| the opposite of needy is indifferent, giving a direct opener is not needy, unless you are needy
if sex is a huge deal, if her having a boyfriend is a huge deal, if talking to her is a huge deal, no matter what you do, it will come off needy, you will have anxiety about the right thing to say, about the right way to get her, about how to not fail
if you are indiferent, nothing is a big deal, she can stay or go, sleep with you or hate you, friend zone you or boyfriend you, who cares, you say what you want cause you mean it, not because it will impress her
if she is saying these things to you like she has a boyfriend, real or fake, it's a disqualifier, it shows you bad logistics and presents an obsticle, it can be disinterest or honesty, the best way to figure out where a girls compliance lies is to test her compliance and create good logistics to further uncover the meaning behind the actions, compliance more or less will tell you all you need to know
she has a boyfriend? no silly line, just be completely honest, if you don't care, just make it a non issue
you do that and blah blah blah he wouldn't like it? no silly one liner, just again be completely honest, that's ok, your not going to let anyone know is she able to keep secrets?
and this game of cat and mouse continues until she trusts you enough to catch her, or until she is honest that she doesn't care to be caught and stops giving you excuses and gets to the point, don't fear rejection, seek to reach your goal so that if they are not reachable, you can get that rejection fast and waste less time on something that will not pan out, when the obsticles are too great, just replace her instead of trying to chase her down, eventually you will start to find re-occuring problems and learn ways to get around them better and they will frustrate you less in the future
instead of the magic strawman technique, just pay more attention to what the girl is saying with both her body language and spoken language, why would she say these things, what is she doing rather then what she is saying
if you don't agree, voice it, and see what happens and how she reacts, pay attention because girls are not full of shit, nor are they randomly always playing some sort of weird power game, they are usually just being themselves and when they say something they don't mean it's usually to either protect your ego so you don't feel bad, or to protect her ego so she maintains a good clean social image that she would like to outwardly project, just pay attention to the social cues and be honest and unashamed of your view points, if she disaproves then it's not meant to be, learn to trust yourself and find comfort in your own beliefs and standards, she is either going to go along with you or she will not be interested, just don't fret it there are a zillion other girls to approach for you all over the place, you just have to clue into how many women are around you, and how to get better at meeting them
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