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cranberry sauce
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 Posted: Thu Apr 10, 2008 5:15 am Post subject: this sucks |
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well i hooked up with my buddy's ex girlfriend not too long ago. and shit, it was a good time, but now im shit on. yea, my entire circle of friends is lost and now i have no friends, and most importantly, no females in my life. (The girl i hooked up with ended up going back to my buddy soon after the hookup)..
Anyways, i'm starting from scratch. I need to get some ladies in my life soon before i go fucking nuts. seriously, any suggestions on where to start? I wouldnt go into a club alone btw, i just wouldnt be able to handle that. It's been 7 days since human contact....hope is fading, as is my life. |
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coldanddiluted
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I really do suggest you go sarging alone. Because I'm pretty new at this too, and I thought I couldn't possible enter a social place all alone. What I found out is that having friends with you isn't necessarily a good idea, especially if you haven't really developed your alpha-ness yet.
Whenever I go to parties with friends with the intent of sarging, it never happens. My friends have no idea how to approach, therfore either I have to alpha up and drag the group by myself, or dedicate my attention to strictly my group of friends. If you try to make a move, I feel like the friends I brought resent it, because I'm acting out of the ordinary. Friends just seem to be an obsticle when you are sarging.
So I made a 6 hour drive to San Francisco all BY MYSELF to catch A RAVE up there. Positive results. I made over 50 new friends, I met a couple of girls, and I even # closed. Because I didn't have company with me, I had to absorb the environment. In other words, it was either talk to everyone or talk to no one. It was a refreshing change. I had mad approach anxiety beforehand though. I felt like there's no way I can relate to people from a different city. But people are a lot friendlier than I thought. A club is a good setting to go sarging alone( at least for me) because the theme is dancing. If you're not so confident about your words( which I am sometimes) I can always be the seducer through dance.
The point is, try going out sarging by yourself, just for kicks and giggles. The best part about it is that none of your friends can witness you fuck it up. Because I did look stupid a couple of times up in San Francisco, but I was able to brush it off, knowing that everyone, including me, will forget after the event. |
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Tyler Dom
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| Posted: Thu Apr 10, 2008 10:14 pm Post subject: Re: this sucks |
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| cranberry sauce wrote: | well i hooked up with my buddy's ex girlfriend not too long ago. and shit, it was a good time, but now im shit on. yea, my entire circle of friends is lost and now i have no friends, and most importantly, no females in my life. (The girl i hooked up with ended up going back to my buddy soon after the hookup)..
Anyways, i'm starting from scratch. I need to get some ladies in my life soon before i go fucking nuts. seriously, any suggestions on where to start? I wouldnt go into a club alone btw, i just wouldnt be able to handle that. It's been 7 days since human contact....hope is fading, as is my life. |
You are going to hell, yep that CEO chair is waiting. |
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cranberry sauce
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day 8, still no sign of human contact.
insanity is imminent. |
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joker_jack84
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| Try twelve days man. All though it has given me the chance to read The Art of Seduction and The Game. Again. |
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Nine
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You know, this could be considered human contact.... Don't you have to eat or something? Go grocery shopping or go to a diner for god sakes man DO SOMETHING! Trust me, that cabin fever shit is real and it fvcks w/ your head. I have friends who'll get sick and they'll be out for like a week and no one'll call or anything and they'll come back to school and they'll be a lil squirrely. But seriously dude, hope you have better luck soon.
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Rye Lee
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| Maybe you should try examining what you did wrong and appologizing for it to your friends. This was a huge mistake on your part and it is greatly affecting you. You should never hook up with your buddy's ex, unless he has given you his blessing first. |
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cranberry sauce
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| Quote: | | Try twelve days man. All though it has given me the chance to read The Art of Seduction and The Game. Again. |
How is the art of seducttion... i was gonna pick that up after i read the game[/quote] |
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cranberry sauce
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| Quote: | | Try twelve days man. All though it has given me the chance to read The Art of Seduction and The Game. Again. |
How is the art of seducttion... i was gonna pick that up after i read the game |
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johnjones
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Here is what you should do.
If you live near people, go to the book store, shopping mall, or random place and sarge. Just pick up girls and get thier numbers, it doesn't matter if you call them or not, just increase your social network. If there is something you do, ie a hobby, go connect with the same people who do your similar hobby.
The art of seduction is good. It has a lot of information on why things seem natural and a lot of history (ie cleopatra, marylnn monroe, Cassanova). I would suggest reading it. Also, try apoligizing to your friends, say you fucked up, because well, you did.
If all else fails, go onto match.com and meet someone.  |
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cranberry sauce
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ugh...i'll have to pass on match.com. i could never respect myself. maybe i'll check out some milfs on myspace. thats what im talkin about.
ne ways...
day: 10
Human contact: negative
Mood: Disabled
Motivation: non-existent
Room: Complete mess
Motivation to clean it: No
School work: suffering
Mental state: horrible
Laundry: Not in over a week
Loathing in self pity: 24/7
Masturbation: Can't even do it. When I do, it sucks.
Current # of friends: 0
Current # of goldfish: 4
Current # of missed calls: 1 in 8 days
Current # of calories from whip cream: 495
On a good note, I've spent less than 10 dollars on my gas tank this week. |
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joker_jack84
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| cranberry sauce wrote: | | Quote: | | Try twelve days man. All though it has given me the chance to read The Art of Seduction and The Game. Again. |
How is the art of seducttion... i was gonna pick that up after i read the game |
I personally think its a basic staple if you truly want to learn seduction. It gives some real good historical examples but the break down of each story can get a little lengthy at times. But over all a great read. |
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cranberry sauce
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Yea, i will most likely pick it up at some point. I don't mean like actually picking it up, like picking up a girl; but, picking it up and buying it.
Anyways, I suck at life so I'm gonna have to post again out of boredom, misery, and loss of fate.
Day 11:
Still no sign of human contact or plans. (not counting college, but I don't have one friend there either.) Anyways, today sucked again. Went to school, sweat my ass off, came home and slept till about 9, and here I am. Uhh, OOh big news, had a missed call today. Yea, good stuff. It was my buddy who I stabbed in the back. He was inquiring about something...but i think the real message was: Let's hang out again, I'm not gonna hold a grudge. So that was nice. Other than that, still moping around, actually being somewhat productive. But uhhh, definitley giving me a lot of time for thought and thought process. I think it's fucking up my game though, I swear I had more confidence 2 weeks ago.
The thing about confidence that pisses me off....
It's never constant. One day you'll have it, the next you won't. Is it like that for everyone? One month you'll have a lot of self esteem the next month you suck at life. WTF, that pisses me off. I feel like I've gotten to a point where my levels of confidence and esteem have sort of leveled, so it's not too much a drop or rise, but still.. it's annoying as fuck knowing you always have to defend your esteem.
That's what a German philosopher says (cant remember name)... The goal of man is to protect his self esteem and value. Something like that idk.
But here's the thing... I measure my confidence by how I communicate with others. And if there's no communication, how can I know about my progress? By not knowing about my progress, does that hinder self esteem/confidence in itself? I think it does. Anyways, I'm getting too philosophical here. Somebody call me before I call myself.
(I'm going off the rails on a crazy train) |
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cranberry sauce
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day 13:
Human contact: affirmative
Yes, today i ventured out into the world after being cooped up.
It felt...reallly strange.
It's wierd, cuz before when i lost all hope, there was no let down. But now after going out all nite and coming home, i feel like shit. cuz it's like, wow, i know what i've been missing out on...and i'm still going to be missing out on it for the most part.
so its like, i took a step forward in leaving my house. it was difficult, gonna be honest. And now that i'm home feeling even more depressed, it's going to push me to go out even more... i think.. i hope. idk fuck me. i need a girl. |
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Just go somewhere during the day and start short conversations with girls or even anyone. Learn to comment girls behaviour in a funny way, ask them for sth (but not "What time it is"). In most cases, if they will not be in a hurry, they respond positively. Then, you can say "Nice to meet you" and go away, or continue a conversation. This will bring you into very good mood and you will start building confidence.
Do not focus on outcome, start from sth simple. |
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