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Vic Vega
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 Posted: Wed Jul 23, 2008 4:59 am Post subject: kiss close that leads to nothing? what did i do? |
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heres my situation
this HB8 that i know in my social circle has given me these IOIs for a few weeks and i even got a number-close one time
(i never ever call her though, the reason is that i know she fools around a lil bit and the truth is that i just wanna f-close, i dont need a relationship with this girl, so i dont ever call)
a buddy of mine decides to have a beer pong tournament, so all our friends are over there and im talkin to the HB8 about random things and i kino here and there, and even AMOGed a few dudes (in case nobody knows, the way we play beer pong is there are 2 players to a team, and for this tournament each team throws in $10)
unfortunately my partner doesnt show up so i get the HB8 to be my partner, but her money is in her car
we talked a lil bit more, then i suggested we go get the money. she agrees and we head out to her car
we get in and she turns on some music
HB8: this is blah blah, do you like this song?
ME: yea its alright
(i look at her up and down)
ME: would you kiss me right now?
(we made out a lil bit...then she hands me a 5 and we head in)
what the hell?.....from then on there was no more interest from her, i havent called her since then either...could it be that im a bad kisser? but then again i was fairly drunk at that point
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MackB
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| Posted: Wed Jul 23, 2008 5:05 am Post subject: |
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Could be a number of reasons. Could of been being a bad kisser. Some of my lady friends judge a lot on the kisses.
Send her a text and invite her to your place, and just f-close her, just because you call or text her, doesn't mean your in a relationship.
were you needy after? or ignoring her? |
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Vic Vega
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| Posted: Wed Jul 23, 2008 6:01 am Post subject: |
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i definately wasnt needy but i didnt totally ignore her
whats funny is that i'd be doing my thing and look over and she would be surrounded by AFCs and she'd look at me and i'd smile and she'd smile back
one of my problems that i have, which doesnt have much to do with picking girls up is that i live far away, like 45 minutes away (ive known these ppl since high school and my parents sent me and my brother to a private school that just happened to be far away) so getting girls to come over is a little difficult....even getting one of my friends to come over is a challenge
but i appreciate the input Mack B
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Illusun
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Also, never kiss on the the girls terms. Don't ask her permission. Just do it. It's not the worst mistake in the world but that's one thing you did wrong.
My guess is you were, to her, a bad kisser. Most of the time that just means your kissing styles didn't match up. For the most part the biggest difference between a good kisser and a bad kisser is a bad kisser only has one style. A good kisser adapts and matches the style of the girl. |
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frogga
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| Illumin wrote: | Also, never kiss on the the girls terms. Don't ask her permission. Just do it. It's not the worst mistake in the world but that's one thing you did wrong.
My guess is you were, to her, a bad kisser. Most of the time that just means your kissing styles didn't match up. For the most part the biggest difference between a good kisser and a bad kisser is a bad kisser only has one style. A good kisser adapts and matches the style of the girl. |
nah that was good. It is one of the ways to k-close. Lots of PUA's suggest this line.
If it's a yes-kiss her
Maybe- Kiss her anyway
No- say "i didnt say you could. It looked like there was something on your mind"
I think that this chick may not have taken you seriously becuase you were drunk. Try talking and meeting her when your sober |
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rexlexia
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| From the sounds of things I'm guessing that you either failed to properly escalate kino, didn't build enough comfort, or both. Next time you see her I'd suggest doing a complete reset, beginning at DHVs. Then just run your normal game again: isolate, build comfort, etc. Try to control the pace of the kino. |
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