I've read that mirroring is good
Then i read to just lean back?

confused

is it like this? :
I've been mirroring when talking to guys, then trying to lead the mirroring.
But with girls i've been trying to lean back more.

Ok, leaning back shows that you are in charge, not looking for validation, comfortable with yourself. This in turn leads others to want you to validate THEM.

Mirroring is a quick way of getting the other person comfortable with you while building rapport.

I would lean back when you first meet her to establish that you are the Alpha-leader like LA Tripp said, then mirror when you start building comfort. Thats what I do.

Exactly. If you start to mirror too soon, then it can actually be off-putting, because you get this weird feeling like this person is following you, or making fun of you. You start to do it at the right time and do it well, you can carry on a casual conversation, while making them feel this incredible physical attraction, even if they don't consider you someone they normally would be attracted to, just because you are in sync and it feels like your chemistry is much better than it normally would have been.

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How do you mirror someone?

Basically, it's copying their moves, with a mirror effect.

Example: You and her are standing against the bar. She leans against the bar, with her left elbow resting on the bar. Ok, you lean against the bar with your right elbow resting on the bar. Now, granted you should be leaning back against the bar with her in front of you, but this is an example. And, this should be done subtly. You don't make quick movements to mirror her. You just smoothly flow and move your body to mirror hers.

When done well, you can then lead them into other positions, because once you get good mirroring going on, breaking that feels weird, so they will reposition to match you. Using that, you can move into postions where they are giving you IOIs (touching their hair, angling their body a certain way to you), by making their body give you an IOI, the mind goes into the state that it normally is in while performing that IOI, so she'll be more sexually attracted to you, or intellectually attracted to you depending on how you manuever her.

Say you want a girl to want you more sexually, get into good mirroring, then run your fingers through your hair, or where hair would be if you had longer hair, at the side of your head. That will get her to run her fingers through her hair on the side of her head (important that its not the back, or top, bangs are ok though) and that is where girls typically run their fingers when they're sexually attracted to a guy, there, she's now feeling some of the feelings she normally feels while doing that to a guy.

Its just like when you use NLP to ask a girl to recall what it feels like when she's attracted to a guy, asking her how she would rate that feeling in strength out of 10 and then getting her to increase that feeling to a 10. You make her mind go there and it gets anchored to you. If you do it enough, you can make that person automatically do it, because they're so used to it, so the feelings become even more natural.

Use with care.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

ok thanks guys,

it makes more sense to use mirroring in the comfort stage
i like the idea of mirroring her into IOI's
ill just garbage mirroring out of my initial approach and save it for later

thanks everyone