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Brah
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 Posted: Fri Oct 23, 2009 5:06 pm Post subject: Messed around with a girl, haven't called her in a week |
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I sat down on a couch at a bar next to a random HB7 last Saturday and won her over using general cocky-funny and push-pull techniques.
We went back to her friend's apartment and we messed around. There was a chance of an f-close, but her friend totally cockblocked me and interrupted us to drive her home (i negged her friend way too hard earlier on because I'm inexperienced in PUA, and she hated me the entire night for it).
I got her number, but I didn't call her. Now it's Friday, almost a week later, and I still haven't even sent a text (she hasn't rung me either).
6 days have passed, is it too late?
What should I say if I want to send a message and suggest we grab a drink tonight/sat night?
edit: generally I'd just text her anyway and say "yo let's grab a drink" - but 2 problems: 1) she lives like an hour away and doesn't have a car, so the chances of her even being in town this weekend are low, and 2) even if she does come in, I'm not going to be able to take her back to my place. so we would have nowhere to go when it heats up (and it WILL heat up).
Considering the above 2 things, what can I text her to keep her interested so that in 2 weeks or whenever when we actually CAN do something, I've still got her open as a potential HB and not some random creep that is calling her 3 weeks later or, alternatively, pestering her every day.
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lucky1990
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| Posted: Fri Oct 23, 2009 5:13 pm Post subject: |
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hmmmm i wouldn't have said it was too late normally but you said her mate hated you. In my experience this could have completely bastardized your chances because winning over a girl's friends is really important. Her friend might have convinced her not to see you again if she didn't like you!
I still think you'd be as well giving her a casual text like tell her something random and funny that's happened to you recently and suggest a drink or somethin else!
Regards
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Brah
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| Posted: Fri Oct 23, 2009 11:25 pm Post subject: |
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just texted her. said I was myname from last Saturday, and that I'm looking forward to hanging out with her next time she comes into town, and to keep in touch.
nothing PUA about the text message though, 
ill update if I i ever manage to see her again, much less f-close this.
p.s., i'd facebook friend her but then my girlfriend would see it  |
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Brah
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| Posted: Fri Oct 23, 2009 11:49 pm Post subject: |
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woah, blown out within 5 minutes on her reply text. harsh.
I'm going to have to make up for this tonight... |
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| Posted: Sat Oct 24, 2009 11:51 am Post subject: |
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| Brah wrote: | woah, blown out within 5 minutes on her reply text. harsh.
I'm going to have to make up for this tonight... |
Learn from this.
Next time CALL within 2-3 days.
I think texting is kind of a pussy way out. People are less likely to flake if you actually call them, and you can calibrate by hearing the tone of their voice, if they sound excited about seeing you again, and you can be c+f over the phone much easier. Just remember to make it short and sweet.
Good luck tonight! |
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Brah
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hey blondguy, thanks for the reply, i always like your advice.
I don't think in this situation though, that I could have won with any phone game (correct me if I'm wrong).
I think maybe my mistake was not building a strong enough Rapport with her when I did see her on Saturday night.
here was our entire conversation:
me: hey nameofgirl, this is myname from last Saturday, and that I'm looking forward to hanging out with her next time she comes into town, and to keep in touch.
her: hey, I had a lot of fun hanging out with you. but i dont think i can see you again or keep in touch because im still not over my ex bf and trying to make it work. i wish you the best for your future, Bye!
me: that's tough, I understand. it was a pleasure meeting you. don't be too shy to call me if things change.
then I deleted her number.
Then I went out that night. here is the field report: [link] |
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| Posted: Sat Oct 24, 2009 5:01 pm Post subject: |
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| Brah wrote: | hey blondguy, thanks for the reply, i always like your advice.
I don't think in this situation though, that I could have won with any phone game (correct me if I'm wrong).
I think maybe my mistake was not building a strong enough Rapport with her when I did see her on Saturday night.
here was our entire conversation:
me: hey nameofgirl, this is myname from last Saturday, and that I'm looking forward to hanging out with her next time she comes into town, and to keep in touch.
her: hey, I had a lot of fun hanging out with you. but i dont think i can see you again or keep in touch because im still not over my ex bf and trying to make it work. i wish you the best for your future, Bye!
me: that's tough, I understand. it was a pleasure meeting you. don't be too shy to call me if things change.
then I deleted her number.
Then I went out that night. here is the field report: [link] |
Why not when she brings the BF up say, "I'm sorry about your BF, but I was hoping to just hang out as friends, I'm flattered though "
Why not use any chance to make female friends if you have it? You don't have to game EVERY chick after all... |
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