Whats up guys, i got the idea for this from another thread which was authored by Mastermind9000, the link to the thread is here: post898551.html#p898551

Me and mastermind are about 90% on the same page so im not gonna re-write a guide. I will give some of my own pointers

For all who are interested in what its like to be a "Lone Wolf", Im gonna post my in field experiences. I honestly LOVE being a lone wolf, its how i learned and have gone out with other guys as wings but being a lone wolf has many advantages, the main one just simply being the master of your own night. The disadvantages you can all work through to the point were they dont even matter once you are good.

A little about my self. When I got in to game I didnt really have very many single friends, im in my 30's and most of my friends are all married. When I started learning game so much emphasis was put on having a wing, that i thought all i could really do was Daygame. Dabbled with that for awhile with mixed results but had a realization, why couldnt I apply my skills at night game. My biggest hurdle to overcome was obviously going out alone and being afraid of being "the creepy guy at the bar". So I decided to do an experiment, and just go out and see what it would be like. No other goals other then go to the bar, be a fly on the wall, have some drinks, check the scene out and leave whenever I was ready. What happened was the best thing that happened to my gaming ever. At the height of my game, I was number closing 2-3 girls a night, F closing maybe once out of every 3 or 4 nights out. F closed 2 different girls in one night, and at one point had a drunk girl following me around the bar begging me to go home with her, saying "you dont even have to F*** me I just want to suck your d***. She wasnt very attractive and was pretty heavy set as well, just had zero interest in her and kept telling her, "your drunk and you dont want that, you would regret it in the morning"

So flash forward to today. About a year ago or so I gamed a girl who I eventually decided to keep and become monogamous with. She was and still is an absolute awesome girl, but I am just not ready to make the big final move and settle down, I missed gaming and although she was just about perfect and fun in every way, I knew i was still just not ready to eat the same meal every night, even it is steak and lobster you know what I mean? So i broke it off with her and we are gonna remain friends for now.

So back to Gaming it is for me. I was awesome like a year ago but forgot probably 80% of the shit I knew. I was even a little afraid to hit the bars and clubs by myself again. I knew how to do it kinda but it becomes a state of mind and behavior and before you know it, it is just who you are. I went a year with having a partner at the club/bar with me and lost all of that. So where did I go? back to where I started before

Ok so here is my intro and im gonna give a little more explanation and my rules and the tools that I use. then I plan on giving in field reports on what goes down and what its like so hopefully some people can learn from this. fell free to critique my game, give pointers, ask questions, etc. I have had 3 nights out so far since the breakup so i will put all those on here pretty quick.

OK so a few things about going out alone. So much is all just in your head and is not the reality when you actually get out there. You are only gonna be the "creepy guy" if you are the "creepy guy". It is a hurdle at first but just give yourself time and it will become completely natural. Go at it slow, start out by just going out alone having drinks and "checking the scene out" then as time goes on you can start coming more and more out of your shell.

Ask yourself these questions:

If Brad Pitt was at a bar by himself and was laughing and smiling and having a good time being social would he be creepy? No, so why would I be then?

If there is a good looking chick at the bar and she looks like she is having fun and talking to people, would she give you the creeps? No? Then why would I give anyone the creeps.

Am I a fu****g man or not, do I need someone to hold my hand while I go be social?

Ok so once again read mastermind9000 thread for some good instructions on this, link is in the first post. Just remember this will get easier and take it one hurdle at a time, before you know it you will be having a LOT of fun and meeting a LOT of girls.

One thing to remember is you are not going to be alone the whole night, you are just gonna be alone for a little bit till you start meeting people. I find that the easiest place to start developing this is at a Karaoke bar or a place that does Karaoke. It is very easy to make friends there. you will make friends simply by walking up to the singer when they are done, patting them on the back and telling them "man you did good, that s**t was awesome!!" Most people are nervous as hell while they are up there and when you give them that it makes them feel great and they will usually immediately introduce themselves, if not introduce yourself and shake their hand. Guess what, you just made a friend. I recommend learning 3-4 upbeat, fun songs very well so that you can sing them, all the people that you congratulated will usually all congratulate you and start being social with you when you are done singing. Any hints of people thinking your creepy melt away when your up there getting everyone moving to a fun song, especially when they see all your new friends coming over and talking with you and smiling and laughing with you. You will see more of this in my infield reports.

Ok so My general rules of gaming,
Rule 1- never game the help, they are great people to have as friends, you bang one and it doesnt work out, you might as well forget about going back to that spot for awhile, unless you want to compromise your game by having her tell everyone "he's just a player"

Rule 2 (my personal) dont game chicks with boyfriends or who are married, there are plenty of single chicks out there and where I live, gaming a taken girl can get your a** beat and possibly even killed. Its just not worth it. Once a chick tells me she is married or has a BF im done, and im just gonna keep her there to increase my social value.

Rule 3 always carry condoms, $100 cash for cabs, a fully charged phone, numbers for taxis. As a "lone wolfer" you never know where you will end up by the end of the night.

Ok i will add to this as time goes on.

This was last saturday

Ok so night 1 back in the field. I was facing some anxiety because it had been almost a year since i went out and sarged on my own, combine that with being fresh out of a breakup and i was all jacked inside. I spent most of the day refreshing and watching PUA videos, and decided that i was gonna just be the fly on the wall and stick my toe in the water and didnt have any further goals then that. I pre-game at my place by having a couple of brews putting on some dance music and/or standup comedy that is what i have found usually will bring me in to state.

I get all gussied up and head down to a local strip where there are like 3-4 bars all withing walking distance. I walk in to the first bar nice and smooth, head up high with a confident expression on my face, when i make eye contact with people i just kinda give a sly smile, and nod. I head to the bathroom first thing cause i have to piss thanks to my beers at home, and there is another guy in there, so i just say "sup bro" he says "hi back", and i handle my business. The place is f***** packed. There is luckily a seat open at the bar so I "I line" it right to the spot and sit down. Im allready feeling pretty comfortable so im thinking about moving past my goals of being a fly on the wall. So I sit down and my mannerisms are, cool calm relaxed. Im supposed to be here, I look as though I might as well be at home on my couch, taking up as much space as i can considering the circumstances. I order a brew and just chill. Im looking around and just smiling. The guy to my right is with his wife, he looks over and i just smile and nod, he doesnt really respond so im like whatever. There are like 3 bigger girls to my left and they are not really facing me so im just chilling. Im getting smiles from a couple of the servers (ones that are not even serving me), and from bartender, so i just smile and nod (dont hit on the help!!!).

After about 15 mins or so the guy and his wife leave, and a young dude and his buddy come up and ask if the seats available so i just say "for sure" they sit down and I ask "have you guys been anywhere else tonight, just want to know if i should check some place out or avoid some place" they tell me about there night and the girl situations there. We start chit chatting it up and I have a good conversation for about 20 minutes or so, already made some friends. They have a third friend show up and he doesnt have a seat so i tell him to sit tight for a sec, im gonna leave after my brew and check out another bar, so he could have my seat. he was all stoked, and all 4 of us chatted it up for a few minutes and I shook all their hands paid my tab and split down to the next bar.

As im walking up to the next bar I see two girls (not attractive at all, but cool as hell) that I knew from highschool, and a third (really attractive) girl with them out side smoking, so Im like "sweet" so I go join them and chit chat with them for a bit, I decide im gonna hang with them as I want to get to know the third girl. So we hung out inside and outside the bar, and I was talking a lot with all three of them and gaming the girl a little bit. She was totally interested and all was going well until the guy she was (I guess) dating showed up, and I just so happened to know him too (double whammy!!!). So we all hang out for a good hour or so as this is going on im having more and more beers, so im starting to lose hold of my state. I decide to go to the next bar, so I give hugs and bounce outta there.

I arrive at the next bar, im pretty tipsy as of this point, being a fly on the wall was a distant memory. My State is all jacked, but im having fun. As i walk in to the bar the "cupid shuffle" is going on and everyone is out there dancing so i find a seat at the bar and put my jacket on it and just run out to the dancefloor cause i love dancing especially the cupid shuffle, wobble, bikers shuffle, k-wang (LEARN THESE DANCES!!!!) and i just slide right into the line and start busting it out. Im looking around the place as im doing it and getting lots of looks from girls, some mixed, hard to tell if they are positive or negative, some smiles, some what looks like laughing, but who knows if its about me. Honestly I dont even care as of this point. So i see these two mediocre girls looking and smiling at me, and I motion for them to come out and they say " we dont know it " so im slurring, "Ill teach you guys come on" they just giggle and shake their head no. whatever just keep dancing.

After the song is over, I go back to my bar seat and order a drink (as if i need another!!!). So im chilling, and a few minutes later i see a large group come in maybe like 4 guys and 4 girls (one girl was cute), they sit down at a table/booth sorta thing they have at this bar. Im just observing the dynamic trying to figure out who is with who etc. it doesnt look like they any of them are dating each other. Im guessing work friends?? One of the guys is standing next to the table and he looks friendly so in my drunken stupor i head over to question the suspect. He had on a hat the kind that old school golfers would wear, not sure on the name but, anyway there is my in.

So I roll up and say, "hey man, sick hat, i always wanted to get one of those, hows it going" We start chit chatting and he starts singing like a canary, tells me all about where he's from, he's new town, yadda yadda. So i ask him, "man large group, do you guys all work together?" so he says they are all from a "meet up group" . So Im like "no way, ive always heard about those but never tried joining one, its always about hiking and stuff like that..." yadda yadda. So I ask him if anyone is dating anyone else in the group and he says "no". I act like he just told me the secret to the Omega code or something im like "NO WAY!!!" (keep in mind, im pretty close to full blown trashed as of this point). so I tell him I dont believe him and he is like "uh... ok...well check for yourself" before he finishes the sentance im on the other side of the table trying to talk to the cute chick.

I slurred out "hey...so your friend over there says that you are single". The girl next to her which was kinda chunky got a huge smile on her face and was all excited to see me, but my target, who I was going for just got the look on her face like she just smelled a fart, and said "um.... yea im not interested" I just smiled and realized i was trashed said " you know what, i dont blame you" shook her hand and exited. went back to the bar paid my Tab and peaced out.

Walking home i was just laughing at myself ha ha, Mr fly on the wall. About 30 seconds later went through and realized everything that was wrong with my approach and open which was pretty much everything, but was proud of my self for getting back out there and excited to do it again, and make sure i keep my consumption down. At the height of my game I would go out and not drink at all and that is the primo spot to be cause yoou can drive wherever you want and you are in a completely focused state, while the girls have a few in them and are feeling good. Not ready just yet, still need a little liquid courage to take the edge off.

-Troublesome

This was last saturday

Ok so night 1 back in the field. I was facing some anxiety because it had been almost a year since i went out and sarged on my own, combine that with being fresh out of a breakup and i was all jacked inside. I spent most of the day refreshing and watching PUA videos, and decided that i was gonna just be the fly on the wall and stick my toe in the water and didnt have any further goals then that. I pre-game at my place by having a couple of brews putting on some dance music and/or standup comedy that is what i have found usually will bring me in to state.

I get all gussied up and head down to a local strip where there are like 3-4 bars all withing walking distance. I walk in to the first bar nice and smooth, head up high with a confident expression on my face, when i make eye contact with people i just kinda give a sly smile, and nod. I head to the bathroom first thing cause i have to piss thanks to my beers at home, and there is another guy in there, so i just say "sup bro" he says "hi back", and i handle my business. The place is f***** packed. There is luckily a seat open at the bar so I "I line" it right to the spot and sit down. Im allready feeling pretty comfortable so im thinking about moving past my goals of being a fly on the wall. So I sit down and my mannerisms are, cool calm relaxed. Im supposed to be here, I look as though I might as well be at home on my couch, taking up as much space as i can considering the circumstances. I order a brew and just chill. Im looking around and just smiling. The guy to my right is with his wife, he looks over and i just smile and nod, he doesnt really respond so im like whatever. There are like 3 bigger girls to my left and they are not really facing me so im just chilling. Im getting smiles from a couple of the servers (ones that are not even serving me), and from bartender, so i just smile and nod (dont hit on the help!!!).

After about 15 mins or so the guy and his wife leave, and a young dude and his buddy come up and ask if the seats available so i just say "for sure" they sit down and I ask "have you guys been anywhere else tonight, just want to know if i should check some place out or avoid some place" they tell me about there night and the girl situations there. We start chit chatting it up and I have a good conversation for about 20 minutes or so, already made some friends. They have a third friend show up and he doesnt have a seat so i tell him to sit tight for a sec, im gonna leave after my brew and check out another bar, so he could have my seat. he was all stoked, and all 4 of us chatted it up for a few minutes and I shook all their hands paid my tab and split down to the next bar.

As im walking up to the next bar I see two girls (not attractive at all, but cool as hell) that I knew from highschool, and a third (really attractive) girl with them out side smoking, so Im like "sweet" so I go join them and chit chat with them for a bit, I decide im gonna hang with them as I want to get to know the third girl. So we hung out inside and outside the bar, and I was talking a lot with all three of them and gaming the girl a little bit. She was totally interested and all was going well until the guy she was (I guess) dating showed up, and I just so happened to know him too (double whammy!!!). So we all hang out for a good hour or so as this is going on im having more and more beers, so im starting to lose hold of my state. I decide to go to the next bar, so I give hugs and bounce outta there.

I arrive at the next bar, im pretty tipsy as of this point, being a fly on the wall was a distant memory. My State is all jacked, but im having fun. As i walk in to the bar the "cupid shuffle" is going on and everyone is out there dancing so i find a seat at the bar and put my jacket on it and just run out to the dancefloor cause i love dancing especially the cupid shuffle, wobble, bikers shuffle, k-wang (LEARN THESE DANCES!!!!) and i just slide right into the line and start busting it out. Im looking around the place as im doing it and getting lots of looks from girls, some mixed, hard to tell if they are positive or negative, some smiles, some what looks like laughing, but who knows if its about me. Honestly I dont even care as of this point. So i see these two mediocre girls looking and smiling at me, and I motion for them to come out and they say " we dont know it " so im slurring, "Ill teach you guys come on" they just giggle and shake their head no. whatever just keep dancing.

After the song is over, I go back to my bar seat and order a drink (as if i need another!!!). So im chilling, and a few minutes later i see a large group come in maybe like 4 guys and 4 girls (one girl was cute), they sit down at a table/booth sorta thing they have at this bar. Im just observing the dynamic trying to figure out who is with who etc. it doesnt look like they any of them are dating each other. Im guessing work friends?? One of the guys is standing next to the table and he looks friendly so in my drunken stupor i head over to question the suspect. He had on a hat the kind that old school golfers would wear, not sure on the name but, anyway there is my in.

So I roll up and say, "hey man, sick hat, i always wanted to get one of those, hows it going" We start chit chatting and he starts singing like a canary, tells me all about where he's from, he's new town, yadda yadda. So i ask him, "man large group, do you guys all work together?" so he says they are all from a "meet up group" . So Im like "no way, ive always heard about those but never tried joining one, its always about hiking and stuff like that..." yadda yadda. So I ask him if anyone is dating anyone else in the group and he says "no". I act like he just told me the secret to the Omega code or something im like "NO WAY!!!" (keep in mind, im pretty close to full blown trashed as of this point). so I tell him I dont believe him and he is like "uh... ok...well check for yourself" before he finishes the sentance im on the other side of the table trying to talk to the cute chick.

I slurred out "hey...so your friend over there says that you are single". The girl next to her which was kinda chunky got a huge smile on her face and was all excited to see me, but my target, who I was going for just got the look on her face like she just smelled a fart, and said "um.... yea im not interested" I just smiled and realized i was trashed said " you know what, i dont blame you" shook her hand and exited. went back to the bar paid my Tab and peaced out.

Walking home i was just laughing at myself ha ha, Mr fly on the wall. About 30 seconds later went through and realized everything that was wrong with my approach and open which was pretty much everything, but was proud of my self for getting back out there and excited to do it again, and make sure i keep my consumption down. At the height of my game I would go out and not drink at all and that is the primo spot to be cause yoou can drive wherever you want and you are in a completely focused state, while the girls have a few in them and are feeling good. Not ready just yet, still need a little liquid courage to take the edge off.

-Troublesome

I'm recently single and I LOVE night game as well. Recently temporarily moved to the UK so its taken a while to make friends to go regular sarging with but I have at least one decent guy from the forum and we do go out regularly.

I think you highlight the key to being successful at night game - have FUN, ENJOY YOURSELF, and be social.

I feel you with the alcohol, but thankfully I usually stop drinking by the time I'm getting tipsy (that, and I want to save money) so I usually slow down after drink 4-5 and almost never get drunk. While I know a lot of "gurus" suggest not drinking I honestly think that a couple of drinks don't hurt to get you in the mood and as long as you don't overdo your increased mood comes in handy!

I hope someday to Sarge in another country, that would be epic. Absolutely, the more fun you have the more your social value goes up and people want to be a part of your little world. At one point I was confident enough to game with no alcohol and I do truly want to get back to that cause it had massive benefits. Your focus is just dialed in and you make far fewer mistakes, but you have to get to a point where you can be super confident with no alcohol and it takes time. Another major benefit is being able to drive where ever you want. i live in a town that is pretty spread out so the bars are several miles from each other except for a few that are on the same strip, so being able to drive to one place if its a slow night, just get back in the car and head to the next. Also just being able to take girls home easier, not having to wait for cabs.

OK so night 2 which was a week night

I want to be as discreet and as vague as possible cause I dont want to get eh found out per se.

Ok so after my shenanigans on my last adventure, had to re dial and change some stuff. This wasnt too much of a crazy night but had some results. So the only place that I thought had some potential for a week night was a bar across town. This bar has some benefits and some downfalls. The benefits is its always usually got something going on and this is where the hottest girls go. The downside is the environment. Its not too much of a fun environment, no dancing, no karaoke, kinda just a sports bar that is usually loaded with mainly mixed sets and most people that go there are regulars so all these mixed sets all know the other mixed sets. It can kinda be intimidating for a lone wolfer that is trying to build his confidence back up.

I just watched Gamblers video on forced IOI's, so my goals for tonight were to:
- have better control of my drinking
- practice forced IOI's to start to hone this skill so that it becomes the norm
- approach any 1-2 sets that were HB7 or more (non mixed, still not ready yet)

So I arrive at the bar, walk in nice and confident, and find me a good spot where I had plenty of visual for practicing my forced IOI's. There are a TON of mixed sets maybe 8 or 9 total, which I was expecting, and one girl which was maybe an HB5 who was sitting at the bar itself facing away from me. So I sit at a table and face the majority of the crowd. To my left is a guy at a table by himself which would have been good buddy buddy material, but i really wanted to focus solely on chillen and forced IOI's, and approach if it was a comfortable easy set, (still working back in to it fella's). So my composure is just calm, cool, collected with a nice smile. The waitress comes over and asks for my order, she is a HB8 but no hitting on the help. So im just as sweet as pie with a nice smile and order a beer (setting the vibe that im a pleasant, confident person). My mannerisms are relaxed, taking up plenty of space, not a creepy smile but like a "im a enjoying myself" smile, slouched in my chair and just scanning and looking around the room with a look of almost, like a curiosity.

There are two girls sitting across from me that are a HB8 and a HB9, but they are in a mixed set with 3 other dudes. The HB9 has a ring on her finger but the HB8 does not. there are a lot of other random Hb7's all across the place but in even bigger mixed sets. I make the decision to focus in on unmarried HB8 but just for the forced IOI's and will just keep it at seeing if i can get any out of her. So for about 15-20 minutes im just trying to get her to make eye contact and Im just constantly looking over at her. I think she can feel me looking at her and was purposely not looking back. i would spend about 80% of my scanning the room on her and 20% on the rest of the crowd and i swear in my periph I would see her look at me, and then look away when I tried to come back to her. At one point I look back and caught her right at the tail end and she seemed to get a little flustered cause she like shifted positions and started talking to her friend like almost like she got caught and was embarrassed.

I was trying to make heads or tails of it, and i see her motion for her friend to go to the bathroom, so Im figuring im gonna make a run to the bathroom as they are walking back to kinda face them a little more head on and force the IOI a little more, (my forcing the IOI, is just a good amount of eye contact and a smile BTW). So i see them exit and head back and i just get up nice calm and confident and with my head up and shoulders raised start walking toward the bathroom looking in their direction the whole time and they were purposely looking the other way. So im at this point like...hmm...i didnt get a negative response, but didnt get a positive, just a what would be considered like a neutral followed by a purpose avoid look away. Im guessing either she was plane ol not interested or she was with one of the guys at the table. Whatever, im gonna just not focus so much on this.

So i head to the bathroom and then head back and im chillen for a few more minutes maybe 10-15 and scanning everyone else. Im figuring im out to practice forced IOI's dammit so if i have to practice on the HB7's and lower, so be it!!!!! so i make eye contact with a actual 2 set non mixed but one is a HB2 and the other a HB4 at best. So I throw a smile at the HB4 and get a positive smile back and also have this other HB3 at another table in a mixed set who I see keep looking at me just more like checking me out, cause everytime I look at her she looks away, sometimes with a smile and i caught her like 4 or 5 times. She is with her BF, or hubby and he is just a complete slob, just mowing down about 4000 calories and drinking beer, looking like a full blown beer bellied redneck with the duck dynasty hat and all. Im figuring this poor girl is thinking "i hate my life".

So a little bit later maybe 5-10 more minutes HB8 waitress comes up to me and says hey, "someone wants to buy you a drink". Im pretty shocked an I have to say, its the first time ive ever had someone buy me a drink. It was pretty exciting, so I say, "well who is it", and she says "dont worry about it, do you want another drink?" So i say sure, so she runs back to the bar and returns with my drink and i probe her again "well who is it?" (Im jumping inside thinking im in HB8ville, she finally came around after all that forced IOI). So she points over to the bar and its that girl HB5 thats sitting not facing me, I havnt even really got a good look at her all night, and im wondering when she was checking me out (maybe on my bathroom run??) So jokingly I say fweew, i was a little worried for a minute i thought it might have been another guy" and she just starts cracking up.

So I gather my stuff and head over next to her and introduce myself, when I see her up close and face to face I realize she is actually maybe a HB6, and im allready in set so fuck it, ill get some practice, and maybe a lay out of it. So I jump right in to qualifying her and she is singing like a canary. we chit chat for a while and i find out she works there, so im like fuck (dont hit on or get involved with the help). So Im just gonna turn this in to a "good friend". So I continuously just practice my game, a little escalation a little light Kino, but dont plan to take it any farther. We found out we know a TON of the same people (even worse for a potential hook up, but she lost me at she works there anyway). Starts getting late, and i have to work in the morning so i call a cab and number close her, even just for the friendship.

Over the next few days via text, I kind of dial it back down to "Im just looking to be friends" and she kind of loses interest and the texts stop rolling in, which is cool, ill see her there again and im sure we will be cool.

not a bad night, accomplished my goals, and even had a little more excitement.

still have 2 more nights to update, need the time though, this stuff takes time to write

-Troublesome