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pharmorjac PUA Forum Enthusiast Joined: 21 Jan 2008 Posts: 49 Location: RIC Reputation: 22.4	Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 11:51 am    Post subject: Potential One-itis but I know better So sometimes I think I need to just put my thoughts on paper. It clears my head and honestly I could use the practice writing my thoughts out. Long story short - I'm out of the country for work. I had been gaming a friend of mine in the sense that we had been flirting at group events for a few months. Two weeks ago I had a realization that really put things in perspective for me: 1 - Don't hate the player hate the game. I realized that every dude out there is after the same thing (the girl, sex, etc). For that reason you have to do your own thing and not let others take you out of your frame. 2 - I like this girl enough to activley pursue her. Like I said before we had been flirting for a few months but I decided that I'm going to pursue this girl. We hung out the day before she went on vacation (tennis followed by dinner at my place). I got a hug before she left. She was really too sweaty to do anything more. What's driving me crazy is she didn't respond to my last email (I emailed her, she emailed me, then I send another one).....total AFC thing to do but I can't help it. I like this girl, I'm not in town to gauge her response, and I'm just a mess (checking my email multiple times a day). On top of that I've been emailing a mutual friend of ours who has been explaining to me how I flirt too much. Totally pissing me off. My usual response would be to do something about it (hang out with friends, go out sarging, etc), but I'm out of the country with a 60 year old man. He is such a debbie downer it drives me crazy... So like the subject says I know better. I know that the reason we learn these skills is to make it that one women doesn't become our obsession...but I think what has me so f-ed up is that now people are saying that using my skills is lowering my value. Like I can't even talk to other girls....GARBAGE. Any advice is always appreciated...thanks for reading my vent, hope it makes sense.
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Buccaneer Member of PUA Forum Joined: 09 Dec 2008 Posts: 134 Location: Amsterdam Reputation: 39.8 votes: 3	Posted: Wed Aug 26, 2009 1:03 pm    Post subject: you wrote: but I think what has me so f-ed up is that now people are saying that using my skills is lowering my value. Like I can't even talk to other girls....GARBAGE thats probably about the friend telling you you flirt too much right? I actually see comments like that as a compliment. Your game is out there and it is being noticed. More like she is bothered that you and her friend get somewhere sexually and she feels threatend by this idea. Seriously dude, I think she's cockblocking you. So you shouldn't worry about lowering your value. Being flirtatious is a virtue. greetz Bucc
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pharmorjac PUA Forum Enthusiast Joined: 21 Jan 2008 Posts: 49 Location: RIC Reputation: 22.4	Posted: Wed Aug 26, 2009 7:08 pm    Post subject: Thanks for putting it into perspective. I really believe she is trying to cock block me...as she has pulled undermining type behavior before. I'm not even going to question why...I just need to be me. Thanks for the reminder that being social/flirtacious is value. That I still am the shit and the America better watch out. I've been in Europe two weeks with an old man....I'm back. P.S. - I'm such a lame ass - I got an email from the check on Monday. But I need to remind myself that there are tons...dont get caught up with one.
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art1stic New to PUA Forum Joined: 14 Aug 2009 Posts: 11 Reputation: 2	Posted: Fri Aug 28, 2009 11:09 pm    Post subject: Honestly dude. I take pick up as a way to find you own path. If you ginuwinely like this chick, then go for it. Fuck what PUA's think about one-itis. They're not you, they're not living your life. So I say keep going, take risks, if you and her happen to crash, you always have the PUA forum as your cushion.
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mattarama PUA Forum Enthusiast Joined: 13 Oct 2008 Posts: 42 Reputation: 7 votes: 1	Posted: Sat Oct 17, 2009 6:09 am    Post subject: just game a european, go back to the states and see if this girl is worth it. hard to believe that the worst time to game is when you're out of country...you'll never see ANYONE again, nothing to ever be worried about.
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