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Wilde
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 Posted: Wed Feb 27, 2008 3:23 pm Post subject: Retaining attraction and comfort |
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| Throughout to ensure a LTR. Any advice? |
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Valence
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| Posted: Wed Feb 27, 2008 10:51 pm Post subject: |
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The same attraction switches apply during a LTR.
Be funny, spontaneous, and an outgoing person. Do not let your life revolve around her. Let her have a piece of it though. Be a challenge to her and do not always give in.
Most important! Only give the relationship as much as she is giving. |
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Broken_Halo
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| Valencehe s wrote: |
Most important! Only give the relationship as much as she is giving. |
Dude, I totally disagree with this. everything else you said was right on but I've found that in LTR's women are the responders. If men are the thermostats women are the thermometer. Makes sense? We control the heat in a relationship, not them. The less we give the less they give anc eventually the relationship will fizzle out. |
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Rye Lee
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| Posted: Thu Feb 28, 2008 5:26 am Post subject: |
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| Check out David Shade's works. I could say a bunch about this, but I'd mostly just be repeating what I've learned from him. |
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Valence
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| Quote: | | Dude, I totally disagree with this. everything else you said was right on but I've found that in LTR's women are the responders. If men are the thermostats women are the thermometer. Makes sense? We control the heat in a relationship, not them. The less we give the less they give anc eventually the relationship will fizzle out. |
I agree with the premise of what you are saying.
Little by little you can chip away a relationship. In addition, little by little, you can grow a relationship.
What I was referring to was a person that throws a bunch of fuel on the fire does not automatically raise the thremometer. It will get to the point of the running away.
Basically, if a guy runs around screaming that he loves her, that does not mean that she is going to recipicate it. |
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