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lennon
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 Posted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 1:23 pm Post subject: Trying to build attraction with HB9 but there is a twist |
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| Ok guys, here is my problem: Last summer, I met this HB9 and we immediately had a mutual physical attraction for each other. However, at the time, I was a total needy AFC and I'm sure it had everything to do with the fact she didn't last too long. So after I started getting into the PUA game and let months go by without contacting her, I Emailed her out of the blue (including a neg), maybe a month ago. She responded and I sent her another message after her first reply which was "OMG, I've been thinking a lot about you, how r u?" So I Emailed her back this time negging her HARD and I thought she was gonna kill herself! The twist is, she is a smoking HB, but she had to have her left leg amputated due to bone cancer and has a prostetic leg. You can't tell unless she shows you and most guys (like me) couldn't care less, but SHE is extremely self-conscious about it and has horrible self-esteem and depression. I didn't realize this though because when we were sort of dating before she showed no signs of that and was a real bitch when I got needy, thus the hard neg; but it took an apology and several really funny comments on myspace just to get her to talk to me again. How can I DHV and get her attracted to me again? I know it's easier to attract someone new than try to rekindle an old flame but I genuinely care for her and nothing ever felt so good as holding this girl in my arms. Are there ways to DHV and build attraction with someone like this? If so how? Thanks-Lennon |
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LiveForever
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| Just out of curiosity, what what the leg...uh i mean, neg? |
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lennon
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Lennon: What's up freak girl?
HB9:OMG, how are you, I've been thinking about you a lot!
Lennon:Yeah, I was out at the club with my click and this girl approached me. She turned out to be an amputee and I realized how long it has been since I though about you.
HB9: Oh, I see, I don't know what to say to that. |
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LiveForever
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Owwww dude, I thought my comment was kinda offensive maybe....but ur waay better than me at crossing the line 
Hmm Im no pua, im still learning + reading as mich as I can, but I'd say just talk about as mich fun stuff as possible, like u never said anything about the whole leg thing. Just be enthousiastic about the stuff u talk about, and it will spread to her.....i guess
Im curious how ull do, cus in my desperate AFC days i'd overneg all the time, and I still wanne know how to fix that. |
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Heartbeat
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| That's not a neg, that's just insulting. You don't need to DHV, you need to apologise. Even Alpha Males get it wrong sometimes. Don't dwell on it, or grovel, apologise and then go back to your original game plan. |
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gravesRR7
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you can say:
I see that i upset you. I didn't mean to cross the line, i just meant to find where it was. now that i know, it won't happen again |
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