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her relationship was failing and she was trying to figure out if we had long term potential since shes 29 right now.
Classic monkey-brancher.
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It was brought up by her in the beginning.She tried to put me off with having a bf in the beginning but my response was that i wasnt going to do anything either of us wouldnt enjoy, that i dont like to put people on boxes. Then FWB carried on while she was in her relationship. Periodically she would tell me that she was afraid i would leaye her at any point.
All the while she was with her bf. This woman has severe insecurity issues. I normally can't stand armchair psychology (which is often employed her by certain posters who love jumping to conclusions), but I say that about this woman without remorse.
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She has issues with separation from what i could tell, probably some family trauma at some point. Eventually it got to the point where i got tired of all the secrecy and the hiding on account of her relationship so i told her she needs to sort her shit out.
The bolded words was a Debbie Downer talk.
you should've just pulled back. You were only in a FWB. You can't tell her what to do, how to live her life. you were just a fuck buddy. you crossed a line by telling her to get her shit straight. She was not that invested in you yet for you to have a relationship-type conversation. If you were doing all the right things, she would leave him for you. Had you stayed in the moment, that might've happened.
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I also told her that its best now that she takes her time and is single for a bit not rush into rebound relationships.
Again, another Debbie Downer talk. Too many negative emotions Too many "talks". Keep communications with a girl you're not exclusive with fun, light, and sexual.
I know this girl, my friend. I know her all too well. She's a mess, and you fancy yourself her hero. But the real truth is she's sexy as hell (probably the sexiest you've been with), has a certain aura about her your find irresistible. You dig her face...a lot. That's why you're putting in your time here on the forum.
Pull back, and game other women. If she reaches out:
"Hey, it's Netflix and drinks night at my place, come by when you're free."
Fun. Light. Sexual.