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Entry1
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 Posted: Wed Aug 22, 2007 5:32 pm Post subject: To LTR or not to LTR? HELP! |
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Sargin's but fun BUT admittedly my success rate (success meaning dates) is quite poor (I've posted plenty on this subject). Im a fit and atttractive 42 yr old and my goal was to date with the intent of finding an attractive, wholesome, conservative asian woman who with qualities that I require for a serious ltr leading to marriage.
I have found a 6 ft very hot asian hb9 thats absolutely crazy about me even tho I've told her Im dating other women (which sadly, I havent been too succeesful at). She has several qualities that I want in an ltr and several that I dont.
Anyway, back to my QUESTION: Should i tell her some of things that I need from a partner in order for me to commit or should I just keep playing along, enjoying my time with her while I keep looking for other women to date and perhaps find a woman that naturally has more of the qualities I need to commit?
This is really a tough one for me... I'm interested in hearing feedback.
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ls_integra
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im new here, and young, but it may depend on the qualities she has, and the ones she is missing.
Also, its cool if shes fine with you dating other women while you date her, but that may mean she's gonna date other men. Dont rush into a full blown relationship, but you may want to take things a bit more serious, and also tell her what you look for in a FUTURE wife.
hope that helps, but i'd like to hear the qualities she has, and what your looking for. |
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Entry1
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Hey-thanks for the feedback. Good questions and good ideas.
She drinks like everyday- I dont. She's a bit insecure (so am I but she's worse). And, I never thought I'd say this... she likes sex too much!  I mean like everyday-maybe even a few times a day. I dont know, honmestly its hard to say whats wrong with her but I just get the general feeling that this isnt worth commiitting exclusively. And yes, she can date other guys and some times that gets to me.
Ive thought abuot telling her my thoughts but I feel its risky. She'll know I am considering her seriously and perhaps that will wussify me. I dont know stuff is making me think that perhaps Im thinging too much!  |
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ls_integra
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I dont think women can want sex too much. Your probably thinking because she likes it so much, she might be easy or likely to stray, but she wont, if she feels that you are a "prize"
Take charge sexually. First start by getting her to give you a good BJ or HJ, and dont return the favor or have sex. Then on a separate occasion, return the favor. Show her that you can dictate the pace for sex. Also, if everyday or more than once a day is too much, learn how to build the suspense, but make her wait for it. Any type of foolilng around or dirty talk whatever, and then that way she'll start to appreciate having sex less often, but that is much more suspenseful.
As for drinking, she may be an alcoholic, or it may just be a phase. Also, is she getting drunk everyday or just a drink or two? And how old is she? Depending on the event/situation you gotta respect that her drinking is her choice. You could always use it as a NEG though, just be careful. Maybe start drinking less, and tell her your trying to cut back to get in shape or something like that. You'll tie drinking too much to negativity and she may take the hint. |
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C-DUB
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It's really hard to change someone into what you want. They are just themselves, and probably will never change. Telling them what you are looking for is probably best, but it's hard to know if they will ever adapt to your ideals.
Keep looking, good luck!
(sorry if this post doesn't make sense) |
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BigB
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| Dankid knows all about the asian women |
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magicJ2007
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| Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2007 6:16 am Post subject: |
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Forget LTR.
Go for MLTR.
Magic J |
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