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Wilde
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 Posted: Sat Mar 01, 2008 7:47 pm Post subject: Push me pull me |
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Everyone says push pull push pull. I know examples of push pull in a conversational context, e.g the you have the fourth best smile i've seen all night etc.
However, what I don't get fully is how to push pull (actions). Carlos Xuma and countless others mention you have to push her away a little (i'm guessing freeze her out for a few days?), then when she responds (i.e. texts you/calls you) you reward her then pull away again. But I don't get what you're meant to do to reward her and then pull away again?
Please can I have some examples of pushing and pulling through actions?
Thank You.
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BlakMagik
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that example u gave of a push-pull was actually more of a neg.. they are slightly different. IMO a neg is one of the many ways to implement a push-pull.. though the aim of a neg is more to reduce their value and raise ur perceived value.
push-pull is generally an attitude u display towards ur target. e.g. u kino escalate and then wen she takes it further u go back a little and say somethin like "hey not so fast.. im not THAT easy." or "you're pretty forward now aren't u?" basically this strategy keeps them on their toes and guessing as it shows that u are spontaneous and poses a challenge to them. sending mixed messages also makes u appear more 'mysterious' as u are harder to figure out. |
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Brainz
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Here's something that I tried on a girl in high school once (as a push):
The dame: Hey Brainz, why don't you come with me to the admin?
Brainz: Why don't you go on your own?
The dame (pretending to be upset): Fine! I will!
Brainz: Ok, see you later!
The dame: NOOOOOO!!! I WANT YOU TO COME WITH ME!
As far as I can tell, that example embodies the concept of the push; she wants to lead you, but you show her that she has no power over you; you're in charge, you're the alpha male, you're the leader! The private follows the sergeant, so the private has zero power!
Unfortunately I'm not 100% sure about this, so I recommend that you ask a PUA before applying it; now that I'm a AFC, I'm still testing the underlying philosophy.
And no, no one actually calls me "Brainz" in real life.. =p |
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