The usual. Open, attract, build comfort.

This truly demostrates how real & strong attraction can be. As i get her name and shake her hand, she tells me, "I should tell you i have a boyfriend." to which i reply while holding the eye contact & her hand, "You should've told me earlier."

I continue.

She stays speaking to me for another 20 minutes. I leave massive pauses, which she fills. I hold eye contact during silences, causing her to giggle & invest more. I push her away by calling her out on things which i think is stupid, like her being German but not speaking the language well. then i pull her in by telling her i like something that she qualifies herself to me on. Attraction was solid.

Now, here's a moral dilemma i have on a consistent basis. What right do i have to destroy someone's perfectly good relationship? However, somedays i just think, HER fidelity & faithfulness is a moral question only SHE can answer.

As i slipped into the mindset of the former while i was in set with this girl, i closed like this. "I know you have a boyfriend. But lets hang out sometime, you can introduce me to your friends. Hopefully they're as hot as mine."

She said, "Yes, lets hang out."

I fished for a bit of an IOI here, saying, "Whats the best way to stay in touch?"

She replied immediately with a massive smile, "My mobile. I dnt have it here on me cause i forgot it, but just text me later."

Set closed.

So i texted her last night. we talk for a bit. and then she sends me this long text, saying, she didn't know a polite way to say no to giving me her number and that her boyfriend wont be happy tht she's talking to me; i should just delete her number as she wont see me again.

How bout that for a rejection.

Anyways, my wing [MODERATOR: Why would you publish this guy's actual full name here? Removed at the request of the guy you named - please don't do that again] made great sense of it all. and advised me to remember our creed: Always leave a woman better than you found her. Thank you.

I don't care what anyone thinks of this, but i stuck to my own set of values and that PUA creed which i think is so noble. I sent her a text which my wing advised me to do, saying:

"I understand. Please remember, it wasn't just a compliment, it was sincere. Take care"

In conclusion, i will NOT delete her number as she told me to. silly woman. haha. and now i don't get the girl. This is the random chaos element of game which we cannot control, which begins AFTER the number-close. It has fucked me over this time.

She may have liked me genuinely, but her boyfriend saw it. or her friends would've told her to tell me to fuck off. i will never know.

But hey, not deleting the number. the random chaos element could also work in my favour one day e.g if she breaks up with her BF. who knows. haha.

‪#‎wishfulthinking‬ ‪#‎rejectionisfeedback‬

Anyways, just shows how real attraction is when its there. She told me she had a boyfriend, but she didnt miss a beat when i suggested we meet up again. and all the other things i mentioned above.

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Shane, Executive Instructor for Social Zen.
socialzen.co.uk