checkout this video, and post honest responses..

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Golden Rules i learned:
1- If you complement do it a serious way.
2- If a conversation starts with a low vibe and seems not getting anywhere, be direct but not on an emotional level.

I just cringe when I hear people say stuff like "evolutionary DESIGNED" but I have to agree with the points he makes in the video. Approach anxiety comes back after not approaching for short time, that's just how it works. Fortunately most of us have balls, those who don't are the ones standing at the edge of the dance floor, beer shields up!

Now i understand why i hardly force my self to open one set every week or so and do not see any progress.
I kinda open set's when it's completely natural or not so direct like "a set waiting in line" ect... and the thing is i was thinking that AA is created by a false belief, this is true but i thought i can overcome it once and for all. wich is not correct actually.
it's like flexing a muscle, if you do it regularry, you get results, if you don't you're doing nothing. i guess i'm one of those then. kinda frustrating.
I have everything but the balls and my awareness about my looks. kinda sucks, but this video really opened my eyes and gave me a reason why i'm not making any progress but also i found out it's not that easy when you 'don't have the balls'

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Golden Rules i learned:
1- If you complement do it a serious way.
2- If a conversation starts with a low vibe and seems not getting anywhere, be direct but not on an emotional level.

Falling back into chode mode, in other words losing any social momentum you've gained. It happens to all of us, for many reasons... though recently, I've been finding ways to get into state more consistently, which is thanks largely to the teachings of RSD. Love those guys! More to the point however, I think stuff like AA comes back to the strength of your reality, your interpretation of the world and how it relates to you... some people require a bigger identity shift than others, depending on their background and experiences, but through committment over the years I've realised it can be done. AA might not completely go away, but the quicker you can practically free your mind from the shackles (of things like low-esteem and heightened external-validation), the quicker you can improve in this area.

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He is mentioning one important point here... he says he is in his alone phase... but when he puts on his boots and his hat than he wants to get out and bla...

That's exactly what I do as well... u can't just say, hey I'm in a good mode now and want to pick up girls... u have to get in the right mode. U heard about walking around and talk to random ppl at the Supermarket to get in 'The Mode'.

I trained my self to a point where I can stand in the corner of the bar... and be just relaxed, then I made my move (that could be something like rubbing ur hands or go to ur hair or something like that) and I'm in the 'GameMode'.

He's doing the same thing... for me he's kinda switching to another person with his hat and stuff.

That's awesome stuff! When I'm feeling not so well and don't feel like picking up... I make my move, a smile comes up on my face and I'm on

Try to find something like this for urself and u will see how great that is!

Cheers

Excellent point! If we all sat around and waited until we "felt" like picking up, or "felt" like approaching, we would never do it. We all hit that point were we would rather sit back and watch, but we have to flip the switch and dive in head first. Awesome video!

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Mystery says even the best pua's he's sarged with have AA; it's built into our emotional circuitry from our ancient brains.

*Raises fist to the sky*
That right there is why i love Mystery. Straight up.

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Note to self: Be a man. Bottle up your true feelings. They show vulnerability. What woman wants that?