Would being in med school be seen as a positive/negative? I'm starting this coming July, so I'll have close to 0 free time. I'm already shy, but could being in med school give me an "excuse" while I work up my social skills by interacting with classmates, patients, etc.

It will definitely be a postive. Just don't mention it. I'm an engineer and in Belgium studying engineering is the equivalent of going to an Ivy college in the USA. So I bragged and bragged about how smart I was and other stupid shit... Didn't work.

The truth is: girls don't care, nobody cares. Nobody cares about you. Unless you're in a serious relationship girls don't care about boring stuff like medical school and other "intellectual" subjects. If you're in your early 20s or younger the only thing they will expect is you being fun and entertaining.

Don't mention any of it. If you're smart, girls will notice eventually. Having good soft skills is 100x more important than being smart.

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Looking for excuses for being shy is such a bad frame to have in the first place. The only real benefit or leverage it gives you is that it makes you really busy, which is viewed favorably by women. They want a guy who is always into something and not just sitting around on the couch playing videogames.

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Thanks for the advice. Med school will literally consume by life for the next 10-11 years, so I can't really out much. That being said, I already suffer from extreme shyness so this will be difficult.

You need to get comfortable with being around girls in a variety of situations by pushing yourself outside your current comfort zone.

Good job putting your live and career 1st, but it's not a crutch. What 20 something male with blood flowing through his veins, doesn't have time for pussy? Use those extra moments you'd otherwise be rinsing a mess of your unborn children down the shower drain, to actually speak to a real live girl.

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Thanks, man. I have crippling social anxiety, and really don't want to be awkward and ruin my rep in front of my classmates. Any advice of overcoming SA? I've had it since I was a little kid, and I'm 25 now. I've tried therapy, medication, meditation, supplements, all that jazz.

Fuck that. The only substance ever proven to work on social anxiety is BOOZE. It's been helping shy dudes bang random sluts for eons. Fucking Google it.


The reason none of that works, is because you never FACE IT!

I have a distinct memory from years back when even a not that hot but girl spoke to me in the most random normal way, I lock eyes, nearly piss myself and literally trail off in the middle of the sentence out of pure fear, and look at my feet.

Despite my fear I managed to push myself. I would start pushing myself a tiny bit further out of my comfort zone each time.

Know what I figured out?

Nobody fucking cares. Not the girl you're shrugging to squeak out a 'Hi' to. Not the one, or sixty other people in the room. Not your Mom, Your Dad, or uncle Phil.

Are you going to get rejected? Well yeah dumb dumb. Not everyone on earth will like you, or is likable!

REJECTION ISN'T WEIRD UNLESS YOU MAKE IT WEIRD!

Again, NOBODY CARES.

The best way to deal, and that will cause the least emotional stress for yourself is to just let it roll off and go back to being chill. She'll care so little she'll likely tell no one.

I say this on here a lot. Why be afraid what you'll say to a woman, the ones that react positively, nice! Roll with it. The ones that don't, FUCK THEM you don't want anything to do with them anyway.

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An excuse for what?

Excuses are the nails that build the house of failure. Never make excuses. Just be honest, and own up to your circumstances and you'll be fine. There's no excuse to not get good at something; if you don't have the time, you'll get good when you do have the time but you can't except to have the social success of someone who does.

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One thing that helps with social anxiety when it comes to pickup is to not open sets and go into social situations thinking from an outcome dependent/getting laid mindset. You're only actual goal should be simply to talk to people. Getting girls numbers, kisses, dates, etc., is all just extra stuff that you'll try to do if you can, but it shouldn't be your goal...at least not at first.

When your game is not on point or the girl just doesn't like you cuz you're not her type, as soon as you go into "pickup mode" and she can tell, she'll blow you out real quick. But if you are just an interesting guy talking to her about random shit, with no apparent motivation other than being social, she'll sit there and chit chat with you all night. Hot girls too, trust me.

Get proficient at that, because what you'll do is establish preselection and social proof and when you are talking to that 9, the decent looking 7.5 in the corner will see it. She knows that 9 could easily have you if she wanted, so when you finally get around to talking to the 7.5 she'll be eager to get your attention and be much more receptive.

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