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pollykok
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 Posted: Fri Mar 21, 2008 12:22 am Post subject: Opening at the Gym |
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So I was at the gym and I saw this HB9.5 who was doing ab exercises while simultaneously listening to her ipod and texting on her phone.
Anyway I started making eye contact with her, and whatever, but I moved onto a different machine.
I went back to another machine and she came and started doing ab exercises in front of me and starting making eye contact and smiling. I really wanted to approach but I couldn't think of anything to open with.
And she was listening to her ipod and texting so it would have made it a little harder I think to approach, I was thinking that she kept looking at her phone to stop herself from making eye contact with me and give me a chance to check her out or something.
Anyway. What is a good opener to use at a gym? and does approaching a girl who is listening to their ipod change anything? |
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icebreaker
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| The gym is an iffy to hitting on girls. I respect them at the gym because they are there to work out and so am I. Critisize if you want. Id rather game a girl in an environment other than the gym. |
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Rapture7
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I'm confused with this response, are you saying hitting on girls is somehow disrespectfull?
Also the Gym is really a social gathering between people who like to keep fit, it's actually a ideal enviroment to run game.
I would use a enviromental opener,just approach her and start talking. She will relise she can't hear you and take off her headphones on her own.
Now say stuff like,"wow you look really fit do you work out here alot?"
I come here on blah blah, I used to be xlbs but i lost some weight and my stomach isnt as flabby as it used to be"
"what do you think of this Gym? its great isnt it? I like to come here to relax get some training done and meet friendly people and just chat.
because you implied that she is "friendly people" she will actually act friendly to fill the role you have assigned her. And the "just chat" sets it up that you like talking and your not interested in her so as not to trigger any shields at this time. |
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-Code-
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| The messed up thing about hitting on girls at the gym is that you don't know if one of those muscle heads benching 300lbs is their man or not. |
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Southernbuck
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| Be careful with mackin' on girls @ the gym. I've dating a couple, and when/if it turns sour you have to see them everyday! I follow the saying..."don't eat where you sh*@" |
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DTM
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| Posted: Fri Mar 21, 2008 3:56 am Post subject: Re: Opening at the Gym |
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| pollykok wrote: | I went back to another machine and she came and started doing ab exercises in front of me and starting making eye contact and smiling. I really wanted to approach but I couldn't think of anything to open with.
And she was listening to her ipod and texting so it would have made it a little harder I think to approach, I was thinking that she kept looking at her phone to stop herself from making eye contact with me and give me a chance to check her out or something.
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damn you must be really hot. are you a bodybuilder too or something? i dont think ive ever had a chick even glance at me while at the gym. probably because im kinda thin. its a curse  |
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Flamboyant
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usually gym's not quite a gd place to pickup girls since most of them 'd be sweatin' n a bit off their temper but hey, not all of them do that.
ipod huh, just go like: "excuse me"
then she'd take off her buds: "yeh"
u: "what music r u listenin' to? seems like it's givin' u gd energy pumps huh"
i donno, ha ha, i'd like to see experts or any experienced folks to answer this thread as well. |
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trackjunkie
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im no expert, but openings are usully my strong point
when she looked over i would have mouthed something, then she'd take off her ipod and look over, and possibly say something like "what"
I'd give her a weird look, shed say something like "oh i thought you were talking to me."
90% of the time i'd neg her something like "just cause you wear a slutty outfit to the gym, doesn't mean every guy wants to talk to you" even though most guys can't keep their eyes off her.
she will either be pissed or respond and might neg you, turns into flirting, tease her, ask how much she can bench, squat whatever. Now if I could close these girls.. |
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DTM
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| trackjunkie wrote: |
90% of the time i'd neg her something like "just cause you wear a slutty outfit to the gym, doesn't mean every guy wants to talk to you" . |
oooo i wouldnt try that....  |
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wakeboardr
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| You can change slutty with distracting or show-off |
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tonatiuh8
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If she has her headphones on tell her to take them off. When she does say this.
YOU:"those that work"
HB:"what"
YOU:"putting the headphones so guys wont approach you'
HB:"hhmmm"
YOU:"Because i have the same problem every time i come to the gym 2 to 3 girls approach me when im in the zone which kind of annoys me. Just wanted to get your opinion"
then leave. When you see her leaving go up to her and say this:
"You suck (with a smile on your face) the headphone thing did not work" then keep the conversation going. |
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| tonatiuh8 wrote: | If she has her headphones on tell her to take them off. When she does say this.
YOU:"those that work"
HB:"what"
YOU:"putting the headphones so guys wont approach you'
HB:"hhmmm"
YOU:"Because i have the same problem every time i come to the gym 2 to 3 girls approach me when im in the zone which kind of annoys me. Just wanted to get your opinion"
then leave. When you see her leaving go up to her and say this:
"You suck (with a smile on your face) the headphone thing did not work" then keep the conversation going. |
You would have to make it clear through tonality, that you are joking about the girls hitting on you all the time. "preselection" is shown, not talked about, so don't say it for any reason other than to get a laugh (you shouldn't try to prove anyhting that's try-hard). To totally avoid the risk of comming of as try hard, I would say that guys also hit on me lol. I haven't used it in the very situation with he ipod but I can comfortably say that type of "gay-humor" is field tested in a bunch of other situations.
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"Does that work?"
"What?"
"The iPod, does it keep losers from hitting on you at the gym?" (YOU are not a loser... however this does leave you wide open for an 'apparently not response')
"Blah Blah--"
"--But seriously, I need some tips because GUYS hit on me ALL the time. I mean look, that guy is totally checking me out (motion towards someguy)."
"I think he's looking at me--"
"--don't kid yourself (NEG) sweatheard. blah blah"
CUT THREAD |
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Big Joe
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| Some of you skinnier guys may have better luck at a gym, I have been working out for years and I have never had very much luck at the gym dwo day 2's to be exact but a few # closes. I find girls are way too intimidated by me at the gym because of my size and stregnth. I always smile at the gym when I am working out and that helps. The best opener I have found in the gym is "can I work in with you," on whatever machine shes working on. Sometimes I will ask a girl to spot me, which is really funny and they think it is funny and it is good for negs, and really puts them at ease. But whatever you do don't talk about thier outfit or hair in the gym. those are the only openers that have worked for me, after that i just use regular storytelling. |
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summer_guy_uk
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Openers ive used in the gym:
"You there, i know your working off the ben and jerrys right now but i need your opinion on something" SUCCESS
"Oi, stop stalking me, I'm sorry but ive been dating blondes recently so u got no chance love, you can go grab me a lucozade though if you wanna make yourself useful" C&F SUCCESS
"you there, u look like u know what ur doing, show me how to use this machine" C&F (Im quite muscular) SUCCESS
"Thats really distracting, stop it!" FAIL - was too tired for follow up.
"Hey you, if I beat u in this lap (swimming) im gonna start flirting with u, just a head up!" FAIL - She lapped me lol |
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| Quote: | | "Hey you, if I beat u in this lap (swimming) im gonna start flirting with u, just a head up!" FAIL - She lapped me lol |
hahahaha, wow.
I used to think just like icebreaker, but i recently discovered that this could work. I was gaming a girl in my small group training class and I met with mixed results (currently trying to swim out of riptide that is the FriendsZone. hint: swim parallel to the shore! SWIM damn you!)
...but another lady in the class, who I had befriended just out of social proof and what-not totally tried to have me over her house while hubby away for what i can only imagine was going to be angry-husband sex (she was not hot and that husband shit is not my cup of tea...unless she is REALLY hot then...eh)
Anyway, How about opening some older HB by saying something along the lines of (with some changes for style/circumstance) "Cougars are born at the gym apparently" (she asks what a cougar is or is complemented with the appellation either way continue convo)?
or how about something like, "All this work just to keep your husband happy? I hope he appreciates it..." (hoping that she doesn't have one, and coming form a young guy maybe this is the agressive type of lfirting that the type of older gal i want would like so it's kind of a test...)
How would one try to go for the Ms. Robinson thing? I've given this a lot of thought but too new/scared to try.
cheers,
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