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The Playette (Tester-Denier-Idealist)
Overview
The Playette is a combination of Tester, Denier, and Idealist. She
is like an iceberg. There is so much beneath the surface, and it’s worth
exploring! The Playette is not always easy to recognize. That’s kind of the
point with this girl. She doesn’t wear her emotions on her sleeve, and she
tends to be secretive about her personal life. Typically she is modestly
dressed, and looks around a lot, but is on the quiet side. She isn’t shy, but
is definitely more of an observer than the Social Butterfly (TJI).
The Playette protects herself for good reason. Once you get past her walls,
she is sweet, soft, sexy, and exciting. She has wonderful gifts to offer, but it
is these very same gifts that make her vulnerable.
Before she lets her guard down, you must walk a fine line to show her that
you will not smother or pressure her, while at the same time, conveying
the potential for romance and intimacy.
We start with the Playette, because she is one of the most difficult, and
most common, types men encounter within the target age range of earlyto-
mid 20’s. The challenge with this type of woman is quickly separating
yourself from her many other orbiting male friends, who are in the No
Sex Zone.

Her Desires
The Playette’s Mr. Right is fantastical, which is why she has a hard time
picking one guy to stay with, or even sleep with. But remember, what a
woman fantasizes about, and what she responds to in real time, flesh and
blood, are two very different things.
This woman responds to a man who does not need her more than she
needs him. All the men in her life are chasing her – they are one of her
options. You have the most leverage with her if she perceives herself to be
one of your options. So she must want you more than you want her, and
you must convey that you are dating other women. But how do you make
her interested in the first place, when she has so many other “suitors”?
The answer lies in her ideal relationship. She wants a man to literally
sweep her off her feet. Now, we have all heard that saying before, and it
means different things to different women. But in the Playette’s case, you
must play the classic archetype of the dominant, romantic ladies man who
saves her from her endless string of failed dating experiments.

She wants a man who will arouse her, seduce her, take her, tame her, and
leave her wanting more.
In response she surrender into deep, naked submission. She will relax in
body and mind, and allow herself to be ravished beyond her control, at
your whim. This is why it is so tempting and exciting to pursue a Playette,
and also why it is so challenging. The wall is hard to scale because the
treasure is so enticing – men’s biggest downfall with the Playette is their
own impatience and anxiety.
In the case of the Playette, there is an emotional boundary preventing
almost all men she meets from reaching her heart. She is a Denier,
meaning she puts up heavy resistance to sex because it carries a lot of
emotional meaning for her. As a Tester, she “keeps it moving” so to speak,
so it may be hard to develop enough rapport to the point where she feels
safe letting go of her precious sexual side.
In addition, she’ll often put up soft boundaries, or tests, in order to slow
down the progress of a sexual relationship, so that she can maintain her
power. For example, she may accuse the man of being a player to put him
on the defensive. Most guys respond by becoming docile and losing their
power, thus losing their power and falling into the No-Sex Zone, or “Friend
Zone,” as it’s commonly called.
In a sense she has gotten what she wanted, superficially. But she has not
been sexually satisfied, just egotistically placated.
As an Idealist, The Playette has it in the back of her mind that she will one
day meet her Prince Charming. In a sense, she is always looking for her
Prince by being passive and leaving a social vacuum for men to take the
lead. The irony is, her apparent coolness makes most men uneasy and
lacking confidence. She won’t tell you what to do – she just sits back and watch

Conversation
Ignition
Two things happen when you approach a Playette the wrong way. She’ll
either ignore you completely, or let you talk with a blank expression,
until you are blue in the face and run out of things to say. First of all, she’s
a Tester. So she doesn’t like an intense, direct approach. Use something
situational – comment on the environment or something she is doing.
Do this with a friendly, almost platonic energy. The thing with a Playette
– she is a Denier and a TESTER, but is constantly in her head fantasizing
about what could be.
The most effective way to get the Playette interested in you is to tease
her. Avoid compliments unless she has earned them. Be playful, don’t
take her too seriously, and tease a lot. If she makes an attempt to make
herself look cool or high-status, tell her she’s cute.
Note: the formula for teasing is to lightly poke fun at something she’s
doing, in a very warm way. This is where most guys screw up teasing.
They are too harsh. On the flip side, guys who don’t tease at all are seen
as too nice (i.e. boring).
Momentum
Playettes are used to men trying to smooth-talk them. They’ve heard it
all before (as have most women, attractive or not). Some women like a
little sexuality and aggression. The Playette sees this type of approach
as predictable and quickly classifiable – in other words, unattractive
simply because it’s more of the same.
To build momentum and get her really interested in you, you must
appear unpredictable, and also, uninterested in her sexually.

So let’s grab her attention. The key here is a concept we teach at
DiCarlo Inc., called “Intrigue.” All Intrigue means is that you have an
opinion or observation about a woman that will excite her emotions
negatively or positively.
For example, let’s say she is wearing a dress almost identical to
what another girl is wearing. Imply that you notice something that
will probably piss her off, but don’t tell her what it is. “Uh oh. You’re
gonna be pissed if I tell you what I just saw…but don’t worry, you are
the winner.”
Another example: let’s say you notice that she is skinny but is drinking
beer and you don’t know how she could keep that figure drinking
Corona all night. You could simply say “I don’t know about you. You
must know something these other girls don’t.”
It doesn’t have to be fancy- just get her to:
a) focus on you because you are talking about her, and
b) get her riled up by not telling whether your opinion/observation is
flattering or otherwise.

Connection
It’s actually really easy to connect with Playettes, simply because other
guys suck at it. The main mindset here is don’t try to sweet talk her or
get sexual. On the flip side, don’t be that boring guy talking about career
and goals in life. Keep it light and fun. Talk about music, fun hobbies,
random adventures you’ve had recently.
Better yet, get her talking. She’s the quiet one, which means once she’s
relaxed, she won’t shut up. That’s good news, because as I said before,
her Idealist nature will take over, and her fantasies about you will
seduce her. So the more you shut up, the better you look!
This means you must ask good questions. If she’s talking about work,
ask her why she likes her job, or what she would like to ideally. The
core questions are “why did you do/think/say that?” and “what was
that like for you?”

Physicality
Body Language
Testers don’t like it when a man gets in their face. Keep your postion
hip-to-hip. Try doing physical things like playing pool, walking side by
side, looking at other points of interest together, or dancing without
much eye contact.
Keep this in mind when on a date with a Playette. No romantic dinners
by candle light. Instead go to a sports bar, play pool, and watch the
game. Better yet, have her friends come and join your friends at a social
event (this could also be as simple as watching the game at a sports
bar). Testers like external stimuli and have a low tolerance for romantic
attention. They perceive it as pressure. Freedom and fun are what gets
a Playette excited. This is what most guys like as well, so don’t try to
impress her with the sentimental route. Include her in your life and
keep it casual.

Touch
As a Denier, she doesn’t respond well to aggressive physical advances
in public. But when alone, you would do well to be persistant. You don’t
lose points by trying to move forward – she respects that in a man. This
is important because it’s crucial that you sleep with her relatively early,
before you fall into the category of orbiters, shared by all the other guys
in her life.
As you get to know the Playette, keep touch chivalrous, old-fashioned,
and subtle.[/b]

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Social Butterfly Tester – Justifier – Idealist)
Overview
We all know about “the party girl.” She’s the pretty, energetic girl that
talks to everyone, including you, and then leaves you wanting more. Was
she flirting with you, or is she just like that with everyone? Guess what –
every other guy in the room is thinking the same thing.
Guess what else…she knows it.
The Social Butterfly is a combination of Tester, Justifier, and Idealist. Her
behavior likens her to her namesake. She is like a butterfly – beautiful,
enticing, and hard to catch – unless you know what you are doing.
As with all Testers, if you must separate yourself from the countless other
guys chasing her. But the Social Butterfly is different from the Playette in
her Justifier mindset. She embraces an aggressive approach, as long as she
doesn’t get the feeling that sex with her is a trophy for you.
If you can keep a casual, fun, pressure-free interaction going, sex is an
almost certain outcome once you are alone with the Butterfly. But if she
senses that she is a conquest, and that you have any sexual neediness in
your attitude, she will flutter away.

Her Desires
The biggest challenge men face with a Butterfly is that she likes to be
the chaser. She wants to be the one who chooses, and chases, the man.
The irony is that she ends up chasing the guy that either, a) doesn’t want
her, or b) wasn’t the “strong silent type” but was actually an insecure,
immature guy that simply didn’t know what to say.

How She Gets What She Wants
The Social Butterfly is more likely to sleep with a guy just because he’s
hot. However, “hot” can mean many different things: well-dressed,
confident, nice smile, in charge of other men , nice abs, etc. This girl gets
different things from different men, and loves the newness of the stimuli.
She likes to try different men for their kissing styles, cock sizes, fashion
and music styles, you name it.
The one thing she does not like is pressure and over-emphasis on
sentiment. She loves romance, but doesn’ t like navel-gazing and “deep
conversations.” In a sense, she’s more down to earth, as she realizes that
you won’t uncover life’s secrets with a near-stranger on you first date.
Be a guy she chases and feels is almost out of her reach. We’ll show you
how in the next section.
As a Justifier, the Butterfly is sexually experienced. Fucking is nothing
new to her. But a new position, or adding an element of psychological
dominance via roleplaying are probably as-yet unrealized in her sex life.
Even if she has done kinkier stuff than what you do with her, you at least
won’t fall into the boring category. It’s likely that she might initiate you to
something new. If that’s the case, go with it, or, again, get left in the dust.
A true Butterfly is likely in college or relatively young, and not ready for a
career or marriage. That’s good news for you. But if she commits to a guy,
he better keep her interest. Otherwise, she will cheat, and dump the guy
soon after. This is a woman that men end up chasing, and in doing so, push
her further away. Clearly you can see that separating yourself from all the
other needy, submissive, boring guys is crucial to catching a Butterfly.

Conversation
Ignition
You can approach a Butterfly in any way you choose. It’s all fun to her.
Just don’t be timid. The key with her is, without any better way to
describe it in writing, 100 percent commitment and exposure. For
example, if you are in a bar you can say a toast and clink her glass. Or
you can compliment her hair. BUT, do not try to be smooth or sexual
at first. Be happy, energetic, and do it (whatever it is) all the way. This
is the most powerful way to convey dominance - essentially a lack of
timidity – and is fundamental to attracting a Social Butterfly.
Here are some tips for grabbing a Butterfly’s attention when
approaching:
• Be loud
• Stand tall, and position yourself in same proximity as if you already
know her
• Smile and look her in the eye when YOU are talking
• Use fun, dominant touch – when you hug her, lift her up slightly.
here are some examples of what to say to break the ice:
• You spot her tatoo: “Whoa – nice ink. What’s the story with that?”
• She’s wearing a senior Frog T-Shirt: “Hold on – I was in Cancun last
year too. Why didn’t I see you?”
• Playing cornhole in front of her apartment: “Nice hole. My squad
could take you guys – loser buys shots at McGees Pub tonight.”

Momentum
It’s not hard to get a Butterfly’s attention. It’s keeping it that’s the
challenge. Your best bet is to find out what her interests are. It may
sound obvious, but most guys screw this up by asking interview-style
questions. Pay attention to her – she wears her life on her sleeve. She
likely will wear, talk about, or do, something that is interesting to her.
Comment on it and relate to it.
She’s a tester, so tease her immediately. Even more than the Playette,
the Social Butterfly responds very powerfully to being teased. Just
make sure you can take what you dish out because this woman loves
to banter. Stay on your toes, and stay focused on lightly pointing out
her silly quirks and mistakes. And, as always, back it up with warmth –
that’s what makes teasing work. Otherwise you’ll just come off as mean
and socially incompetent.
She may float away to talk to other people, but that’s her nature. Don’t
take it as a rejection. She will remember you. Bump into her again and
continue where you left off – but don’t just start talking. Try something random, light, and fun – give her a high five or
say, “Oh jeez – you again. What’s up lady?” with a big smile on your face

Connection
It may seem counter-intuitive, but with a Tester, especially a Tester-
Justifier, finding one deep topic and exploring it can have a profound
effect. But keep this as a contrast, an exemption to the rule: keep the
conversation light, positive, and rhythmic (no awkward silences).
Testers usually have one or two passionate interests that they keep to
themselves. If you can uncover it, you have separated yourself from the
other guys orbiting her vagina. And that’s what it really comes down to
with Testers – be the guy she chases, not the guy chasing her.
So how to use her interests to make her chase you? It’s not a matter of
her clinging to your pant leg. The real manifestation of her chasing you
is, for example, her telling you things she normally doesn’t reveal, and
you, in-turn, offering her more attention and time. You MUST convey
that your sexual interest is a reward.

Physicality
Body Language
Testers don’t like sensual touching right away, nor do they like a lot of
strong eye contact or close proximity, unless it’s for an external purpose
(e.g. playing darts or window shopping).
They do like smiles, however. An upbeat, playful energy keeps things
fun and exciting. Don’t get serious and cerebral with a Social Butterfly.
Instead, try to stay in the moment , focus on your environment, and
comment on the funny or unexpected in your surroundings.
She won’t mind if you get close as long as there is a reason, and you
don’t try to lock eyes in a flirty way. She will initiate that. When she does,
don’t shy away.

Touch
Manhandle this woman. You can get away with so much as long as you
are in a good mood and have a playful energy. If you are dancing, guide
her body, spin her, etc. If you’re standing in a crowded area, throw her
over your shoulder with one arm and walk to a less crowded spot
Don’t try to seduce her by touching her hair, neck, or face. Generally,
focus on moving her entire body via hand on her back, legs, or by taking
her arm in yours. Hand-holding is too romantic and intimate at first.
Fun, big movements are exciting to her. Pick her up, guide her body
around, and definitely dance with her if you have the opportunity. This
girl loves to dance so she can get out of her head, and move around. A
good dancer scores huge points for this party girl

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The Hopeful Romantic (iNvestor – Denier – Idealist)
Overview
The Hopeful Romantic is somewhat old-fashioned. She daydreams
about the perfect man coming into her life, romantic escapades, and has
long-term hopes with the men she gets involved with.
For the Hopeful Romantic, the potential of a long-term relationship is
the foundation upon which everything else lays. It’s not that she needs
a boyfriend or husband – those are simply socially construed titles.
You must go deeper and hit her at her core to satisfy her emotional and
sexual needs.
Men often run into trouble with a Romantic by coming off as insincere
or “player-ish.” It’s OK to be seeing other women when you meet a
Hopeful Romantic, but if you try to lie or cover it up, she will lose all hope
of a future with you, because to her, relationships – whether platonic,
romantic, or somewhere in between – are founded in honesty.
However, it may seem daunting to tell such a sentimental and feminine
woman that you are a free bird and intend to stay that way. This will take
some tact…

Her Desires
The Hopeful Romantic thinks she wants a man who will be patient, gentle,
and sweet, and indeed she may respond to that. But more often than
not, you will find this type of woman with a bad boy – a biker, thug, or a
generally tough dude rough around the edges. The reason for this is that
she needs emotional strength above all else.
Her extreme sentimentality and emotional sensitivity requires a
counterbalance – a man who doesn’t get upset easily, keeps his cool,
and takes the offensive in confrontation. But, any man that expects to
keep her around must keep at least a small sense of empathy – enough
to understand her moods so that he can comfort and reassure her. He
knows that the kind of reassurance she needs is not in sweet words, but in
physical actions.
The Hopeful Romantic wants a man to save. She is attracted to the
mysterious, unattainable, unreachable, angry, depressed, artistic and out
of bounds. She wants to bring a hard man in from the cold. She wants to
warm his heart with his love. But remember – it’s the challenge itself that
is attractive. As your horniness doesn’t go away, nor does her hunger for a
man to conquer. Once you have been subdued and domesticated, she will
search for a new challenge.
If you can stay a challenge, just a bit out of reach, a bit outside of her
feminine influence, she will be an extremely docile, warm haven of sexual
embrace and emotional support.

How She Gets What She Wants
The Hopeful Romantic woman is an iNvestor, so she looks for sexual
gratification and emotional fulfillment from one man, not several. When
she meets a guy who catches her interest, she immediately begins to size
him up as a long-term partner.
If she gets the indication that he doesn’t have the capacity to bond with
her, she will move on. But here’s where it gets tricky. A man who is
moody, or wild, or living on the edge actually indicates the potential for
rapport because he is emotional, AND he is not trying to pursue her to
get sex.
Note: When a woman feels a man is pursuing her simply for sex, she
immediately perceives all he does as dishonest and manipulative (even if
he’s being genuine).
But as always, once you get needy and appear submissive and weak, she
will lose attraction and motivation to even give any of those long-term
hopes a chance.

Conversation
Ignition
As always, with iNvestors, it pays to be direct. Here’s why: she either
has a man, or wants one. If it’s the former, there’s a good chance he’s
not satisfying her sexually or emotionally. If it’s the latter, well – there
you go. So if you can pick out an iNvestor (a skill I’ve acquired in the
past couple years), you know what to do to get a 75% postitive reaction
rate. Unless you somehow screw it up or catch her at the wrong time of
the month.
“Direct” doesn’t always mean telling her explicitly that you are attracted
to her. It can be conveyed through the eyes and body. Eye contact is best
taught in live training programs. It creates sexual tension without the
need for any specific wordplay, but takes a lot of calibration. A good
rule of thumb is to act like her eyes and your eyes are magnets – hold
eye contact a beat longer than normal, but don’t try to stare her down.
It is your focused interest that will capture her focused interest.
With an iNvestor, success and failure depend on you. She is ready –
but will shut down if you shut down first. By shutting down I mean
getting acting through a persona (a social mask you hide behind when
nervous, e.g. being overly macho, or pretending to be super laid back
to the point of “not caring,” etc), or getting negative as a crutch for a
lack of things to say.

Momentum
Create a dynamic of “you and her vs. the world” as soon as possible.
This is easier than it sounds – find common ground, and then make a
joke about the rest of the world/people being different (and having
implicitly lower social status).
Keep your energy mellow and dominant, meaning you don’t get to
excited or annoyed – your emotions are stable and you are unaffected
as a whole. It also pays to call her out on something dorky she is doing
or wearing, but make sure your energy is super warm and positive –
that’s the only way to make such risky behavior work consistently.
Roleplaying and talking about doing things together in the future is
the best way to motivate her to get to know you. She is an iNvestor, so
she thinks long term. She is an Idealist, so her worldview is based on
romance and fantasy. And as a Denier, she sees sex as a big commitment
–not casual fun. So convey that you are interested in getting to know
her, and that you are a guy who will be around for her.
Note: never say this explicitly. She won’t believe you. Always imply this by
using the Us-frame – whatever the topic is, talk about it in terms of you
and her, together, experiencing things now or in the future.

Connection
The way to create a connection with a hopeful romantic is to indicate that
you have the romantic capacity in you, and that you have had your heart
broken by a GIRL (not a woman) who didn’t appreciate or recognize you.
And now you are a wounded heart that needs to be healed.
This approach can easily stray into games and manipulation, which
we don’t advocate. However, it wouldn’t be right to not mention how
ridiculously easy it is to elicit strong feelings in this type of woman by
simply letting go of all attempts to impress or influence others.
Don’t be afraid to pause and simply relax together, even in a crowded
bar. Comfortable silences are probably the best way to create a spark
with the Hopeful Romantic.

Physicality
Body Language
You initial body language makes a big difference in how an iNvestortype
sizes you up. Don’t come off like a party-boy. Don’t be the drunk,
loud club guy. Sincerity and authenticity trump excitement and social
dominance with iNvestors.
Having said that, I should clarify the difference between sincerity and
pressure. No woman likes a man to get in her face and be too intense at
first. Relax your body and face, respect her personal space, and use eye
contact to show her you are focused on her. This will intrigue her. More
than other types, this woman will look past any fashion mistakes you
commit because she is looking hard at your personality and energy –
she is trying to figure out what you will be like in the long-run.

Touch
Let’s look at a Hopeful Romantic’s 3 Personality Factors: she is more
interested in connection and authenticity rather than excitement and
novelty (N). She places a high value on sex and doesn’t like to rush
into intimacy (D). She has romantic ideals and wants to be swept
away in courtship.
This combination can create a tricky dynamic. In order to sweep her
off her feet, you must incorporate a good amount of touch – you must
protect and lead her. However, don’t go too far and come off “touchyfeely”
as this will signal to her that you just want to get laid. And, as will
all deniers, you have the most leverage if you can sleep with her quickly,
so touching is crucial.
Use a lot of protective touching – move her out of the way, pick lint
off her shirt, brush her hair from her face, and hold her hand when
crossing the street. Keep it light, short, but attentive. Being attentive to
her body and conveying that you care about her safety conveys that you
aren’t just there to “hit and run.” You are a guy that will last and be a
part of her life, because you truly care.

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The Cinderella (iNvestor – Justifier – Idealist)
Overview
What’s interesting about the Cinderella type is that she is likely
exceptionally beautiful and dresses in a way that is sexy, revealing, but
always classy and mature. She is a head-turner, and she knows what she
is doing. She wants to be as attractive as possible so she can snag a great
catch of a man.
If she does not have a man, she is looking for one. The irony is that often
the Cinderella is single. Adding another layer of irony is that most guys
assume she has a boyfriend because of her good looks, sexual-yet-classy
style, and extreme feminine energy.
But the Cinderella is often the victim of repeated heartbreak. She wears
her heart on her sleeve and lives in a world of hopes and ideals. She
doesn’t put up any walls to sleeping with a man if she likes him. To her,
it makes perfect sense to sleep with a man if she is secure that he’s not
going to run off. She is very passionate and heats up fast. Often this
passion gets her into trouble, because she is prone to sweet talk and will
let her emotions cloud her need to sort and pick the best man for the
long run.
If you can demonstrate that you have long-term potential, and you know
how to arouse a woman sexually, you will do well with Cinderella. If you
are timid sexually, or you appear dishonest about liking her as a person
first, she will cut her losses fast.

Her Desires
The Cinderella is looking for a combination of strength and sensitivity in
a man. She is less concerned with an exciting lifestyle or social dominance.
She responds powerfully to the strong silent type. She won’t take it for
granted when you reveal your hopes, fears, dreams and insecurities.
Just don’t get more emotional or insecure than she is. She needs to feel a
deeper strength underneath your vulnerabilities.
As an iNvestor, she is looking for something long-term. This doesn’t mean
she can’t be a casual sex-buddy. In fact, if you can perpetually create the
perception that your friendship could bud into something more serious,
she will have no problem sleeping with you without getting clingy.
She is a great girlfriend because she loves to have sex. She is extremely
sexual and will almost always be up for it. Your biggest challenge is
in conveying that you aren’t with her just for sex. That will be a major
reason for why you like her so much, but you must must must convey that
your primary reason for being with her is how feminine she is, and how
connected you feel to her.

How She Gets What She Wants
Her strategy for finding a guy changes depending on the time of the
month, and what she’s going through in her life at that time. She is either
sitting at home on Saturday night, or she is that girl in the club that every
guy is looking at but is scared to talk to.
When she is in a proactive mood, she will dress sexy and attract as many
bees to her honeypot as she can. She will then weed through and try to
find the guy that has the most boyfriend-potential. She is looking for
chemistry and a genuine interest in who she is as a person.
To the Cinderella, sex is like the conversation that keeps the relationship
going. It’s not a big deal – it’s natural, fun, and feels good. But it has to be
with the right guy – not someone who’s going to treat her like a conquest
and move on to the next woman. She can only let go with a guy she feels
will stick around.
The Cinderella has an old-fashioned perspective on gender roles. She
expects the man to pay for dates, at least at first, and she imagines herself
being a homemaker when she finds the right man to settle down with.
She is less concerned with status and achievement. She is a nurturer, and
contributes to her loved ones through emotional support and love.

Conversation
Ignition
The best way to approach the Cinderella type is to be direct, honest,
even self-effacing. I have a personal bias for this type, and I have great
success simply telling her that she is so cute I can’t even think straight
when I look at her. Any variation on this – where you are being honest
and direct, but not cocky or aggressive – is just the right mix to capture
her attention.
A genuine compliment works great, but a generic “you look hot” is too
generic. Don’t come off “player-ish.” Make her think you picked her
specifically out of the crowd.

Momentum
Immediately after breaking the ice, ask her questions about her life,
and relate with your own experiences. Keep a nice balance of give and
take, and keep your focus on how she thinks and feels about the topic.
Don’t get caught in logical facts – her Idealist side gets bored with that.
Focus on what makes her tick, and show her what makes you tick. This
appeals to her iNvestor strategy of finding a guy that wants to get to
know her over the long-term.

Connection
This woman gets turned on by talking about sex, and loves a man who
can match her in passion. She embraces a guy who knows how to turn
her on mentally, before she gets physical. To really engage this woman,
you must incorporate an element of sexuality in your conversation.
Obviously it’s good to do this within a couple minutes.
Use innuendo to create sexual tension. Ask her to tell you one of her
secret spots where she likes to be kissed. Ask her if she likes to have her
hair grabbed. Tell her you like how smooth her skin is and how you like
touching her. When you ask her about her hobbies and interests, phrase
it this way: “so what excites you? What are you passionate about?”

Physicality
Body Language
Strong eye contact is important, but don’t invade her personal space
initially. When you get the sense that she is interested, close the space
and create a bubble around the two of you with your focus.
A great way to do excite her is by tracing her neckline with your eyes –
look at all the little spots you want to kiss her along her shoulders and
neck. Do this as she talks, and then always return to her eyes.

Touch
Light touching on her arm or lower back is a good move at the
beginning. Let her know you are sexual, sensual, and know how to
touch a woman. This is very attractive and arousing.
As the interaction progresses, be really sensual. Trace your fingertips
on the insides of arm. Stroke her hair. Hold her hands gently while you
stand face to face and look into her eyes.
If you are dancing, move slow – at half-speed. Make her feel like you
and she are in a different world than everyone else.

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The Private Dancer (Tester – Denier – Realist)
Overview
Just like the other Tester-Denier type, the Private Dancer has two
sides to her personality. There’s the mysterious-yet-innocent exterior. And
there’s the passionate and sensitive woman inside. Only a select few get to
see this hidden part of her.
She keeps herself protected because she is a giver. When a man is special
to her, she gives him her all to contribute to his life and keep him happy.
She needs to play this role to feel fulfilled in a relationship. And this is why
she has to be very selective with who she gets intimate with. She doesn’t
want to give her gifts to a guy who doesn’t deserve them.
Now it may seem that this woman is more of an iNvestor, given the above
description. In fact, she is such an extreme iNvestor that she has to be a
Tester to protect herself. Some Testers are so, because they are running
from their own emotions. In this case, the Private Dancer is, consciously
or subconsciously, scared of her tendency to get extremely attached to a
man once she lets her guard down. So for now, she’s testing the waters,
dabbling in different men.
If you become intimate with a Dancer, you will find that she is extremely
giving sexually. It’s her nature to help and contribute. If you’re relationship
hasn’t become serious yet, she will still need to give. She will also jump at
the chance to cook for you, help you pick out clothes, or whatever she can
do to help out. This is her Realist nature – to nurture in concrete ways.
This also means that she is practical-minded, and keeps a lid on her
emotions most of the time. She is not overly sentimental. She also expects
you to reciprocate that care she gives to you, so don’t take her for granted.
She may seem cool and aloof, and this can frustrate a guy who falls for her
and wants something more serious and logn-term. But if not, she’s a great
casual lover and friend.

Her Desires
As a Tester, this woman is uncomfortable with too intensity and romance
at first. She would prefer to keep the conversation on situational topics
rather than getting too personal. She also needs a guy who is persistent
but not too sexual or aggressive. Sexual tension makes her uneasy as
she represses that side of herself throughout the day. Again this is a selfprotective
mechanism – there’s definitely a wild side to this woman.
She is extremely horny, but doesn’t show it. Often this is due to a lack of
sexual confidence. It’s not that she doesn’t know what she’s doing – it’s
that she doesn’t see herself as a sexual person. If you can be the guy to
build her confidence and sexual identity, she will be an extremely skilled
lover. She will learn how to do that special thing with her hips, or the
crazy tongue move, that drives you over the edge.
As a Denier, her ability to please you with such skill makes her feel closer to
you – only she knows what you like – hence the name “Private Dancer.”
Outside of the bedroom (or wherever you happen to be having sex), she
will play a very nurturing role. She may seem cool and lacking in passion
but that’s not the case. She thinks in practical terms. If you try to push
up behind her while she is cooking, she might shoo you away so she can
finish making dinner. You see, if she let herself get carried away, dinner
would be ruined and then you would starve! So let her cook, and take
care of you, and then after dinner she’ll show you a new trick she learned
to make you hard as a rock.

How She Gets What She Wants
The Private Dancer usually has a lot of guy friends, because she can
relate to the masculine way of thinking. She hates drama and thinks most
women are catty. Because of this, she meets a lot of men, and has a lot of
guys chasing her. There is something about her mysterious personality
that draws men in. And the fact that she can watch football and not ask
stupid questions makes her a great friend. If she’s hot, men see her as
having the best of both worlds.
Although not a prude, she doesn’t get too excited about sexual talk, and
may even get turned off if you try to make sexual innuendos or ask her
about her sex life. This is the part she keeps bottled up until the right guy
can push through her walls and open her up. This requires that you keep
an even keel, don’t come off as sexually pushy, and show her that the two
of you can do things together outside of the bedroom.
She is independent and career-oriented, at least until she is ready to
start a family (usually in her mid-to-late 30’s). She has her own life and
hobbies. But she loves to do contribute to yours, as long as she feels
appreciated. Never take this woman for granted, because she likely has
many other options. If she is pretty, she has many other guys vying for
her attention. The only problem is they are all trying to suck up to her,
take her out to dinner, spoil her. She doesn’t want this. That’s her job – to
spoil her man. If a man doesn’t let her do this, she will be unsatisfied.
If you can wrap your mind around that, you will be successful with the
Private Dancer.

Momentum
The Private Dancer is cool with talking about anything. She is like
one of your guy friends – any random topic is valid. Just don’t get too
psychological. Some women love to explore the way people think. To
a realist, concrete subjects are more interesting – travel, work, school,
sports, her dog, etc.
The main way to build momentum with the Dancer is to NOT say or do
anything sexual. This helps her feel at ease. Most guys screw this up.
She’ll actually respect you more if you can treat her like a person first –
a teammate and partner.
So to summarize – interact, keep things upbeat and in-motion, do
something physical if possible, and cut out all sexual intent.

Connection
The Private Dancer responds powerfully to the Us-frame. Create the
dynamic where you and she are a team, and whatever you are doing, be
successful at it. Roleplaying isn’t as effect because it’s fantasy. Actually
DOING something where you and she are working together is much
more powerful – remember, she’s a Realist.
Also, having a couple “episodes” will give her the sense that you and
she have been through a lot. Whereas an iNvestor wants depth, a Tester
wants breadth. Another way to think about this: an iNvestor would love
to sit on a quiet couch, sip her apple-tini, while the two of you share
your deepest passions.
A tester wants to get up and do something concrete and physical WITH
you. And she probably drinks beer.

Physicality
Body Language
You can probably see a trend with the Private Dancer: physical, nonsexual
teamwork.
This means you must carry yourself assertively. But this can be
counter-intuitive. A good leader knows when to delegate. Often times
the best way to lead and be dominant with a Private Dancer is to give
her a job to do. Asking for compliance right away is a great way to open.
But this requires you do so in a congruent, confident way. Be loud,
stand up straight, and talk like you expect people to listen. When you
ask her to do something, look her in the eyes. Don’t be bossy – act like
you are making the call for the sake of the “team.”

Touch
As with all Deniers, aggressive, sexual touching is not advised. But, as a
Tester, she does need an element of physicality to keep stimulated (you
do not want a Tester to get bored!)
High fives are great. Very light touches on her back to guide her around, or
any sort of protective touching, are great. For example a group of people
are walking past her, gently pull her close so she doesn’t get bumped.
Dancing is good too, as long as you don’t push your boner into her back.
Keep a little space and spin her around. This makes her feel beautiful
and boost her sexual confidence in a seemingly non-sexual way

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The Seductress (Tester – Justifier – Realist)
Overview
The Seductress is a Tester, Jusifier, Realist. This combination makes
her a very confident, sexual, independent woman. She is a Diva – not
in the dramatic sense (she is very level-headed) – but in the sense that
she is strong, sexy, and has a presence that intimidates a lot of men.
That’s good news for any guy reading this, as you can move forward
confidently. Simply understanding her and knowing how to handle her is
massively attractive, as she sees most men as weak and insecure. This is
very frustrating to her, as she is very horny, but also very career-focused.
She doesn’t have time to coddle egos. In sense, her attitude screens out
the weak.
If you can keep your cool, not get emotionally needy, and take care of her
needs sexually, she will be a wild woman – one of the all-time greats in
your little black book.
BUT, if you get upset when she is too busy to see you, or you appear
nervous when talking with her, she will move on. She is not the kind of
woman you can win back. Once she spots weakness, she is gone, and will
never see you the same way again.
This doesn’t mean she is cold-hearted. She just needs a man. You don’t
have to be super confident, or a stud in bed. You just have to keep your
cool, and be giving in bed. If you are inexperienced, this woman would
love to teach you how to please her.

Her Desires
Notice that most of this relationship is about sex. That’s because she
doesn’t have time for much else. She probably isn’t looking for anything
serious and thinks dating is silly. She wants a man who is her friend, her
homeboy, respects her time, admires her intelligence and talent, and fucks
her when she needs it. Not a bad job description…
Ironically, this is the best way to end up in a serious relationship with her.
And the relationship terms will be optimal if you are a guy who is on his
own path and has career and life goals. She won’t demand a lot of your
time. Mutual respect for each other’s goals is the foundation for a longterm
relationship.
She wants the ongoing experience of seducing you. She feels powerful
when she can use her beauty, energy, and skill to turn you on. She likes to
perpetually chase, but not in a schoolgirl way. Seducing a man is how she
gets her power fix. Throughout the week, she will need an ego boost, and
will need to feel sexy. She gets high knowing that a man is hungry for her,
not because he is just horny, but because of something she did to excite
him. WE have some some great techniques to get her in that state.

How She Gets What She Wants
The Seductress is surrounded by horny guys. She is sexy and confident,
and men are handing their balls over left and right (pun intended). This is
boring. She enjoys the attention to a degree – it’s better to be wanted than
unwanted. But she is looking for a guy that is a challenge.
The degree of chasing here is different from the Playette and the Social
Butterfly. You don’t have to tease her. You don’t have to play any games. By
staying calm and talking to her like a normal person (no lines, smooth talk,
or buying drinks), you look like a challenge simply by contrast (to all the
other clowns chasing her). Typically she will show interest in you at this
point. She has no problem taking the lead when she wants something (you).
The Seductress has no problem with sex. Her confidence in her ability to
seduce and satisfy a man eliminates any fear of appearing easy or slutty.
She’s not a slut, she’s a Seductress. A slut sleeps with men for attention.
She sleeps with men because she enjoys it. A slut gets used. A Seductress
uses men! As Charlie Sheen would say, that’s hot.
The Seductress may at some point want a family, but she knows that in
this day and age, a women can’t rely on men to support them. She believes
in being independent and paying her own bills. She is likely not going to
be satisfied staying home until after she’s had kids. However, as with all
women, she has the need to nurture her man in order to strengthen the
bond. She does this by helping in practical ways (Realist). She can help you
make professional connections to get your business off the ground. She
likely knows a lot of people and has a good amount of influence in her field.
Let her help you, challenge her to seduce you, never lose your cool, and
respect her.

Conversation
Ignition
An aggressive approach won’t work. But a confident approach will.
Remember what I said about confidence. She has seen it all, and she
knows the difference between a macho act and real emotional stability.
She knows the difference between cockiness and self-assuredness.
This means you should be very down to earth and casual in your
approach. She’ll wonder why you aren’t fawning over her like every
other guy. My favorite way to approach this type of women is to give
her a genuine compliment, but in a way that says I’m used to beauty
and it’s not a big deal.
For example, try locking eyes and telling her in a non-chalant tone, “you
look nice tonight.” Hold eye contact for one more beat, and look away.
Nice? NICE? I’m just NICE? Who is this guy?

Momentum
Like I said, it’s easy to garner the interest of the Seductress for two
reasons. First, she loves to chase, to seduce – it’s how she gets her
power fix. Second, every other guy is groveling to get in her pants.
So it’s simply a matter of not doing that. She will naturally want to
conquer you.
She interprets a man’s dominance by how comfortable he is making fun
of himself (and her, but to lesser degree). Talk openly about your goals,
failures, interests, and silly childhood memories, and your most recent
embarrassing moment. And ask about hers as well. Keep the topic on
passions, goals, and the mistakes that make us human.
One other thing – and this takes some experience to cultivate – pull
your attention away at key moments. Get the sense of when the average
guy (the old you) would try to make a move or try to say something
smooth and seductive, and instead, look away and relax your body.

Connection
The absolute best topic to talk about with the Seductress is sex. And
this is where you show your true colors. Where the average guy will
get overly excited about discussing sex with such a, well, sexy woman,
you keep your cool. She is always, ahem, sizing you up. There are some
things she’s looking for.
She wants to make sure you’re packing a good tool for the job. You don’t
have to be a pornstar, average, or even less-than average is fine, as long
as you know how to use it. She interprets boasting and cockiness as
overcompensation. But if you can laugh at yourself, it means you are
secure…which implies that you are confident about what you can offer
her sexually.
She needs to know that you have stamina. So don’t blow your load,
conversationally. Don’t convey that you are super interested in her.
Don’t get giggly and overly excited about sex. Talk about fucking women
as if you are talking about the weather – no, scratch that – your favorite
sports team. Here’s why.
She wants a man who is passionate. It’s no fun to give pleasure to
someone who is unresponsive. And it’s no fun to think your lover is
just going through the motions. She needs to know that once she turns
you on, you will be an animal. Convey this by discussing sex, goals, and
everything else, with enthusiasm.
Notice the difference between being horny and passionate. If you
are telling her about how much you love to watch a woman’s ass
bounce when you fuck her from behind, talk about it with feeling and
excitement. But give no indication that you plan on doing this to her.
She will WANT to be on the receiving end of your passion, and will want
to MAKE you want to give it to her (and she’s wonderfully frustrated as
to why you don’t already).
The last thing she is looking for is a giver. Men are selfish – she knows
because she’s had a lot of them. She doesn’t need you to be an expert
on cunnilingus, but she needs to know that you will ravish her body,
because she is sexy, and she deserves it, dammit!

Physicality
Body Language
One word: mysterious. When you make eye contact, hold it for one extra
beat than would be “platonic” or polite. Then look away. It’s kind of like
you are saying, with in that one brief moment, “You want me.”
Keep a calm, slightly mischievous look on your face, as if you know
something no one else does, and you are holding back a secret smile.
You aren’t fooled by her swagger. You know she’s a sex kitten and just
dying to sink her claws into you.
Find that distance between up close and personal, and distant and
uninterested. Stay there. She is highly charged, and very aware of your
body and proximity. That mid-zone is in between the +/- so that’s
where the electricity happens.
Don’t get caught looking at her ass or tits. Boring, she thinks. She knows
that good foreplay starts everywhere else. Let her catch you glancing at
her neckline, her lips, her wavy and wild mane of black hair. Think about
how much fun it’d be to grab a handful. She can see it in your eyes.
Why isn’t he making a move? I know he wants me..doesn’t he? I will have
to work for this one!

Touch
Keep your touch light and subtle. She is a very physical woman and
would certainly let you manhandle her. But that would kill the tension.
A man who understands sexual tension, and can handle the electricity
in the air is sooo sexy to the Seductress. She’s dying to seduce you and
find out what you are like in bed.
Treat your touch like a tease. Every once in a while, graze her hand with
yours. If you are standing close to her (e.g. in a crowded bar or club),
let your crotch press against her hip or butt for a brief moment. If you
speak into her eye, make sure she feels your breath against her neck.
Any incidental brushing against her breasts or ass is extremely exciting,
as long as you don’t linger, because then you’ve given yourself away.
Subtle smell her, but don’t say anything. She can feel it.

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The Connoisseur (iNvestor – Denier – Realist)
Overview
The Connoisseur, as will other Deniers we’ve examined, has an
interesting contrast. She is extremely picky, and also has a very practical
and cautious approach to dating. This may seem like a challenge to most
guys. Any difficulty posed by the Connoisseur is outweighed by her
susceptibility to see your sex as a reward for her non-sexual effort.
Like the other Denier-Realist, she is a giver. She sees her time with you
as a gift that she can’t just give away to anyone. You must be special,
because as a Denier, sex is special (to a Justifier, sex is fun). But, in
contrast to the Private Dancer (TDR), she is inclined to invest in her
relationship with you. A Tester will hold back and protect her emotions.
An iNvestor will dive in and contribute heavily in the relationship,
emotionally and otherwise.
This is great if you want her to be your girlfriend. She will be devoted,
caring, and make real contributions to your life. While some woman are
great in bed, but prove incompetent at other basic tasks (like following
driving directions, cooking a meal, or operating a computer), the
Connoisseur is capable, competent, and is a damn fine chef (or at least has
the potential to be).
The challenge is that once she lets you get close and she begins sleeping
with you, she is likely to get very attached. This is common in both
iNvestor-Denier types. The good news is that her Realist side understands
that getting too clingy will likely push you away. She doesn’t fool herself
when it comes to men – she knows that a man needs freedom, and if she
can keep her desire to attach herself to you within reasonable control, you
will see her value in short time.
She doesn’t like to chase a man. She wants to be pursued and swept off
her feet (N+D). Because she is a Denier, this can be done sexually, as
sex is sacred and carries emotional weight. So when you sleep with the
Connoisseur, she will feel much closer to you.
This brings me to why she is so susceptible to the dynamic of earning
sex from you. Sex equates to emotional connection. And that’s what she’s
after. As a Realist and iNvestor, she is inclined to work, to contribute, to
invest in very practical, concrete ways. This translates to you never having
to work for sex or try to seduce her. She seduces herself.
An example to illustrate:
She cooks you a great meal. You clean your plate, tell her how good the
food was, and proceed to kiss her neck. You give her little body a workout,
and hold her after, telling her how she treats you so good. Your sex was
her reward for being a good woman.
Another example:
You were out of town on business. Before you board the plane to come
home, you call her to say that you had a long weekend, and you need her
to come over and relax with you because you miss her energy. Notice the
phrase “need her.” This is what motivates her. She sits behind you and
rubs your back while you watch Sportscenter. You lay back and she begins
rubbing your chest. You tell her how good she is at touching you. She gives
you a slow, loving blowjob, and you fuck her like you haven’t seen her in
years. She earned it.

Her Desires
Her ideal man is one that needs her. She needs a man she can help,
nurture, and even save. It’s not for him, it’s for her. She needs to do this.
This means it’s absolutely crucial that she not only feel needed, but also
appreciated. You don’t have to do a ton of “stuff” for her. Little gestures
are nice, but more than anything, she needs to hear the words: “You are so
good to me,” “I miss you,” “You are the most caring woman I’ve ever met.”
It can be easy to take advantage of this woman. She may appear flexible.
She probably won’t speak up if she is upset about you seeing other
women. She will try to tell herself that one day you will choose to only be
with her. But don’t think for a second that it doesn’t hurt her when she
spends her evening making you feel good, and then you don’t call her the
next day.
Don’t get me wrong – she loves to take care of you. But this makes her
vulnerable to the pain of not having it reciprocated. This does NOT mean
she needs you to be her boyfriend or commit exclusively to her. Labels
and obligations don’t motivate Realists. She just needs to know that you
appreciate her, you won’t abandon her, and you are thinking about her.
Calling her your girlfriend is not a substitute for these things.
As long as she can be the nurturing, helpful woman she wants to be,
around you, and you appreciate her for it, she will be OK with keeping
things casual and open. Obviously she will be overjoyed to be your only
woman if that’s what you want.

How She Gets What She Wants
The Connoisseur looks for long-term potential. Not a boyfriend, per
se, but a guy who is interested in her as a person, not just for sex. This
ensures that you will be a part of her life after she sleeps with you. As a
Denier, it’s that “sleeping with you” part that the crux of the situation.
She has a Realistic perspective on men, so she knows that if she sleeps
with you too fast, she will devalue herself in your eyes. This ruins the
possibility of her gaining your devotion.
This is the type of woman most likely to cry after sex, because it is a very
emotional ordeal for her. If you frame sex as being something you get from
her, she will feel that she has lost her power. If you frame sex as something
you give to her because she has earned it, you will side-step her fear of
appearing cheap and easy.
Sex itself is an investment, as is all the time she spends with you. She
feels vulnerable sexually. You must build her sexual confidence so that
she feels like she has some power, not like a helpless victim. If you can
get her to initiate sex, and do things to turn you on, she will begin to
feel empowered. But don’t forget that she sees the relationship through
an iNvestor’s eyes. Everything she does, even it is to seduce you, is an
investment she can’t take back.
Counteracting her emotional sensitivity is the fact that she has a career,
works hard, and is likely financially independent. She doesn’t look to
men to support her. She can do that herself. She wants ONE MAN who
appreciates her. At the same time, she understands that we are not in
the 1950’s anymore, and most relationships start out casual and light.
She is probably cool with keeping things open, although she may be
uncomfortable with this at first. Essentially this woman performs a
balancing act between iNvestor-Denier, and Realist.

Conversation
Ignition
A direct, sincere compliment is a great way to approach the
Connoisseur. She wants to know that you are focused on her and that
you picked her specifically. If you say something too sexual, she will
think you are a player, out to get laid (she’s a Denier, and most Deniers
have a cynical view of men’s sexual intentions).
Get as specific as you can – look for something she is wearing, or
something she clearly put thought into when she got ready for the
night. If you are approaching her on the street or a café, tell her
you couldn’t take your eyes off her as soon as you noticed her. But
then quickly move to less romantic conversation before she gets
uncomfortable with the sexual tension.

Momentum
This woman has goals, and is proud of the fact that she can support
herself, or is going to school for a career she is passionate about. Ask
her about this, and share your own passions. Talking about work and
school is not boring to a Realist, as long as you focus on how she thinks
and share how you think. This is what an iNvestor looks for – she
wants to get to know you, and she wants you to get to know her. That
way she can decide if there’s a future for the two of you.This is pretty
straightforward.

Connection
DO something physical together, where you are on the same team or
share a mutual goal. This is a good way to get physical without being
too sexual (Denier). It also conveys long-term potential because you
make a good team (iNvestor). And, as a Realist, doing actual concrete
activities (versus exploring ideas and roleplaying) fits with her
worldview of how relationships should be. More on this in the “Touch”
subsection.
Another great way to connect with the Connoisseur is by talking about
how the two of you can contribute to each other’s lives. For example, if
you read a book about sales, and she is involved in marketing, tell her
what you learned. If she has an area of expertise you find interesting,
have her teach you what she knows.
The interaction may feel a little platonic at times during the first couple
conversations, but as long as you were direct about being attracted to
her at first, she will perceive as leading towards a romantic outcome.
Be patient, but once you get her alone, don’t miss any opportunities to
take things to the next level.

Physicality
Body Language
Strong eye contact is necessary with iNvestors. But don’t be too flirty
with Deniers. Look into her eyes when you talk, and when she talks,
look into hers. She is probably laid back – not a high-energy party girl.
The Connoisseur is often intelligent and creative – an artistic type. She
may feel like she is an outsider, or not quite like everyone else. She will
be less inclined to let go and be silly.
Adapt to this by having very relaxed and unassuming body language.
You are interested in her, but there is no pressure. As you get to know
her she’ll feel invested. There’s no need to rush. No fancy moves,
or overly confident posturing. If she sense you are acting through a
persona, she will rule out the possibility of an authentic bond, and thus
any further contact with you.

Touch
Keep the touching light and situational. As always, be protective. But
don’t linger. Use your touch for practical reasons. Touching her just
because you like to touch her is way too sexual in nature.
Brushing a piece of lint off her shirt, taking her coat off for her, pulling
her close when people pass by, and holding her hand to move to
another area are all fine. But again, DON’T LINGER. The main mistake
guys make with this type of woman is LOOKING at their hand when
touching her. Do not do this. She will immediately see you as trying to
get sneak a touch in.

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The Modern Woman (iNvestor – Justifier – Realist)
Overview
The Modern Woman is a cool chick. She is independent, probably has a
good job or has ambitious goals, and she takes dating with a grain of salt. She is
not cynical, and she enjoys men, but she doesn’t get too serious unless she feels
there’s a reason to. Essentially, she has a very healthy, real-world approach to
dealing with men.
She hopes to one day meet a guy for a long-term relationship. She may even
have a boyfriend at the moment. But she is also comfortable with casual fun.
If she’s not in a committed relationship, she probably has a couple “friends”
she sleeps with regularly. More commonly, she has one “friend” that she’s
been sleeping with for a while. This is good news for you because she is not
exclusive, and therefore is willing to try someone new, at least for a little while.
However, remember that she is an iNvestor, and if she likes a guy, she will want
to focus on him and develop the relationship. If she’s sexually unsatisfied, she
is very open to giving you a chance. If she is satisfied, but is not exclusively
committed to the guy, she will be open to dating you to see if there’s more
chemistry than what she currently has.
She may sound too good to be true – she’s level-headed, rational, sexual, and
yet not overly promiscuous – but we’ve found that the Modern Woman is
relatively common. More woman are thinking like this these days – especially
women in their mid-to-late twenties who have some dating experience under
their belt. In 2010, almost all women have a little Modern Woman in them.

Her Desires
The Modern Woman wants a man with goals, a strong sex drive, and likes
her for who she is as a person first and foremost. You don’t have to be rich,
super successful, or smart. You just have to be going somewhere in life,
and have your basic affairs in order.
You don’t have to be extremely good looking or great in bed. But you should
be in decent shape, and dress moderately well. In bed you must focus on
making sure she is satisfied as much as she focuses on satisfying you.
Her biggest turn offs are:
1. Selfishness – she has high self-esteem and won’t put up with a guy
who doesn’t value her or treat her with respect.
2. Lack of direction – why would she want to attach herself to a man
who is going nowhere?
3. Neediness – if she is attractive, she has men clamoring to get in her
pants. If she is cool and confident, she has men also clamoring to
be her boyfriend. She has goals, a job/working on her degree, and
doesn’t have time to babysit other grown-ups.
If you are a solid guy, she has no reason NOT to sleep with you. It’s fun,
and as long you use protection, why not? Usually, her relationships start
out as a casual sexual friendship. If there is sexual chemistry, and your
life-paths don’t diverge too sharply, this friendship will develop into
something more.

How She Gets What She Wants
If she is single and horny, she will put herself out there. She will dress sexy,
go out with the girls, and put herself into a position to be approached. She
will try a variety of activities to meet men and socialize, like volunteering
and charity events, coed sports clubs, joining a gym, dance classes, etc. Not
only is she bettering herself, but she might meet a guy she really likes. And
even if he isn’t “the one” she might get some good sex out of it!
She has no qualms about sleeping with a man relatively quickly. But she has
low tolerance for selfishness. She is not cool with being used. She wants a
man to treat her body good. If you can give her a pleasurable experience the
first time, she will want to do it again. This doesn’t mean you have to give
a pornstar performance. To the Modern Woman, good sex is about being
attentive to her body and her responses, being giving, and keeping the energy
fun and positive. Make her feel sexy, don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself.
Ultimately she wants to meet the right guy, if she hasn’t already. She may
start to worry about this as she nears or passes the age of 30. But she
has enough going in her life to feel good about herself, whether she has a
serious boyfriend or not.
One thing to remember here – and this is true of all women – dishonesty
kills attraction. Not only does it mean she can’t trust you, but it is also
insulting and makes you look weak. The Modern Woman wants you to be
a Modern Man. Be honest about who you are and what you want. Odds are
she isn’t much different, will be cool with any relationship terms as long
as she gets to have her fun too. Most men are dishonest and manipulative
with women because they don’t understand them. By being honest and
authentic in your dealings with women, you will appear bold, confident,
and knowledgeable about the opposite sex.

Conversation
Ignition
As a Justifier, the Modern Woman is interested in your sexual potential,
as well as your level of confidence. The best way to convey both is by
being direct and honest in your approach. She likes knowing that you
chose her – to an iNvestor, your interest in her is exciting.
A specific compliment works great, or simply tell her you think she
is gorgeous (or cute, or breathtaking…just don’t say “hot” – it’s too
generic and high school-ish). A comment or joke, or question all work
great too, but be sure to lock eyes with her as you say it.
It’s not hard to approach this type of woman because she likes meeting
men! You may at times meet one that is in a bad mood or simply not
interested for whatever reason. That’s ok, there are plenty more out
there. Cut your losses and stay positive about the process.

Momentum
The combination of iNvestor-Justifier makes this woman fun to talk
to. She likes to talk about sex and responds well to flirting. She can
probably hold her own with deeper conversation. The best way to
engage her attention is to ask her about how she thinks about the topic.
For example, if she tells you she is a nurse, ask her why she went into
that field.
If she is out with friends, ask what they are celebrating, and find out
how they all met. Have a couple interesting questions in your toolbelt.
Ask her about something fun she did recently, or something she’s
looking forward to in the near future. Talk about music – music is a
big part of the Modern Woman’s life. What does she listen to when she
works out? When she’s relaxing? What are her new favorites?

Connection
Connecting with the Modern Woman happens naturally as long
as you are curious about her, and you balance her interest in her
with showing her who you are. The most attractive element in this
interaction is chemistry and this occurs when two people are being
real with each other.
It may sound simple and obvious, but the fact is, most guys are NOT
like this with attractive women. So, you score huge points simply
by contrast. Tell her stories from your life, tell her about your goals,
what you like in women, and people in general, and don’t hide from
sexual topics.

Physicality
Body Language
The best way to have great body language is to a) relax your body, and
b) look happy. This does not mean slouch or slump. Just loosen up and
be comfortable. Looking happy doesn’t mean walking around with a
cheese-grin. It means smiling, laughing, and generally having a calm,
pleasant facial expression.
Again – sounds overly basic, but most men walk around looking
nervous and unfriendly when in the presence of attractive women.
Notice guys hanging out with attractive women – they look relaxed and
happy. Not rocket-science, but extremely effective.
Dressing well and grooming yourself are also important. Look clean, and
wear up-to-date styles. Pick colors that look good with your skin, and
wear clothes that fit your build. (This is fundamental with all women.)

Touch
Try to keep your touch as a reward for her personality. This is about
timing. If she says something funny or interesting, show that she has
impressed you by touching her arm or back. This is crucial with iNvestors.
Remember that Testers like to be touched because the sitatuation calls for
it. With iNvestors, the reason for you touching her is her.
She is a Justifier, which means she is highly sexual already. And to
a woman, good sex is about foreplay. And good foreplay is about
sensuality and attentiveness. So when you touch the Modern Woman,
have a soft, but appreciative energy. Not too light or timid, but not too
aggressive and grabby. She likes to be touched.
You can also get her to touch you. Have her scratch your back, or hold
her hand as you guide her to another area. She likes to hold hands, she
likes men’s bodies, and she likes to be manhandled in moderation. As
always, use protection as a reason to touch her.
She is confident and independent, but she still needs to feel safe and
cherished in the presence of a man

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youre right - very longg indeed

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nice. is that a compliment or what? haha

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fucking golden!

thx mate, I know what to read over and over the next days

I'm curious Eyyt....

I'm not calling you out but...

This is similar in theme to Robert Greene's the art of seduction. The problem with going into female archtypes (NLP is also a victim of this) is that there literally no lay report examples to back up these approaches and to give newbies an idea of where to start. Robert Greene in his book is just stating philosophy, you can't really go "Oh, that woman is a Dreamer, so I'll do x and y and it'll actually have a stronger effect than if I had just approached her normally".

Have you found that these types you've listed for us have actually helped you in getting lays or is it just unnecessary icing on the cake for women you would have had sex with anyways without using these scripts?

Yeah, thanks. For that, i will make a lay report using this. This is only a guide so that PUAs will know the do's and dont's. anyways, i will post a link after i have documented my lay.

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It's easier mastering your own mind, actually. /inner game ftw/

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