Well I went to a party recently and there is this girl EVERYBODY was dancing with. I approached and asked her to dance, but she just walked away she said something, but I couldn't hear because the music was so loud. A lot of people started laughing at the fact i was rejected and i did feel a bit embarrassed. I know rejection is part of the game i'm well pass that stage, but after this is it a bit harder to approach and dance with a girl now.


I talked to a few other puas i know they said never ask just approach from behind and start to dance.

The dance i am referring to is grinding by the way and i've never done it in my life.

There is another party happening soon and i just plan to take the advice and just approach from behind and dance. my friend told me the worst that can happen is they pull away.

Thoughts?

I hate to say this because.... you might not go for it, but going up behind the girl an grinding on her without asking use to work flawlessly. However i think more an more guys have started doing it and now the success ratio has gone down. I'm a good looking guy and Ive had it blow up in my face once or twice. I still think you should go for it. It would probably be out of character for you an the girl will be shocked an probably like it. Just be COOL man. dont over think shit and for god sakes dont be someone your not. just be the best you. If you really wana grind with a girl i suggest going to clubs because there normally so packed you can do whatever you want an get away with it. good luck

naw homie... i'm a noob, but if theres one thing i'm good at, it's my dance game with girls.

Dancing is all about body language. Words shouldn't even be used as a weapon anymore when your at a club with speakers blasting and woofers pumping, you'll just end up shouting and annoying her.

Dance around the girl, like you're kinda just checking her dance moves out, and slowly work your way into a zone where the mentality is "I'm dancing around you,you should know by now that i'm awesome," once you start catching IOI's, go kino, grab her hand and give her a twirl, then pull her towards you for a brief moment, then push her away.

Now you've established that you are in control and that there's a push and pull element taking place. give her a couple more of those twirls, and when you've decided that it's enough to start dancing close, don't let her hand go on that last twirl and pull her towards you to begin dancing.

If you feel like shes really iffy about the grinding, pull her aside to speak to her and build rapport.

That's all i know. It's been my ONLY way of getting a girls number so far since I'm such a noob and an AFC. So trust me on this.

Good stuff there thats worth a try.

My father used to say to me "fortune favors the brave". The main thing is, you went for it. Others my laugh, but did they try? No. You're the one with the balls, just need to tweak next time. F%&k everyone else. Keep it up.

The twirl is a good start. Next I use the back up (I read it on this forum and sorry and I can't remember who coined it). After the twirl, you know she's interested. So quickly turn around and grind your ass on her and with both your hands on your thighs (do this very PLAYFULLY with a big smile). Then, reach back and grab her waist with one hand and the slap you own ass with the other. Chicks usually crack up over this...

^ you explained it perfectly, thats exactly how my pattern works, except i don't smack my own ass with my other hand but i'm going to start. Thanks for that tip.

p.s. i laughed out loud when you mentioned the self-ass smacking in the library at school, everybody is looking. you have made a pariah out of me.

*ahem*
Okay I'm starting to like dance game more now. Its all about body lang. Don't talk much. These vids totally helped me out.

For me, what worked best was set out that you can dance pretty cool. I was jerkin' and hardstyling at this rave and people were all into it and stuff. Then I had natural groups just come together. Then I would be dipping and grooving around a girl that was dancing pretty good and I would spontaneously make my way to her. Then to play around, I would reverse grind for like a second where Im in front of her and smile.

Then I would do what this guy does in this video to see if she would grind. Its about testing her (Very useful):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eM3_O0QP ... re=related

Then I would do what he does here to escalate. (Worked fking GREAT!)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1BqGMirSU7A

And play around and get the groove on like this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BOAB7bH7 ... r_embedded