Field-tests, is a result based report about practicing a certain theory in the real world.Everyone writes journals and field-tests based on "external" results and actions, i used external because I'm talking about outer-game. i thought that all i had to do is fixing my outer-game, but i was wrong so I'll be writing and updating every single thought that passes on my mind on inner-game and PU theory.I hope i started this thread in the right section, i chose the field-tests because this is kind of field-test and it's a journal, not just a random post about inner-game.

I watched seminars and went into forums etc.., I've done everything i could so i can be a part of this "secret society" and become a PUA leaving behind all my insecurities, porn DVDs, my WoW account and my loneliness.I felt helpless and hopeless and thought that this was my destiny, everyone is great in some areas and sucks in some others, i thought that sucking at PU , not having a girlfriend and wining all WoW duels was my destiny and i had to accept it.

First a little background of myself, I'm a 20yrs old virgin college guy that just had his first girlfriend last month, I'm very insecure and have middle social anxiety disorder, in my childhood i was always bullied for my full lips, my extra-length and my exaggerated cerebral kyphosis which built in me the belief "looks matters ALOT and I'm ugly!".

Well, i grew up and here i am, struggling to get out from this "endless" loop.Here I'll be talking about things i which someone told me 10yrs ago, things I had experienced but never found on eBooks/DVDs. what I'll be writing is all the Inner-game issues I noticed, all success blocking natural thinking and/or behavior I've discovered and changed, everything that returned positive or negative results.you may notice that the journal is just some random thoughts connected together and each line is leading to the other, caused by the upcoming thoughts that passes through my mind when I'm writing.sometimes when you totally focus on your own thoughts you may feel the subconscious triggers, I'll be talking about that.

"Something is wrong with me" "I'm like a stranger to everyone, they must all criticizing me" "i can't do this" some of these beliefs are caused by social anxiety disorder (S.A.D) this is what really damaged my inner-game, and i didn't know that inner-game is so important, all what i was looking for is outer-game, i skip everything and search for openers and pickup-lines, after trying everything i found out that this is not working for me, why? i thought that PU isn't my thing, that i couldn't do it no matter what! I thought that i had to be rich and handsome to do it. I disqualified myself before i try it first.I remember when i was young, i disqualified myself way before i approach a girl. Now I'm reversing things, i didn't had experience , good or bad, with women when i disqualified myself.and based on the main concept of the inner-game, this is why i fail now!
the main concept of inner-game explains why AFCs always fail no matter how much they learn about PU and memorize outer-game stuff. If I have the simple thought of I failing at something then more likely I'll fail at it.I heard it so many times, but never believed it, i didn't even believe that inner-game influence outer-game much, but at my big surprise, PU is all about inner-game. what differentiates AFCs from Naturals is inner-game, not money, not looks. You may mention that confidence is the key, well in my opinion confidence is not the "key" but solid inner-game and mental health are the key and when I have a solid inner-game and I'm mentally healthy, I'll automatically build self-confidence. don't take my words as proved scientific fact's, this is just my theory.

Does looks matters? we ,men, tend to think that women persevse us like we perseves them, looks really matters to us, and when I see girls impressed by a guy's looks and the "oh he's hot" it's like a proven belief to me.but what i really discovered was that women perseves us like we perceives cars, seriously.The best looking car catches your attention, but once you get into that car, feel the power, feel the engine, and ride it you'll sometimes be disappointed, and you won't buy that car, and she'll reject that good looking needy guy.Good looking attractive guys has advantage on average and ugly guys, this is true, but it's a first minor advantage that I don't have to worry about not having it. there's a big difference between being good looking and making myself look at best, grooming myself will score for me, not because i look better, but because women perceives that i love myself and I'm taking care of myself, I'm responsible for myself, that demonstrates that i have good survival skills (women are subconsciously attracted to guys with higher replication and survival skills). an And i think that an average guy pea-cocking has the same effect as a good looking guy on women or even better.

When i approach a girl, my classmate, or any girl i know or i don't and she's cold towards me i blame my looks, i blame my self, i rethink what i said and tend to perseve it as stupid.i thought that something is wrong with me, if i were rich and good looking she'll be warm to me. if another guy said exactly what i said she will respond in different way. and to my surprise, attractive guys get the same result if they act the same way.

I also used to think that i had a void, and i need that special hot girl to fill it. that if i find that girl and get it, everything will be different, my life will be different. This is a very destructive thought!! i never thought that some thoughts like that can actually ruin my chances with women. when I had those thought my subconscious mind recorded "Women are very important" so when i meet a girl, a potential girlfriend, my subconscious mind triggers my emotions, "this opportunity is very important to me!! don't waist it" and fear kicks in. this is the biggest blocking thought i experienced. when I'm desperate , acting too nice, giving gifts, try to fix her problems i thought she'll like me that way and I'm not doing anything to make her feel bad. but it was a huge turn off, and i always end in the friend-zone. Before i knew about PU, i thought that women put guys in friend-zone just like i do to girls: she's hot then she's a potential girlfriend, she's not then she's just a friend. i didn't knew that my behavior and lack of sexualisation, teasing, cockiness are what really pushing me into the friend-zone.

Nice guys. I was the icon of nice.i had a very poor social circle, every interaction with people was too important to me, specially with girls and cool guys. every interaction with them made me nervous and afraid to screw it up with them, so i automatically stopped being myself, because i thought that being myself is not gonna make them like me, and started being nice etc... and i thought that acting that way will make them like me. i was always spending my time, money and energy on girls, and for my big surprise they just take advantage of me or they call me "BFF". being nice and spending my time, money or energy devalues me and values them, they are in control. women hate it when they control, leadership is for men not women. men lead women follow.but i kept being nice when i meet a potential girlfriend.

You may notice that i use "potential girlfriend" rather then "target", because all i was looking for is a relationship, and i when i meet a girl i always push her into this relationship thing, this is one of my other big mistakes i used to do.

I knew about PU 2 years ago, the first year was a complete surprise, this shit exist, i can learn this and be good at it? then i felt hopeless like usual but i tried it, it was hard at first, "women will notice that I'm acting weird" "this isn't gonna work for me" ...and yes it didn't work, i skipped all the inner-game, body-language, voice tonality stuff and worked on pickup-lines, routines, openers and all other outer-game stuff. and it didn't work! i felt helpless and hopeless again and i gave up, but every time i meet a new girl i come back, i had to over-prepare for it, she was so important to me, and i didn't had a clue that my thought can actually block me. the second year, i started to notice the inner-game, when first watching inner-game stuff i laughed, i didn't even believe that inner-game works this way and it's very important to PU. 2 years of PU learning and i only approached random unknown 4-5 girls, i decided to go naturally first and game chicks i know, chicks i meet by chance.

Everything changed when i met a new fresh potential girlfriend, and my mind turned upside down thinking "i have to be nice and act like usual.Hold on!! i got to use PU stuff i learn, i have to Neg her and tease her first. what if she get's mad and i screw it? better act like usual then" then i realized that i always think this way, and i always screw it up. "Wait a minute, i always keep acting normal, like i always do and i always screw it up. this is it, this time I'm gonna try a different strategy, this time I'm gonna change everything", so i teased her, negged her really hard, she showed me that upset face, my mind ordered me to apologize but i didn't and controlled myself and laughed at her and mimicked her. i made a commitment, this girl is hot, but I'll keep in mind that i don't need her!! no i don't fucking need her! she's nothing other then an immature fragile creature with a beautiful face.I'm better then her.And i never showed a sign of weakness or mercy. but deep inside i was so afraid, i thought that this is wrong. after she keeps shit testing me, and got mad many times when I was negging her, i got her number, but like usual i kept in mind that this is going nowhere, I'm just talking to her to have fun and tease her every time she shows a weak spot. till i gave up and thought that this is really not going anywhere, but to my big surprise, she is always calling me, she was always smiling when she see's me, the simple fact of talking to me makes her day! I was like WTF is wrong with is world?! this stuff is really working!! how come?! since then, I'm another person. and that girl is now my girlfriend, my very first girlfriend.

I'll be updating this thread, so feel free to comment on it.[/quote]

_________________
Golden Rules i learned:
1- If you complement do it a serious way.
2- If a conversation starts with a low vibe and seems not getting anywhere, be direct but not on an emotional level.

Nice Beta Guy:

He nice guy syndrome.As a nice guy i use to look for other people's approval, specially girls and alpha males, being "nice" and polite also means being weak and submissive, and nice, quote on quote, not the usual general nice, there are nice generous alpha males, but generosity is a currency that i have to spend on what's good for me. Nice guys may think that making people happy is all what they wanted. not exactly, nice guys have this myth, if i make people happy they'll appreciate me. and when this "theory" is not met.they start to look for what did they do wrong? they wanted to be appreciated, is that too much to ask? and here kicks in anxiety and depression.

Well, psychologist may suggest a deep long term therapy. this is the most effective solutions. quick fixes are not effective. i shouldn't be writing that, because I'm always looking for quick fixes. and I choose to fake not being a nice guy rather then engaging in long term solutions as a start.

So i was too nice guy before, time to get into alpha male's shoes and try how it works for me. easy said then done, faking confidence wasn't easy, hiding negative emotion was pretty hard. but the problem is, i always check if people would like me better then the nice guy version of me, this is bad thinking! alpha males don't care about what other thinks, and they don't put much effort for an minor outcome.

I also noticed that my social circle size decreased, people who i used always to initiate conversations with, girls that put me in the friend-zone etc.. don't have interactions with me anymore, this is kinda shaken me a bit. But what's left in my social circle are the true friends, the beta males, couple girls that are interested in me. i was okay with that because i knew that in the relationships i lost, i was being submissive and wasn't good for me. and i thought that the person i was having interaction with had much more value then i do, and that's why they are not being submissive to me, and those were specially alpha males and hot girls, those who i admire and always devalue myself and values them and being too polite, nice and generous with them.

I started by working on my social circle, since i had many beta males, i wasn't pretty hopeful but i decided to be alpha around them, and be the leader of this social circle.

After couple months, i noticed changes in me, I'm more confident, my social circle are always looking for my approval, everyone looks at me when they say something or tell a joke, my opinion was too important for them. even though i had a much smaller social circle, and still the same individuals, i felt better and to my big surprise, individuals i used to be submissive, nice and generous with and always looking for there approval were hitting on me, "You changed" only god knows how much i loved it when i heard it.

_________________
Golden Rules i learned:
1- If you complement do it a serious way.
2- If a conversation starts with a low vibe and seems not getting anywhere, be direct but not on an emotional level.