Hi PUA community , Sry for the english in advance it is not my first language.

I urgently need help with my girlfriend of 2 + years.

First off let me tell you a little bit of background info .
3.5 years ago I crashed really bad with cfs (chronic fatigue syndrome): unable to work physically in my business, major health issues etc .. Not a good place to be in.

I met this girl who I use to know from when I was young we were neigbours. We fell in love ...
Let me tell you that i naturally do alot of the PUA stuff because it works ; teasing being alpha etc.
She fell madly in love with me everything was going well except I was not recovering my health has fast has I should. I had many stressor with my business and familly so my health was pretty much up and down. I guess i took her for granted and started doing the opposite of what I did when we start dating. I became more needy ... I was complaining all the time etc.. At some point I was not even sure I would like to date her after I recover and had a talk with her about how when I heal I would not know what I would want from life and that I had unresolved issues with past relationship. She got really hurt and cried begged me not to leave her or throw her away.
I made a big mistake.
Ever since then things when up and down and she eventually told me that she felt really hurt by the fact that I was not sure if we would stay together and that she might not be able to stay with me . After that talk we got together again and everything was going better then ever. I was even thinking about proposing to her. Last weekend we got into a series of small arguments (over very minor and stupid stuff) and she left home to go to some familly member. She wrote me a big letter saying that she did not know what she wanted from life and felt that she could never satisfy me ... she felt burned out and confuse. Last night we met and talked about it and she asked for a break she started to cry telling me that she believes I should be alone to get my health back together and that we could be together after, that she needed time to think and clear her mind. I did not react really well telling her that I will have a hard time trusting her again with all this up and down ( 1 week before she was saying that she loved me and that we would always be together) . I was pretty harsh and tried not to be to emotional telling her she was having way too much up and down and that It will be hard for me to respect that.

Anyways now she is gone to her aunt, she left the appartement and told me I could keep all the furniture + the appartement since she owes me a bit of money...

I am pretty broken and I want her back but I am a bit confuse about the next step of action. The option of going out with friends and trying to pick up women is out of the equation since my health still does not allow me that + It is her I want. So I am left with 2 options.

Option A: Being independent, no text message or email and wait until she contact me then hopefully win her back

Option B: Actively trying to get her back : sending her a nice letter or something along those line. It worked in the past for me since I am the romantic and sensitive type of guy.

I am also wondering how I should act with her next time I see her should I open my hearth and tell her how I feel without being too beta or should I be more distant and keep a cool detatch attitude ??

I would greatly appreciate any imput from you guys . Thanks in advance !

Sounds like you fucked up.

LTRs aren't PUA bro.

Just grow a pair and give her an olive branch. It's what she's looking for. No need to go all needy and message her 24/7. Just call her up, ask to meet and tell her how you feel. Sometimes you have to apologise and you have to apologise for basically telling her that you're just using her until you get better. I don't know if I would go so far as to tell her that you were thinking of marriage but skirting the lines of where you thought things could go wouldn't be a bad idea.

She sounds into you but doesn't want to be taken for a chump which is something you've basically told her is what you're doing.

So I should initiate contact and instead of waiting on her to contact me it would not seem desperate ? . I was thinking of going to meet her up after her workday tomorrow.

The only thing that worries me is that she will sense that I am desperate and it will drive her further away. I already told her a while ago that I was sorry about what I said. The issue now is that she sees my health is still not were it should be + I have been really weak recently (jealous whinny complaning about my situation and her etc) I do not act that way usually and I think she got put off by all this and she is right ; she feels like I am not the man she fell in love with.

I screw up big time but dont know the best course of action to take..

Thx for answer

You are thinking too much about this cat and mouse game. You already have her man. Her interest is there. Just because you contacted her once doesn't mean you're needy. Besides, it's how you do it that makes it needy. Dropping one line and asking her to meet up then leaving it at that if she doesn't agree is completely fine. If you start messaging her 24/7, pouring your heart and soul out to her in every message then that's needy but one message or call isn't.

The other stuff doesn't matter. It's probably all just in your head but seeing as you've noticed it all you can do is stop it. Moaning sucks, it sucks for men and women. Stop that.

Well I think I got my answer ,
We talk on the phone for a couple of minutes. She told me this was in the back of her mind for a while and that she will not be coming back for now and that she needed time ... weeks maybe months to figure things out ... I feel I shouldnt not have called her ...
Fuck man that sucks ... lesson learn
Always stay a man and never take your love one for granted
Amen

From now on what should be the best course of action to follow ?
Should I cut all contact , change my facebook status ....

I am in a really badspot here especially after talking to her lat night , she was really rude and distant on the phone. I then texted her that I also needed time to think this trough since I cant be in a relationship with ups and down like that and that she was being very extreme in her reaction.

So now I will stop talking with her but I am wondering If I should change my facebook status to single to get her thinking about what she did...

I have never seen a relationship going from I love you and will always be with you 1 month ago LOL to I need a long break that quickly.

ANy advice ?

Act normal and unphased by it. She'll want a reaction out of you. If she sees it she'll get the validation she seeks.

Just be cool, calm and don't act like it's the end of the world. Let her come back to you. Keep her as a friend on FB, don't bother changing your relationship status right now. Wait a few days.

When she does contact me what would be the best way to deal . Act like nothing and meet up. Ask for a few more days cause I also need to think.

Break up with her by telling her that I will have a hard time trusting her in the future ?

whats my options here ?