I'm not exactly a PUA. I still think I'm an rAFC. But I practice this a lot just before I make my approaches.

The beginnings.

So, you're sitting at Starbucks, or a bar, and then you see this cute 9 walking past and or sitting at another table. You want to muster the courage to approach and talk to her but you can't. YOU JUST CAN'T. And you just sit there stalling until she starts to leave. Boom, you'll never see her again, and those thoughts in your head? The ones that you're imagining what she would say, or if she'd feel weirded out. Well, she's gone, and that'll never happen, and you know it. You'll never know if she'd be interested in you, or if she'd blow you out, because you never did make any contact.

Recovery.

You see her. She's really cute. You're imagining her on your bed, absolutely naked, lying down there waiting for you to fuck her. You snap back into reality. You start to realise your body is changing. Your heart rate increases, butterflies consume the innards of your stomach. You really want to go, but your body says, "NO, FUCK YOU". You're like, "Oh shit heart, slow the fuck down!". What you should do is, stand up, stand up straight. Go over to the next person/set you see, or the one closest to you. Go there and introduce yourself. Talk for a bit, let your heart rate slow down (It definitely will), and then tell them, "Hey guys, it was nice talking to you, but I gotta go". Wave, then walk right at that cute girl. Go. No more thinking about what might happen or what should happen. JUST GO. Talk to her. Done.

Hope this helps any of you newbies out there. I found this method very calming, sort of like dipping myself in mud before jumping into the dirty dark pit. It did help me, so I hope you guys find this helpful, or at least useful. (hehehe).


With love,
Matt

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"Don't try to change who you are. Don't even think you're not good enough right now. You ARE good enough being who you are. Women can smell a fake man the same way you can smell cheesecake."

One of the ways I overcame my approach anxiety was making my approach almost instantly. I knew the MORE I thought about it, the more anxiety would brew. It was best to just face it dead on. If I started question whether to approach, or thinking of what to say - it backfired on me. So I just went, time and time again.

There was a side effect - I was feeling LESS anxiety, not more. Making the approaches made me proud of myself for having done so. Now I make approaches easily.

I can see this working, it always goes well you just don't think about it.

Can be hard for when girl's walk past you in the street though, but I guess good if they were sitting down not going anywhere

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Agree. You have to build positive social momentum. Talk to guys at first if that's what it takes. You need to get warmed up. Talk to people without expecting anything in return.