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kingfreddys
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 Posted: Thu Oct 25, 2007 3:43 pm Post subject: shit, i didn't know a BJ meant we were in love. |
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one blow and this girl 'falls in love' with me. fucking highschool.
i've seen her one day outside of school over the course of about two years. She drove like 15 miles to blowout in the park during summer. I didn't see her until school started again.
i've had a few sets ask me how 'her and I' were doing. she literally has told other HBs that her and I were in love, this happened three days ago, i haven't talked to her in about a month, haven't seen her out of school for about 2 and a half months.. but how would you use this to your advantage? some girl being obsessive and shit. and she's not ugly, she's a hb7 dancer. i'd also like to give her some kind of closure as to not be crazy no more. but that's a different issue. |
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Starbuck
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| Posted: Thu Oct 25, 2007 3:51 pm Post subject: Re: shit, i didn't know a BJ meant we were in love. |
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| kingfreddys wrote: | one blow and this girl 'falls in love' with me. fucking highschool.
i've seen her one day outside of school over the course of about two years. She drove like 15 miles to blowout in the park during summer. I didn't see her until school started again.
i've had a few sets ask me how 'her and I' were doing. she literally has told other HBs that her and I were in love, this happened three days ago, i haven't talked to her in about a month, haven't seen her out of school for about 2 and a half months.. but how would you use this to your advantage? some girl being obsessive and shit. and she's not ugly, she's a hb7 dancer. i'd also like to give her some kind of closure as to not be crazy no more. but that's a different issue. |
It's part of their nature. They have a lot more invested in the sex act than you do.
You expect a girl to know anymore about guys, than you know about women?
Poor girl obviously made a mistake. 
How to handle it without hurting her? Well since obviously you don't feel the same way about her as she does about you, I'd suggest you be honest with her about that as soon as possible.
You might have to give up the BJ's, from her anyway. 
But by stringing her out you're just being an asshole. And you risk relegating her to the damaged goods pile. As she now equates all men with deceptive scumbags just trying to get a BJ anyway, and from any attractive woman they can. Some guy will invariably at some point have to pick up the pieces, if it's possible. Or maybe she'll swear off men altogether and start preferring women. I've seen it happen. |
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Ka
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It appears that you dont really have an open line of communication with her either by choice or not. IMO you should simply tell her, "Love is a strong term, not to be used lightly."
If other sets bring it up dependant on how well they know HER, you can either play it off, or act like you dont even know or remember her.
If they dont know her at all or well...say something like...
SET: "I heard you and (target) were/are in love."
YOU: "Who?...O, (target) and we saw each other for a bit...I think shes might still into me emotionally."
If they know her well.
SET: "I heard you and (target) were/are in love."
YOU: "(laugh/chuckle) Na not really, we had a lil something like 2 years ago. Shes not over that yet?" |
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unstoppable
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| Posted: Thu Oct 25, 2007 7:15 pm Post subject: this is what you do |
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ok now follow this properly and all your problems will be solved.
invite her to your house, when she gets there have fun with her and all like everythings ok, invite her up the stair and as soon as you get to the top of the stairs turn around and judo chop her in the throat and round house kick tha btch down the stair and yell bitch dont ever do that again!
Also works if she's pregnant |
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Aceospades12
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| Posted: Thu Oct 25, 2007 7:47 pm Post subject: |
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hey unstoppable
considering u are new to the forum today (not that i been around for a long time either)
but i recommend adding some substance to ur posts or u will not be taken seriously and will not recieve actual advice when u need it
its fine to joke around and all.
but this is a help and be-helped forum with entertainment thrown in as a bonus
keep the 'kick the pregnant lady down the stairs' advice to urself
thanks man
i look forward to ur contribution in future posts |
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The Doctor
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| Posted: Thu Oct 25, 2007 7:54 pm Post subject: Re: shit, i didn't know a BJ meant we were in love. |
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| Starbuck wrote: |
It's part of their nature. They have a lot more invested in the sex act than you do.
You expect a girl to know anymore about guys, than you know about women?
Poor girl obviously made a mistake.
How to handle it without hurting her? Well since obviously you don't feel the same way about her as she does about you, I'd suggest you be honest with her about that as soon as possible.
You might have to give up the BJ's, from her anyway.
But by stringing her out you're just being an asshole. And you risk relegating her to the damaged goods pile. As she now equates all men with deceptive scumbags just trying to get a BJ anyway, and from any attractive woman they can. Some guy will invariably at some point have to pick up the pieces, if it's possible. Or maybe she'll swear off men altogether and start preferring women. I've seen it happen. |
Don't you think this might be overreacting a bit?
I completely agree that he must let her know of his intent ASAP... it's just the right thing to do. But I'm not sure how he's stringing her out, at least from what he posted... it would seem they hooked up and thats about it.
King, did you tell her you loved her in an attempt to get a bj? If so thats a dick move... but if not I don't see this being your fault at all. And if this girl decides to relegate herself to the "damaged goods pile" because she give you a bj, and that didn't buy your love... then she's a crazy person... decent well adjusted people don't base sweeping ideals off of singular events... crazy people do.
Personally I'd tell her that you don't love her, and don't intend to be with her (said in a nice way), and then stay away from her. |
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Desire
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King, are you in high school or is the girl just in high school?
if your in high school, dont worry about how many girls think their in love with you. it doesnt matter. yes you all go to the same school and shit will get said. What i did in high school was get a gf. a gf that you can have sex with anytime of the day, a gf you can try anything out on, and most importantly a gf you can get experiance from. Then, all the nice guys and afc's on this forum are gonna wanna kill me, go after the targets you want. I know cheating sucks but everyone cheats in high school. its really the one time that cheating is ok. think about it, everyone is trying to get in touch with their body and are learning how to flirt. get the gf so your never at a loss of pussy because their are plenty of cold streaks in high school |
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Roofas
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Haha, Desire does have a good point. Cheating might not be the most moral and ethical thing to do, but if you're in high school, who cares. Life is a social experiement that's what i say.
I'll tell you my experience and it could help. I broke up with my gf 2 years ago, and i think it was because i read the game haha. But anyways, at any give time within the last 2 years i have typically been sleeping with 4-5 on a regular basis. You can bet i have met some crazies, but i have learned a way to deal with that situation. First off preventative maintenance. make sure they understand your not looking for anything too serious right from the start. It is inevidable that some will start growing a lot of feelings for you, and i have never been able to slow the relationship down, the girls can never handle it. So from there I just have to break it off with them and replace them basically. But i don't beat around the bush and that is the trick that took me so long to learn. You just have to look them right in the eye and say, sorry, this isn't what im looking for. Then they will try to sleep with you most likely sometime in the near future saying they want a casual relationship again, but don't believe them...just cut it off and replace her. it's the best thing for her too, you don't want to string her along and she will get over it. she might not get fucked as good ever again haha but oh well, that's her problem. |
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Starbuck
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| Posted: Thu Oct 25, 2007 10:43 pm Post subject: Re: shit, i didn't know a BJ meant we were in love. |
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| The Doctor wrote: | | Starbuck wrote: |
It's part of their nature. They have a lot more invested in the sex act than you do.
You expect a girl to know anymore about guys, than you know about women?
Poor girl obviously made a mistake.
How to handle it without hurting her? Well since obviously you don't feel the same way about her as she does about you, I'd suggest you be honest with her about that as soon as possible.
You might have to give up the BJ's, from her anyway.
But by stringing her out you're just being an asshole. And you risk relegating her to the damaged goods pile. As she now equates all men with deceptive scumbags just trying to get a BJ anyway, and from any attractive woman they can. Some guy will invariably at some point have to pick up the pieces, if it's possible. Or maybe she'll swear off men altogether and start preferring women. I've seen it happen. |
Don't you think this might be overreacting a bit?
I completely agree that he must let her know of his intent ASAP... it's just the right thing to do. But I'm not sure how he's stringing her out, at least from what he posted... it would seem they hooked up and thats about it.
King, did you tell her you loved her in an attempt to get a bj? If so thats a dick move... but if not I don't see this being your fault at all. And if this girl decides to relegate herself to the "damaged goods pile" because she give you a bj, and that didn't buy your love... then she's a crazy person... decent well adjusted people don't base sweeping ideals off of singular events... crazy people do.
Personally I'd tell her that you don't love her, and don't intend to be with her (said in a nice way), and then stay away from her. |
Possibly.
But this shyt happens.
Just saying it's something to think about. And like unstoppable points out, obviously some guys in our midst missed out on a few things, in their upbringing along the way. A little consideration for somebody else's feelings goes along way. Even when they don't reciprocate.
To me it's just part of being a man. A full featured one. Anything else is AFC in my book.
I used to have a rule. It was similar to the prime directive in Star Trek. I believe in leaving girls in better condition than I found them.
That often meant I was willing to take the hit instead of them. It's usually easy to pull off without hurting their feelings or wrecking their long term mental health.
But alas, like you point out, you can't shield people from the realities of the world. You can only help them land more gently. That's a worthy goal in my opinion.
A lot of people have a real problem with treating others like they want to be treated. But then you know the old saying, "what comes around, goes around". And there's alot of shyt going around. |
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kingfreddys
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| yeah i'm in highschool. i never said I loved her. Yeah, i'll make sure to directly cut her. |
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Starbuck
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| kingfreddys wrote: | | yeah i'm in highschool. i never said I loved her. Yeah, i'll make sure to directly cut her. |
Ok, well you don't love her.. That's not unusual.
Obviously the poor girl thinks the sex act is indicative of love. A lot of young girls are under such mistaken assumptions, and have to learn the hard way.
You did give her a decent lickin', as a conciliation prize didn't you? I think you should.  |
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neogamer
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Have you considered that she could be telling other HBs that you two are "in love" and "a couple" to screw with you, and exact revenge? She may regret blowing you, and, to compensate, is fucking with your chances with other HBs.
Simplest thing to do is put out the word that you have seen this girl a total of ONE time, and her behavior is a complete MYSTERY to you. Big DHV for you. |
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