Hello everyone!
26 yro looking to improve on my confidence and become better at cold approaches and just socializing in general. I'm an introvert but I'm motivated to change for the better.
Throughout college and high school I dated and had a few girlfriends. Things were so much easier then as you always had something in common and easy conversation starters like what your major was or asking about studying/homework. My last girlfriend I met right after college. Basically I would see her regularly at the dog park and eventually started talking.
Things lasted about 2 years and it's been about 6 months since I broke up with her. It was definitely hard to do knowing that I would be in the situation I am now but I knew in the long run things weren't working between us. I've taken this time to try to get my head straight and realized more than just meeting girls I need to improve on my social skills and confidence. I think looks wise I'm average. I understand that while I'm no Brad Pitt it doesn't mean I don't stand a chance with cute girls and I think my ex was a perfect example of that and I'm glad I dated her as it really kind of opened my eyes to the reality of that, as she was definitely out of my league.
She was the first and only girl I had cold approached out of college so really I never learned to pick up or approach girls and I'm pretty much a beginner. Now that I'm single again and out of college I've found it quite hard and nerve-racking being so far out of the game and not in school anymore. The workforce demographics in my field are primarily middle-aged males so I find it quite difficult to really relate and make new friends with people there. So really I am stuck with pushing myself to meet people outside of work. I still keep touch with friends from college but many of them are in the same boat, as we all work in the same field.
Growing up I've always had insecurities about my looks and to be honest there are still some that do remain. I was always the geeky nerd in school and I think I have for the most part sort of shaken that look/mentality but, at the age of 26 I feel this is something I need to squash for good. I also can't help but feel like this is the last bit holding me back from cold approaching girls again. It feels like I'm starting all over from scratch. It's like training for a marathon when you haven't run in two years.
I am open to meeting up others in the area. I currently live in the Los Angeles South Bay area but frequent Long Beach quite often. I know like with anything, the only way you become better at something is by trying to do it. I guess I came here with the hope of moral support and inspiration to push myself to do it, whether it be alone or meeting up with others. I am open to day game, not so much into picking up at bars/clubs. I do enjoy going to bars and clubs with friends but over the years and at this point in my life I've realized it's not the type of girl I want to date/meet.
So that's my story and I hope to potentially learn as much as I can here and gain the strength to change for the better.
CHAT