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quidproquo
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 Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 5:00 am Post subject: So i'm a big pussy... |
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| Well I've been with some girls but overall don't have that much experience. I'm not a bad looking guy but just kinda shy and run out of things to say. Almost every time I go to a bar, I see attractive girls that are attracted to me and talk to them but have a hard time closing. I lack experience and don't know what to do. Also there are girls that are friends with my friends that if I took the initiative I could hook up but don't because like the title says, I'm a big pussy. What do you guys think I should do? |
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Foxtrot 5
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| Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 5:24 am Post subject: |
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| Kino escalate and get into a sexual state. They'll read it and if they're still attracted make the move. Seriously! |
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Don Juan 89
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| Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 6:13 am Post subject: |
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1. Read about picking girls up more. Learning is key and it will lead you to a vast amount of information so you never have blank spots in a conversation. This is what gave me more confidence. I had HUGE social issues, but learning that it is possible to use pickup styles gave me the confidence that I needed. This will lead you to success.
2. Pickup artists have posted how they pick the hottest girls up in a rasta wig!!!!! Girls always want you to talk to them. Girls do not talk to you. Girls will say in their heads "this guy is so cool!" or "this guy is so different from other guys!" Girls like interesting or different guys and there are many guys who do not approach girls. If you approach them, they will give you a chance.
3. Always go for it. Even if you get shot down, who cares? You will never get experience any other way. Plus, it is not embarassing getting shot down if you do not let it bother you. Trust me, you always need to tell a girl to continue conversation even if you are scared. Just overcoming your fear is the only way. Even if a girl knows your friend, who cares? Your friend knows you are a nice guy and will support you hooking up with her friends, believe it or not.
Just learn pickup methods and make attempts man. You will get better.  |
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quidproquo
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| Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 4:07 pm Post subject: |
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| Thanks for the input guys, just needed some opinions on what I should do. Unfortunately, I also have some social issues. Where would you suggest I start at overcoming these issues? |
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desertEagle
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| DUDE...ur like the exact replica of me..... but from experience .... you just gotta get in there and do ur thing..... i was at a club one night ... i see 2 girls...one in a green dress, my target... i literally get between her and her friend ... start talking, 15 minutes later i couldnt stop her from making out with me if my life depended on it.... ,i juts let go of everytihng holding me back(i gacve myself the "ive got nothing to lose, i dont know anyone here"-speach)...its all or notihng |
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quidproquo
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| Posted: Sun Nov 08, 2009 3:46 am Post subject: |
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| yeah the few girls I have been with that's kinda what I did, just let everything go. The only thing is the situation with girls that I know that are friends with mine is that I'm worried that I'll finish too quickly/preform bad and have all of them talking behind my back or even laughing in my face...Maybe I'm just over thinking things and should just say fuck it and go for the gold. What do you guys think about performance anxiety/issues? |
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big54455
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| Posted: Sun Nov 08, 2009 10:30 am Post subject: yeah just go for it. |
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| Preforming bad is mostly mental. Once you get started and everything is moving there is no such thing as preforming bad. even if you do "go to fast" keep her satisfied while you reload. |
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Madals
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How you view yourself has a big impact on how well you preform not only as a PUA, but in life. You are not a big pussy, you are just getting experience because you are going to be really good at this (think like this).
Have you ever been rejected for a kiss? If not, keep pushing until you do get rejected!
Talk to a girl for 10mins, get her laughing and then just try and kiss her. Chances are most girls will not be comfortable doing this (but if they are, well done  ) and they will reject you. Once you have been rejected, then you will lose a subconscious fear of being rejected!
Next thing to tackle is understanding how to escalate physically, the Vin DiCarlo escalation ladder : [link]
Start doing those things, and you will learn the signs of when a woman wants different degree's of contact!
Final thing, is if you are in a bar you might have stage fright - all those people watching could make you feel the pressure and make her feel like a slut. Ask her to go get some air with you (or to go somewhere more quiet), as a general rule, if she is willing to go with you then she is open to escalation
Hope that helps man!
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