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JChapman
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 Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 6:25 am Post subject: Problem with ignoring girls that show interest |
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This is regarding the girl from this thread: [link]
Basically, I'm pretty sure she's interested in me, but being new to this, I'm pretty much an AFC and have no idea what to do. Anyway, we've talked a little bit, but I still don't know how to read IOIs so even though I'm pretty sure she's interested, my doubts are holding me back. If any of you could give me some suggestions on what IOIs to look for in a classroom environment, that would help me out a ton.
Anyway, today while waiting for class, we were standing outside and she walked towards me and tried to make eye contact, but I wouldn't look at her. The thing is, I don't have a problem making and maintaining eye contact when the girls aren't the ones initiating it. When I know they're trying to make eye contact, I won't do it for some stupid reason that's unknown to me. Anyway she stands next to me and I think I can tell by her body language that she wants to talk. Instead, I do something else so she can't initiate and then I walk away to talk to other people. After a bit, I turn around and see she's moved closer to me and still standing alone so I move to a different group.
I know this is dumb, but I have this problem where when I think a girl is interested, I'll ignore her. Any suggestions on this? Also, once I finally stop ignoring her, what's a good way to build attraction and comfort in a classroom environment? Is it basically the same as any other environment or do I have to play it differently?
I'm learning slowly not to be an AFC, but it's taking a lot more effort than I thought it would. |
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nuk1m
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 8:27 am Post subject: |
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| Well as far the ignoring thing, that used to happen to me. Whenever I thought a girl was interested in me I would ignore her too much, thinking it would increase attraction, show im not needy, etc. I think this is a small form of approach anxiety and you just need to get over it and start talking. Just be really kick back and relaxed about it. |
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mozyFresh
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 12:58 pm Post subject: |
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Everybody feels nerves now and again, its normal, just take the pressure off yourself and dont think too much of it.
Like they say, the best way to find out if a girl is intrested in you is to talk to her. Just open her and see what happens, even if its just a 'hiya'.
Umm IOI for classroom/hallway
Looks and glances at you every minute or so
re-arranges clothing or accessories
She mirrows you
Looks at you from the side to hide she's looking
Smiles
She holds eye contact,
Looks away with embarrasment |
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