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I think the point is this will make you NOT look like a stalker. I see where you're getting at though. Blinking? I never focused on my blinking in my life. If your actually in set and you're focused on how well you're blinking you probably going to be sending off all the wrong signals.


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Most of this stuff becomes second nature to you once you've done it enough. You may make a fool of yourself a couple of times if you lose the thread of the conversation because you're paying attention to blinking/posture/smile etc, but it'll pay off in the long run.


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My advice to be alpha: Act like you're the man at all times, and you and yur buddies are infallible like the pope. Fake it til you make it.


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Most of this stuff becomes second nature to you once you've done it enough.


Yeah this is absolutely right Ace...I find myself doing little things that I had to think about before naturally now.

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I am reading through John Alexander's How to Become an Alpha Male and i thought this list was pretty interesting and might be helpful to some people out there =)

2) Speaking too fast. This gives off the impression that you
feel anxious and have low self-confidence. A normal,
comfortable speaking rate varies within a moderate range
from 125 to 150 words per minute. Slow down!

I dont necessarily agree, slow speech is an indicator of a slow brain, i.e jock.

4) Pausing too long before responding to a question. This
indicates that you’re thinking too hard for your answer, which
makes you seem indecisive. It also looks like you’re trying
too hard to win the other person’s approval.

I totally disagree. If you pause and deliver a well-thought-out or excellent response then who cares if you take an extra second or 2. It shows youre thinking!


7) Twitching your fingers or hands. When you're across the
table from someone there's a natural inclination to play with
sugar packets or straw wrappers with your fingers. Don't.
And don’t drum your fingers on the table—women hate that.

Agreed - try not to fidget.

8) Touching your face when you talk. This indicates that
you’re thinking too hard, you’re indecisive, or that you feel
shy. To convey confidence, hold your hands together in a
steeple shape in front of your chest or face. (A lot of
professors do this when they are lecturing.) Another posture
that will help you when you need a huge display of
confidence is holding your hands at your hips. Cops do this
when they need to establish authority over criminal suspects.

Pfft! If youre stroking your, say, chin and then deliver a killer answer to question it just shows youre thinking, smart and dont feel the need to rush.

13) Excessive smiling. Studies of primates have shown that
beta males will smile as a way to signal their harmlessness
to stronger males. Beta humans smile to show they’re not a
threat. The alpha male, however, only smiles when there is
something to smile about. And yes—he can be a threat.

Nonsense - this applies to chimps - not humans.

17) Blinking a lot. Instead blink your eyes slowly. Don't close
your eyes in discomfort. Just let your eyelids relax. In fact,
let them droop a bit. Don't be bug-eyed.

20) Being uncomfortable with your eyes. The bottom line is
that your eyes should be comfortable, relaxed, assertive,
and sexual.

Fair call.

21) Looking down or to the side before answering a
woman’s question. If you do need to look away before
answering in order to think, then look up and to the side.
Studies have shown that this displays more confidence.

What claptrap! Who wrote this nonsense. If you deliver a good confident answer who cares which direction u felt like looking.

24) Using long, convoluted sentences. Alphas keep it short
and to the point. If you’re tempted to use long sentences,
break them up.

LOL - what garbage. A guy with his head on properly says what needs to be said, sometimes it will be short, sometimes long. Half of these rules suck. A killer longer opinion beats a shorter average opinion every time.

Whew that was long...as far as i know its not a repost i ran a search O.o...props to John Alexander!


Mild props to John Alexander, he overanalyzes, over complicates too much - one could argue that's beta thinking...

Game, set, match - JF!


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Xplosive wrote:
My advice to be alpha: Act like you're the man at all times, and you and yur buddies are infallible like the pope. Fake it til you make it.


Hehe, I would like to see the Pope on the end of a rope! Religion warps minds and corrupts rational thought, science rules.


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Most of this is very true and helpful, cheers!

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I do alot of these things. dont even wanna name the numbers cause probly 8 numbers will be left. :? Hmm..Most of the stuff happens when im stressed when talkin to women tho biting lips/lickin lips sayin um an ahhhh. smile to much or smiling at a more confidene male. blah. yeah... i dunno. lol :roll:


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If this wasnt enough( i loved it) i posted a few other things in AA. They relate to a point.


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Thanks for the post, it's really helpful.


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These are good things to remember. I remember doing these things naturally when my inner game was stronger. I'm gonna go through this checklist daily to remind myself to match the inner Alpha with the outer Alpha.

Question though...when I talk to women I tend to put my finger across my lips and thumb under chin. Like when you cover your mouth to cough, but now move your thumb underneath. Sort of like the "thinking" pose.

It's not a pose for me, I just do it naturally. Is it giving off insecurity?
Because when I do it I,m not felling insecure, I'm just concentrating. I also furrow my eyebrows while doing it. The Philosopher style I guess.

YEa or Nay? Good or Bad?

I was thinking on transitioning to the "hands in front of face Professor Speech giver thingamajig". Maybe better for me.


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i think theres two ways to go round this - you can make it by following all these and thinking it all through or you can jus be yourself and become comfortable with yourself, once you have that and your frame is unshakable you will appear naturally confident.
i kow from time to time when im stood at the bar when its quiet i have double checked my posture but because iv been happy with myself iv looked down and seen my legs stood just over shoulder width apart, i have a relaxed slant on and a smirk on my face knowing im picking out another target.

everybody has tehir own way to feel comfortable

use this or not this is a very valuable post

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Great post man

stuff like this is key

I've been thinking about the walk thing, and I've done that for awhile and people say I strut and look super cocky when I walk - is this good or bad? my buddy's a model so he showed me the runway walk and I've kinda picked it up and I'm 6'3 so I stand out quite a bit when I do it. any thoughts?


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Thank you for taking the time and posting this post


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