try to change your mind, but that will be her decision.
Then you'll say "PUA types do this" or "PUA types do that", but how much better are you than the PUA types that you look down on if you are keeping her in the dark and making her try to figure out your intentions? Even worse, you will make her feel fucked over once she finally figures out that you are just keeping her around for sex knowing that she wants more.
Maybe and you have a good point here, but also consider how much you are able to know about someone in just a month. I come from the position of everything is earned with me. When we first start seeing each other or even fucking, I don't have an attachment to the relationship with any girl as she might in this case. Why would you? You hardly know each other after such time, I can't even consider a relationship. So I am not hiding my intentions of not wanting a relationship, but they are not there, yet.
I will keep the no communication and report back.
This is why you are coming across like a phony in so many people's eyes. You're whole premise is that you are defining a relationship. Here you're telling us that you aren't hiding any intentions because they are not there yet. But in your other post you say this about the same girl.
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This is important because I am not the guy she does errands with, rather I am the guy she comes over to see, we hook up, talk about cool stuff and then she goes. At this time, I don't really have time for the girlfriend thing nor want it. I am designing the relationship I want where we hang out once a week, it is just good times and then she is back a week later.
You clearly say that you don't want a girlfriend and you know the role that you want her to play in your life. You clearly know that she wants a boyfriend and is asking you to do things with her other than chat then fuck.
Your claim is that you are outcome independent, but it seems like you prefer to avoid the conversations that you think will cause her to leave. If you truly were outcome independent you'd be able to say this, "At this point in my life I don't have time for a relationship, but I do like what we have right now." Unless you lied to her earlier on by saying you were looking for a relationship, this girl won't leave. The bonus is that she will never question if you're playing her and if you guys ever stop seeing each other, the door is always open for her to come back because she knows what she gets from you.
CHAT
or we could hang out tomorrow if you don't have plans."
