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Josh
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 Posted: Thu Jul 20, 2006 10:51 am Post subject: Shy and Need Tips on Pick up |
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Hey Everyone,
I've been shy most of my life and find it hard meeting women.
I've read The Game, and that started me thinking about getting over my shyness and start approaching women. But I find it really difficult. I get so nervous then I just give up.
Have any guys here been really shy towards women then overome this?
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Jester
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I know wot you mean! I was shy for years, but then I started reading about the PUA comminity, and thought enough was enough and started to get invoved. Now I look back it's one of the best things Ive ever done.
Shyness sucks, man! You need to start gently, talking to people eveywhere - thats what I did. Since then I've been out with dozens of girls and had many great times. |
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Jack 'O'
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Hey Josh,
Same as you mate! I turned to the pickup community because I couldn't handle women. I read, and read. First, it was a nightmare but with more practice it became easier and easier.
I'm not a extrovert or PUA now, but can pull women and know wot to say to attract them, before I used to walk off too afraid to talk to them.
I read some good stuff about being shy here:
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paquitao
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| Hi Welcome, with me was a little diferent I was shy, but the major fear was rejection.... I m working on that... |
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Paradox
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| Same as. I notice you haven't given yourself a PUA 'name' Josh; that's part of the process of absenting yourself from your own self-perception, and assuming another identity. Not a made-up one, the you you're meant to be. I think Mystery made some gesture towards Style at the beginning of The Game along the lines of you're tearing up the old shy you, and occupying a new persona. Obviously it needn't be as dramatic as that, but the principle is there. In truth, I'm working on it, not there. I've often used bravado as a sort of disguise for my shyness, meaning I've sometimes seemed confident, or at least cocky funny, but quite often just aggressive. My confidence has gone down since I lost most of my hair in my mid-twenties, now I have to rebuild everything. A solid foundation of self-confidence built on a stronger inner belief blah-de-blah. A lot of the guys have said developing their game has worked for their whole lives, not just picking up women. I'm certain it will work for you and me and everyone else who commits to this |
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TyRichard
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You're shy because it makes you comfortable.
For the first three months make a rule for yourself...
RULE> if you feel a sense of comfort, do something opposite, a personal phase shift. Convince yourself that being uncomfortable is the only way to surivive. Comfort is death, comfort is death, comfort is death.
The only way to survive is to be uncomfortable, push yourself.
If you're comfortable, you're being yourself and falling into old habbits.
This is not the place for that.
Break that habbit. |
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