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Hassler
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 Posted: Sat Sep 22, 2007 7:26 pm Post subject: Ok, what do i do if this happens... |
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This is what an HB I met last week texted me after I asked to see if she wanted to hang out. This was after the Day 2 date, in which I made out with her, letting her know my intentions. She goes to my college. So I'm thinking the reason she's acting like this is because she doesn't want people to think she's a slut or something.
"Hanging out would be fun...but, I need to tell you that I don't really want to get like..'involved' even if it's nothing serious...to be honest, I like hanging out with you a lot...and I don't want to mess with that just as we are becoming friends, cause you're pretty awesome. sorry...i don't want to like..disapoint you..as if i could, but do you understand what I mean?"
She's probably a 7.5-8. I just don't want to be stuck in the just be friends zone.
Does anyone have any advice? |
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RECTHEGR8
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| Posted: Sat Sep 22, 2007 7:57 pm Post subject: |
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| wow, that is a tough one, I know this same situation has happened to me prior and I would also like some advice on this type of thing |
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Rythms
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| Posted: Sat Sep 22, 2007 8:27 pm Post subject: |
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You should tell her that if she didn't want to get involved with you that she wouldnt have made out with you. Neg her by saying that even if she wanted a relationship with you, she couldnt have one because her emotions arent under control and you need someone stable and mature. If she asks what you mean by that, refer to her making out with you.
If she persists on the friends thing, you need to distance yourself from her by implying that you have other girls that are potenial for mates or relationships or whatever and that you only invest your time in things that are worth while. Keep yourself busy and find some other girls and make sure you arent spending a lot of time with her as "friends". When she sees you with other girls then your social proof is verified and she will realize that you really don't have time for |
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Cinderella
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| Posted: Sat Sep 22, 2007 9:59 pm Post subject: |
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Interesting, but maybe not as complicated as you think man. Lets look at the pros
- she has “a lot” of fun hanging out with u
- You obviously DHV, as it is evident in her insecurity that she could even disappoint u.
- You Kissed! Any girl who likes hanging out with a guy “a lot” and is attracted to him physically anufe to kiss him will always at the very least be susceptible to his seduction no matter what her rules are (the exeception is if alchole was involved)
- “but do you understand what I mean” lol, it’s almost as if she isn’t fully sold on her own ideas about the situation and she’s looking for approval from you.
Bottom line! Wemon process there thoughts in zigzags and circles, you’ll drive your self crazy trying to over analyze situations like this. You have to set YOUR goal and move accordingly. Never mind the red light green light games that wemon will often engage in, focus. The reason(s) for her change in pace is unk, its ether something that u did, or its one of those her things. If u think that she’s trying to not look like a slut that’s fine man just reformulate your game accordingly. Just remember to maintain DHV and your intentions. |
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Hassler
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| Posted: Sat Sep 22, 2007 10:32 pm Post subject: |
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Idk, I think I will just ignore her, I mean she's not even really worth the time. I did DHV the shit out of her, and once we got done making out she put her arm around me really tight. I said in kind of a cocky funny voice "Well, that was nice" and she was still kinda "in the zone" from kissing and just kind of quivered and said in a "he's so dreamy" type voice, "Yeah"
I know she likes me, but I'm just going to not talk to her, get with another girl, and see what happens. Hopfully jealousy will ensue and I will get both of the broads. |
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