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I think you're trying WAY too hard with openers, keep them simple.
I disagree. The fact that it's a situational/opinion opener that can be tailored to unique situations is what is going to make you look unique to the set.
Simple openers are problematic:
- there is a better chance that someone else has already said it
- even if the set hasn't heard it before, there's a good chance that the set is going to interpret it as a pick up attempt.
Let's do a scenario against the infamous "did you see the fight outside?" opener. This simple opener, although it has been used successfully many times, is flawed. The first problem is that fights occur everywhere - therefore, there's a good chance that the set has been subjected to this question (regardless of whether or not the previous time was a pick up attempt or not). This immediately makes the opener less interesting - new experiences, i.e. conversations that are completely unique, are stimulating to the mind - the result is that you're more likely to end up stimulating her other body parts later
Second, the set is going to wonder why you're so anxious to talk to them about a fight .. either you're trying to pick up or you're a ufc enthusiast. Some would argue that the set could just see you as a guy who likes to talk to random people. This is true - HOWEVER, an opinion opener is much more playful and IS LESS LIKELY to come across as a pick up.
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No investment and interest/ engagement from her at all.
Granted - but that is why mid-game was invented, my friend. The idea is to build comfort first, then increase the target's investment.