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jmark
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 Posted: Sun Nov 11, 2007 11:16 pm Post subject: Trouble with Freeze Outs |
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| So, I'm having trouble with my freeze outs. She always initiates vague plans for us to get together and whenever I pursue them, she is either "busy" or just blows me off. Whenever this happens I hardcore freeze her out for a week and then she initiates again real friendly saying crap like "when are we going to hang out" and "lets hang out this weekend" so then I think I'm money and go to set something up and shes cold again. From observation shes a girl who really likes to lead around as many guys as possible. I've used jealousy on her flirting with her friend and it worked, but then fell back into the same old shit. The freeze outs aren't working properly. Suggestions on what to do or how to improve. |
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Aifia
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| Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2007 11:06 pm Post subject: |
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| make yourself less available. it seems you're trying to fit into her scedule when you should be having her fit into yours |
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jmark
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| Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 5:58 am Post subject: |
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| Thats kind of what I thought. I flipped it on her this weekend because she said she wanted to hang out and I went with it and then briefly brought it up before the weekend started but then blew her off. I think shes a little pissed off but she'll get over it when she sees me working other girls. |
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Satyr
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| Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 10:27 pm Post subject: |
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I used this in a text message one time when a hb wanted to reschedule a date:
I'm dissapointed you don't have time for me. I can't go next friday because i have to teach a girl rockclimbing and have salsa lessons afterward. X.
(which by the way was true)
her reaction:
O no, i'll be home at x o clock. You can come then. x.x.x.
a friend of mine used something like this in a message:
i don't like to be ignored. blablabla
it worked too |
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Ice-cold
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| Posted: Wed Nov 14, 2007 4:37 am Post subject: |
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Too me that sounds a bit needy, and feels like you giving control to here, "Dont ignore me!"
First get this in your head this girl is not the only one, you can live without her.
Anyway about your freeze out, you trying to get back at her cuz shes flaky with her plans doesnt seem mature. Make your self somewhat busy, call her and tell her what works for you and if she cant make it you wont get to see you...
Something along those lines, dont be too harsh, remember you must be willing to risk losing her before you can get her.
Also can you mention that you dont like flaky girls or people or are late the next time plans are mentioned. Keep in control and good luck. |
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Satyr
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| Posted: Wed Nov 14, 2007 5:14 pm Post subject: |
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| you're right. i should have mentioned she wasn't answering his calls. after a few months she tried to get in contact and then he used this line. so it wasn't needy at all |
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