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I agree with what you're saying and you're also making my point. That core personality you're referring to is actually hard to access and understand to begin with.
You're core personality IS you. There is nothing hard to access about it. The hard part is accepting it, if anything.
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You can say a guy is a shy introvert, but so what? In fact, I argue it's not helpful at all even referring to it.
I don't see it this way. Point it out and accept it. Now that you've accepted it, make a game plan on how you want to approach women while recognizing the fact that you're not going to be an over-the-top person because you know that's not you.
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Your cocky/funny example is also a good example of incongruence, which by definition is inauthentic. To project your natural masculine strengths, you have to be relaxed and congruent.
Now wouldn't that be a lot easier if you accepted who you are?
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There are no two ways about it. The shy introvert needs to learn over time that it's actually not dangerous to relax and express his masculinity. So where's the core personality in that? Is it the shy introvert or the confident guy he grows into over time?
That's exactly what their core personality is if we use your description. Introversion is not a problem, but shyness is the result of not accepting one's self and in turn not believing that others will be accepting. Once you are comfortable and accepting of yourself, you can be relaxed and congruent.