Hello! I don't know if that's a good subforum, but I wanted to share my FR with you:
I'll try to explain my current situation step by step.
* PRELUDE: There is a girl that I find attractive, and received some IOI from her. But I overheard her talking about getting married with a BF in some time, so I left it.
* 3 months later, DAY 1: At the party, she is very drunk, and wants me to walk her home. I agree. During that adventure, a lot of kisses, grabbing my butt, whispering "you know what I want", and complaining about her BF - "he doesn't love me, he does *it* only because he needs to!". When we came her home, she passed out totally, I opened her window, put some water on the table, tucked her in the bed, closed the door and went home. I'm no necrophiliac.
* DAY 2: A day after I send her text message, and say that we need to talk. She is telling me to come her come. I tell her the story from the day before and she freezes. And then I add, that I find her very attractive. "I need to think about this" she said, I just hugged her, said that I only want for her to be happy and went home.
* DAY 3: Texted her, want to meet again, she is with her BF, and will come back home 2 days later. Then we can meet and talk.
* DAY 5 -- A NICE DATE: She is texting that we can meet outside, by some shop. She stops next to me and her first words are: "What do you want to talk about?". And then I played wisely: "Maybe we can walk and talk along?" I replied. "Sure, good idea." Then I started to talk about evening and somehow we were discussing about family, future, dreams, colleges for nearly 2h! She were constantly asking me personal questions and talking with ease about her personal life too! (crucial info that slipped: she is with her BF for 4 years, but they don't get along too well, just visiting themselves on weekends -- living separately)
* DAY 5 -- A NICER DATE? And suddenly I asked her about that 'drunk' day. If she find me attractive, or was it only one-time-drunk-event? After while, she replied "Yes, I actually find you attractive, you are handsome, nice... Maybe if I wasn't with Matt at the moment or maybe if we met before... Who knows? Oh, and by the way, thank you for the nice evening". I walk her to her doormat, "This whole case will be our secret?" she asks. "Of course, you don't even need to mention it.". Then she starts her monologue about the thing, that maybe she is not ready for a steady relationship? That maybe she is too long with him? "Oh, well, I must go.". That's when I lean to kiss her. She sees my intentions. "Please, don't do that." - she whisper quietly, slide away from my arms and go inside a home, frightened. Then the rain begins to fall as I am slowly going back to my place.
And today I received information that she'll be attending some small party (~10 people) with her boyfriend, in a few days. And... I'm invited as well (by the host). What to do? Go there? And then how to interact with them?
Fellow PUAs, please help me!
P.S.
Additional info:
* I know when she is having her gym training. (that's where I met her in the first place)
* Her holiday starts 28th. 2 weeks, with her boyfriend. (she told me about it on a Day 5)
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