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Hmm I'm gonna bite the bullet and say either they do live together or she did his laundry because that's a really, really weird misuse of the joke otherwise. Seems more rational to assume they live together or she was actually doing his laundry than to assume he is that incapable of knowing when to use this joke. Supporting my view is also the fact that OP gets upset when she responds. If it's that horrific of a joke and she responds asking what he means then it's ridiculous for him to suddenly get pissed off about it and complain "she always does this stupid chit when it's obvious what i mean." That makes much less sense than her simply getting an attitude when he thanks her for doing his laundry and cleaning for him. Particularly since she's having a rough week and went even further by calling him an idiot. Agree? Again there's no proof that this was a joke. Why not clarify first before assuming?
Again, OP never said they lived together. OP never mentioned any complications with living together that would arise when he got home. They've been dating for 5 months. If they ARE living together, you would think these things would be in here. And as to clarifying, didnt you come at me saying i was wrong immediately, instead of saying well OP hasnt mentioned they live together, so neo could be right? Did you try to clarify how I came to my conclusion? No. See Chantos, this is what I mean by you're not thinking...because if you were you wont have asked why I didnt clarify something, when you didnt. You're assuming since he was upset, they MUST live together. I'm assuming as he hasnt done the sensical thing and stated that they live together, or mentioned any complications that are coming when he goes HOME, that they dont. As I've said, OP is already all over the place; he says this was the first time, yet says he cant stand this shit anymore. So you really cant just use the logic of well he was upset so they MUST live together.
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Your thesis does not address my argument that freeze outs work on women other than crazy women. My gfs are not crazy. Sometimes they cross the line. When they do, I ignore them. It lets them calm down and think about what they've done. It shows they don't get to interact with me if they're going to cross the line. Somehow this makes me an idiot and them crazy as fuck? Two guys on a PUA forum say they freeze out girls and suddenly freeze outs only work on complete psychopaths and cheaters? Huh? I'm not sure you've had that much relationship or dating experience. I can't tell. You're definitely not a pick up artist which is fine, but what's your background? How many LTR's have you been in? Are you currently in a LTR? Do you read about attraction theory and relationship theory? If so, who? I want to know why you think the way you do. We agree on a lot of things but I completely disagree with what you're saying here. You seem like a guy who has had 2-3 girlfriends, each for many years at a time, and is currently single. You also seem a bit "blue pill," a phrase coined by guys who know a shitload more than both of us about women and relationship theory.
Sigh...again, you're not putting thought into things. I say you just have theory, you ask me what theories I follow?! I'm sorry man, life and looking out for my happiness is my theory. Not playing games is my theory. See, one thing you'll learn is most of the PU stuff/relationship stuff is by weird guys selling you something. It's meant so you read and study a whole bunch of shit to get girls who when you say Thanks, they pretend to be confused to fuck with you. Sorry, tbh, I have NEVER EVER known a girl who acted like she didnt know something as simple as Thanks, to fuck with me. And if I met one and she did, I'd think she was retarded. See, you follow that shit to think these things are NORMAL. They're not. These "tests" are just symptoms of bipolarism. This is normal to you?! This is a girl you should tactics to get back?! Sorry, I just dont deal with these types of women.
And to further show how you arent thinking, what is good experience with relationships? Having 2-3 long ones, or having 15 short ones that didnt work out? Because if I had 2-3 long ones, I'd be good at relationships, but only have a limited experience. And if I had 10-15 short ones, I'd be bad at relationships. So is it better experience wise to be in a few long relationships, or a lot of short ones that failed? Hmm...see this is when you think before you make a point.
You need to step away from the whole blue pill thing and theories. Its that kinda stuff that makes you believe that a chick snapping at you for nvm, and then crying to you is normal and something you need to hang on to.
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What is your solution if you're in OP's exact situation? If the girl has some sort of disorder, that is an issue of preselection, not an issue of whether OP in this exact situation did the right thing when being disrespected. What is he supposed to do? He did exactly the right thing and she immediately realized she was being an asshole and apologized. He got the best possible outcome given the circumstances. He did not say he was sorry and justify her actions. He maintained leadership and control of the scenario. He didn't explode or get violent with her. He did everything right. What more do you want from the guy? Do you seriously have to bash his gf like that, calling her a psycho? Again you seem to not have much experience man.
Never said OP responded badly. Where are you getting that. Who has more experience dude, the guy saying this behavior isnt normal, or the guy saying it is? What could your options be if you would tell someone to maintain leadership with a borderline personality girl, who evidently pulls shit on the OP all the time, or the guy telling him there are other girls? See, you're showing what's important to you, her interest over your happiness. Lol, do you really think a chick who snaps at a Nevermind, is gonna settle down? That things are gonna stop being shitty? That since she cant control herself over a nvm, she's gonna learn something here?
I see the theory seeping out of your words, and I know that the girls that I dated when I believed that bs that would even come close to saying piss off over a nevermind, were crazy or mentally messed up. You talk about PUA forum and pickup artist...would a pickup artist choose this kinda relationship? Would a PUA go through "shit" with a girl more than once? 5 Months, and "shit" means walk. Yes, a freeze out will work and make her chase. But then be prepared for more shit. You're telling the dude, carry on, to get back in the shit.
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I disagree with the assumption that the girl needs to be crazy for a freeze out to work. All girls have bad weeks. All girls get out of line now and then. It doesn't set up a bad dynamic to withhold your affection and remove your presence when a girl directly insults you. It's completely logical, in fact. What is illogical is assuming that men and women have the same responses to problems, and that what works between men (working logically through a problem) will work for a relationship issue between a man and a woman. Non-verbal communication is so much more effective and creates such a clearer dynamic than incessant verbal communication. Try it and see for yourself.
If problems are arising so much that it's either
incessant communication (verbal) or non verbal communication...guess what...doesnt sound like a fun relationship. You talk like girls are just these crazy creatures that it takes effort or punishment or withholding attention, for simple human fucking decency. Why the fuck would you or me or anyone be with a girl who finds it difficult for her naturally not to insult you? I swear, when you talk about freeze outs like they're needed, is like someone telling me you need to buy a gun so when you go to X bar, when they start shooting you can shoot back. And my first thought is, wtf would I go to a bar like that?! That's not normal!!
You guys seriously wife girls who insult you?! Who you have to worry about being insulted? And meanwhile, some "pill" dude tells you to expect this shit so you can stay unhappy with chicks that cant naturally dont respect you and who are that emotional.