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iam fuzz
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 Posted: Sun Sep 02, 2007 3:58 am Post subject: Longest you can wait before you call |
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As the title states. How long is TOO long? Why?
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xxIcexx
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| Posted: Sun Sep 02, 2007 4:36 am Post subject: |
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for me i call whenever i feel like it
i dont believe that 2 day rule or whatever it is
if im bored i call...if i have free time i call
if i think shes interested in me, i might not even call |
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BlackBull
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| Posted: Sun Sep 02, 2007 4:55 am Post subject: |
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When's the next full moon?
Naw,dont call within the first day,but give it 5 hours-2 days,depending on her interest,attitude,and your schedule and patience. |
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iam fuzz
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| Posted: Sun Sep 02, 2007 5:17 am Post subject: |
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To be honest. Ive got these two prospects.
HB8 = the girl from class (said i could help her with hw and working out, has bf)
HB9 = the girl from gym
I dont really know when i want to hang out with either of them. I got both their numbers on friday.
I was thinking that i MAY want to call the HB9 on monday since its a holiday, but she was a hard # close. So maybe i should wait until next weekend? Thoughts?
When i was gaming the HB9, she said she had just finished a relationship. When i walked her to her car and asked for her #, she said she couldnt give it to me because she was in a relationship and her bf wouldnt like that. I leave and she stays in her car for 7min and i come back, talk, and get her #.
Later i hear that she DOESNT have a bf from another source. So maybe she said that she has a bf as a defense... i cant be sure at all.
Thoughts?
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k-loc
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| Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 4:00 am Post subject: |
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| This' my theory. One shouldnt wait too long 'cause you run the risk of the hb becoming unacquainted with you and it becomes a bit accward trying to recapture or bring up memories from the initial cono'. That phenomenon could occur within 2 days(or longer). The again, to call within 2 days may seem needy. Personally, I evaluate the target and how sprunged she was from the initial convo. If I know that she's unequivocally attracted to me, shit, I may call her the same night to set up a meet since I didnt opt for an instant date!!! |
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| Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 11:10 am Post subject: |
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| Most of the time I don't bother calling them back. When I do it's usually the next day. At the moment I'm just practicing number closes so I'll delete them in the morning. |
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Lil-magnet
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| Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 2:46 pm Post subject: Anytime |
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| If I AM INTERESTED... Ill text soemthing about what has been talked about same day/as they are standing there during our talk. Also checked for a flake number. If I am only casually intrested I call when I've got nothing else to do. If they have given me their numbe without me asking. Slipped a nimber took my phone. I may never call, or take as long as I want. |
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Chino Kapone
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| Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 4:49 pm Post subject: |
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| I was really cocky funny with this girl the night I met her... also probably pretty drunk (no surprise there)... anyway..... 8 days is how long it took for me to contact her. She said she was going to come into my store the week she met me and never did. So I didnt want to call/text her before she came in. When she didnt come in I texted her and just negged her about her flaking. Worked out well.... |
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| Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 4:53 pm Post subject: |
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| If it's a completely cold approach and there's no other reason you'd have contact again (unlike in the post above, where she said she was gonna come into the store later that week), then I wouldn't wait more than a week if it was a really good connection and no more than 4 days if it was just an ok connection. |
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| Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 6:41 pm Post subject: a fox in the room |
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hi guys,
So my answer is a little dif because I am a woman (yaaay! ) and I can assure you from the tips of my toes that I am not here to infiltrate or otherwise f*&%-up a good thing y'all have going.
I have been working with pick-up type classes for years as a coach in San Francisco. As a result I am a HUGE advocate for guys in this kind of "study". I get where you're coming from; I know how crazy and confusing women can be; how they say one thing and mean something else, etc etc etc. * and *
I totally want you to get what you want with the ladies.
So I'll just tell you how it is for me, and take what you like and forget the rest. For whatever its worth, I hope it helps you get great girls, and make them and yourself very very happy. And I hope I don't get kicked off, because I want to be here and play with y'all.
If I resisted giving a guy my number, especially if I lied and hinted that I have a bf or some other reason why I couldn't give it, I am never going to answer the phone when this guy calls me. I may even save his name as "Do not answer"
If I can't feel a guys presence in a way that moves me or turns me one when I first meet him, its not likely I am going to want to talk on the phone and keep trying. Unless I am in a really chatty mood or wanting some guy to reassure me about something, but ultimately, I won't be treating him with respect of interest. I'll be in charge and neither of us will like that.
So why did I give the number? Well, Its really hard for a girl to say no sometimes. Thats why lots of pick up stuff works, right? But if I reluctantly gave my number, I can't imagine any good coming out of that.
If I feel a little moved and kinda curious and give my number to a guy, I'll be happier if he texts me, rather than calls. And not something generic like "hi cutie" but something that really engages me in a real way, or is a little mysterious. Basically, its like i want him to approach again, and really get my attention, but use the phone as a tool to do it. If he tells me to call him back, I'll get annoyed that he thinks he can tell me what to do when I'm not even that interested. From there, the situation needs escalation, not overt leading and power/attention struggles. Ewe.
If I'm a bit giddy when giving my number, (aka shy), I go home and hope hope hope he'll call and be as interesting on the phone as in person. If it was that he was sexy in person, I hope he'll be that and more in person. If he was funny in person, I hope he'll be that and more on the phone.
Basically, the phone is a tool to continue the approach and escalate the attraction. I get a little annoyed to think of phone numbers as the close. Fer f*&^k's sake, it's the opening to see if you can really go further, IMHO.
I want to see how he can use his tool (duh, the telephone gentlemen) to show me he is the guy I have been wanting. |
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