There are many examples of how men get deprived of affection throughout their lives. In my opinion this leads to an over-reliance on ONE source of female affection making it difficult for men to maintain successful relationships.

Macho Culture

I spent a few months in Buenos Aires, Argentina. When men greet each other there they kiss on the cheek. There is also lots of hugging and kino between males. At first I thought this was a bit strange but I got used to it. Here in the United States if you greet a man with a hug or kiss you will probably get called gay.

Male Friends

Between guy friends there is always this underlying theme of homophobia. Whether it be showing your feelings, talking about your relationships, or not drinking your beer fast enough, guys will make fun of each other for not being tough enough. The most analysis you will get out of most guys when you ask them about a failed female relationship is “it is what it is bro”.

Women on the other hand are very affectionate with their friends. They talk about everything, especially relationships. They hug each other, kiss, say I love you and even share a bed together. God knows what else (wink).

Fathers and Sons

It seems like most dads I know don’t tell their sons that they love them all too often. At least I don’t remember my dad saying “I love you” that often to me. Sons also seem to get less physical affection from dad overall. This not only reduces the childs overall affection, it reduces dads. When I become a dad one day I will make it a point to be verbally and physically affectionate with my son.

In contrast usually daddy’s little girl gets tons of physical affection. Of course there are plenty of sisters who don’t get along, but the ones that do seem to be very affectionate with one another. Brothers, not as much.

Male > Female affection: considered normal
Female > Female affection: considered normal
Male > Male affection: considered gay

I Love You, Man

So I ask you. How is your relationship with your brother, your father, your son and your male freinds.

Now I’m not saying you have to go around hugging men or telling your guy friends that you love them, but I think you get my point. The fact that women have such an upper hand in the affection department is a huge advantage in their relationships with men.

Women can’t quite understand why a guy is so willing to do/agree to anything (her agenda) just to keep getting her pure female affection. They are puzzled as to why some guys are so needy for their comfort, caress and understanding. But I‘m pretty sure they’re not complaining when they consider what they get out of it.

Women have such a variety of affection in their lives, that the affection they get from their boyfriend is sweet, but it’s really just one small piece in an overall lifestyle of affection. Remember, women get us hooked on their affection, not sex.

A man’s affection seems to get reduced even further once he gets into an exclusive partnership. A woman who is engaged or even married will still get lots of attention when they go out to a bar. It’s almost like they are single. Women can easily still rack up tons of orbiters and male friends no matter what their relationship status is. Whereas a taken man comes to rely more and more on his one and only source of affection. She now controls both your sex life and your affection life.

The lack of affection in other areas of your life leads to extreme neediness for affection from this ONE woman. You can’t be affectionate with your guy friends and you have to act manly at work. The only place you can hide from the cold harsh world is in the arms of your woman. Where you can give and receive affection without being judged. When no one is looking you let her call you "fuzzy bear" and you call her "shmoopy".

Yeah I know you’re a big tough guy, but you whimper like a little girl when your woman threatens to leave you. And you get really flustered when your one source of affection is upset with you. The toughest most emotionally closed guys in the world seem to be the most likely candidates to be eventually controlled by female affection.

I think the tough guy, homophobic culture actually helps women control men. No matter what strategy you use, from being more open physically and emotionally with all people to getting a second girlfriend, as long as you have affection variety in your life you will be less needy in your relationships with women.

Take care,

60

Ask yourself, why is she special?

il tell you right now bud, that she isnt a special vagina. The more u realise that there are MANY MANY MANY MORE gorgeous, funny, single, big breasted women out there, the better.

Maybe u had some movie moment with your girl n thought, "wow, I really want her n ONLY her." I dont know...I know I did with mine. (actually more than one)

A good way to get over ANY girl is to look at her flaws

-Maybe she has a unattractive name
-She was abit of a slag
-Has freaky habits
-Weird nipples?
- Just whatever reason u can come up, with thinking u can get a better girl than her n DAMN RIGHT U CAN!

Go for her n if its happily ever after then great, if not pick yourself back together n know U DERSERVE BETTER

good luck mate

Disclaimer: This is by no means my article.

You know, I honestly don't buy it. Maybe for some guys, in some cases... but as a rule? Nah. How many times is a guy pining over a girl who's never actually shown him this affection? Seems quite often, from the little I've seen.

Hell, I've got a bit of one-itis over a girl I met a couple months ago. In the meantime I've met, hit on and seen more affection than she's showed so far... yet I still can't get her out of my mind.

It's not caused by anything as simplistic as a desire for affection, or one-itis would be cured much more easily just by noticing the next girl to pay attention to you.