arite well im laying here in bed and just have to get this off my chest...

so ive heard these terms thrown around: pacing and leading. Never really understood the depth of it and what exactly the terms mean in a real sense. well a few days ago i was in the car with a friend of mine who is probably the most alpha guy ive ever met. without realizing it he just subtly controls every aspect of the interaction. He rarely laughs, alwasy holds the tension etc. When i was talking to him about a topic he brough up(what we were just doing) he interupted me with a new topic(something that had just happened to him). at that second it just hit me like f*cking truck. That little thing that he does, changing from topic to topic, which he chooses, IS the textbook pacing and leading. I realized at that moment that thats why i find him to be a great guy, despite his self centeredness and his rude attitude at times, he just draws you to him. Because in every interaction he always paces and leads. The effects of this are just enormous. Its almost akin to how going through alot of venues in a short time builds rapport. Going through a lot of topics, in which u dictate all aspects not only increases the chances to build rapport, but it just leaves you seeking approval. im sitting there and without realizing it, im just subtly asking for his approval by constatly following his topic changes. by me following his pacing and leading the conversation not only does he coem off as an Alpha male, but he just makes you earn his approval inadvertantly.

so basically, i tried this out today with a few women, in the way i figured it was supposed to be done, by going by what was going on in that interaction. Let me tell you, it just boosted the game onto a whole new playing field. i used to pretty much heavily rely on my ability to make cocky+funny remarks, but wasnt entirely sure how to express my dominance in an interaction. but now with this newly understood idea of pacing and leading the convo along with cocky and funny i feel like im a whole new alpha male in the eyes of women. it just express's utter dominance. it says "Im here. Im leading this conversation. You follow me and what I think. Not the other way Around. We are going to talk abotu what I want to talk about." and it just works. this newly understood idea just opened up so many new doors in my head.

just looking to start a little discussion on the idea of pacing and leading, from what ive discovered in the past few days, it seems to me like its a somewhat neglected idea that has Immense power if done correctly.