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saranjames
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 Posted: Mon Feb 25, 2008 12:33 pm Post subject: She's offended! - what now? |
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I have been gaming this HB8 for the last couple of weeks. Using some really good game. For once I was really running the line between offending her and chatting her up (like Mystery does in the youtube vid's) if you know what I mean. She wasn't quite sure how to take me and I had a really strong frame. She was giving off lots of IOIs. Anyway, she has a boyfriend but I still had a good shot. I wrote her something on facebook in reply to a message she wrote me. I must have come on too strong because now she is offended.
Question is what should I do? Looks like I've lost out on this one. So should I keep a strong frame and act as those there is nothing to be offended about and it is her that is wrong. Or should I do damage limitation, apologise, and make sure she doesn't spread rumours about me being sleazy to other girls. Bear in mind I will be seeing her about a bit and a lot of future targets might come in contact with her.
Do I go AFC and save my rep, or tough it out and risk a bad reputation? |
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mozyFresh
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| Posted: Mon Feb 25, 2008 1:17 pm Post subject: |
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| gotta understand and know where the line is and keep it playful, i can get away with saying things like 'yeah and your a retard, but i aint complaining i am'. But i can get away with blue murder, and even if i was'nt joking, they would probly think i was after the amount of jokes i just cracked in the past 15 minutes. When mentioned the word dumb on here people where like 'oh no i could never insult a girl on her intelligence'. And i thought why not call girls stupid all the time. And we flirt like crazy. |
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mozyFresh
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| Posted: Mon Feb 25, 2008 1:23 pm Post subject: |
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| Anyway alittle tip, get off facebook, myspace or whatever it is. This stuff and communication is best done in the real world, or at least on the phone, try to limit your net and email conversations as much as possible. People seem to get offended more by texts and such because they take it in the wrong way. In my opinion, it is impossible to flirt probly through text msg's or mail. |
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saqchek
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Breakdown of communication
60% - non verbal
33%- tone
7%- actual words
You can see why texts/PMs and other internet related messages come across bad or often misinterpreted. If she's offended, apologize and explain you didn't mean it like that. (or find out what she's actually offended about) If you did mean it like you said it, then just apologize. |
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Xecutioner
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| I dunno man it sounds like a shit test. I would say to her whoa, take it easy lady! and just go about it like it never happened. I wouldnt give up or even freeze her out. Continue to persue the prize but go about it as if you arent extremely interested. I wouldnt let her know you are eyeballing her whole facebook. |
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