My GF of almost 5 years ended the relationship early this summer. I am still heartbroken, although I escape the heartbreak doing other cool things. Among those things is PU artistry, either alone or with a new friend. I've picked up a few numbers here and there, but no KCs or FCs yet.

What I wonder is how I can best make my ex realize that she ended a relationship with a great guy. I want her to miss me, if possible. I am not sure I want to go back to a relationship with her, probably not, but I want her to want me back. I realize that this is difficult, but do you have any general tips? We are on fairly good terms. She knows the break-up was difficult for me in the first weeks, but she doesn't know it still hurts.

Seriously mate, its natural for you to feel this way, but just get on with your life, its cliche but there are plenty more fish in the sea, perhaps you should look for women from different countries, get on with your life, get in good shape, take up a new hobby, find something you enjoy. She is not going to find you attractive again because of sympathy for you, women don't find men they pity, attractive.

It's going to be a blow, but disassociate yourself with her, you are your own man !

the question is do you want to be stuck in the past or move forward with your life. if you want to be stuck in the past then do what your doing, you going to look needy and stuck with oneitis or you can move forward and move on with your life. forget about her and find another girl a better girl.

i ve been there stuck in a rut wondering why did you leave me? then i decided to draw a line in the sand and move forward

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You guys gave some typical answers. I thought I'd be annoyed about that, but I'm not. I think those are pretty good answers, and I appreciate your help. I have taken up some things to do: better focus at university, PUA, building some muscle and weight. I also want to get into some guitar and salsa dancing if I can find the patience to learn them. Maybe get back into TaeKwon-Do.

It is true that I am needy and weak right now when it comes to her. I have been since the break up. We lived together for 2.5 years. It is funny that you mention girls from different countries, because I have a date set up for this week. My ex is russian, while this new girl is thai. I am neither of those nationalities.

I try to move on. The last 4-5 weeks I have resisted telling her how I feel every time I want to. I am happy about that. Once I tell her, I can't go back to not having told her. Even if I told her, it would be more for my own healing than a hope of getting back together though.

she probably already realizes this... she dated you for 5 years, it was probably tough for her to break up with you


what makes you think she doesn't?


go have sex with 10 new women, when you no longer think about her, and she sees you again and she is not your focus, and your life has improved, that outta do the trick, but as long as she is your focus and you want her, this won't happen, and pretending you don't want her when you do, won't work, she will see right through it

GOOD LUCK

It is strange how I rationally know that she isn't really good enough for me, but my emotions tell me to just go get her. I admit that I am afraid of her getting another boyfriend. I also have to admit that I have one-itis, even though I am interrested in other women when I see them. I guess the trick is to just gradually rid myself of the disease by involving myself in self-developing interrests, friends, PUA-stuff and women. If she sees me improving myself and truly enjoying other women, friends, developing myself and life, she might want to get back in touch. It is hard to get into the frame where I don't care about her at all, but that is what I need to do.

Anything to add?

when she assumes your life is better then hers, that is your ticket, but you have to believe it too, and right now you don't, you believe your life is better with her, rather then your life is better without her, change this, and fix the problem, also those emotions will subside once you have invested emotionally into a new girl, so sex asap is probably going to help more then hobbies

Looks like the supreme way forward is to continue on the PUA-path then. I am probably just an hour away from messing up my first date since the break-up (my-first-d2-cute-thai-chick-vt143575.html), but I am going out with a PUA friend again today, so I'm not too worried. I am nervous about this date though, which is good, since it makes me think of this new girl rather than my ex.

The way to make her jealous is to move on, and stop caring.

If you still care, she still has control over you. She gets to move on, meet other guys, sleep with them, and when it doesn't work out, she can say "at least 'Direction' is still into me, so I can't be that bad". You get to be her ego boost, the backup plan that gives her security that she never uses.

How can she ever miss you if you're still around?

Move on, bro. Start dating. You don't even have to try very hard, or be very public about it. If you're dating girls, and you're no longer asking about your ex, that's the only thing that will make her miss you.

You are going to hear a lot of "get over her" are you a fucking alpha male or what? First of go find your balls ok.....found them? alright lol

If you want this girl then I say go take her, yes there are other women in the world but if this is the girl you want to be with and she makes you happy than there is nothing wrong with that. My fear is that you have an inner game issue? and don't understand that there are more fish in the sea? but if you disagree then Il tell you what you need to do?

Call this girl up, ask her how she has been, don't tell her how much you like her just tell her "I have not seen you in a while, what day are you free next week? I am taking you out" If she doesn't think its a good idea say something like "I did not know you gave up having fun? that to bad because we were going to have a lot of it! (laugh)", If she agree's to meet with you start gaming her again, talk with her about the good times, but don't come off as needy.

It simple you want her back grow balls and just go for it! what do you have to loose? nothing! if she turns you down who cares? then you are left in the same place you are now, and you go find a new gf.

p.s if she says no to the date then don't talk to her, date other women and move on. Stop listening to depressing music and get out of your room! go have fun!